Hello, I am a 38 year old male, in London, UK. I am pleased to find this community as it seems to have lots of real life examples and advice. I have recently (last few weeks) started chastity with my long term female partner. Previously we had tried (and I had failed) at the honour system and devotional sex. But this was a useful prelude as it introduced ideas such as tease and denial, not cumming every time, putting the lady first etc. so having a cage and her having the key is a big step, but less of a plunge. Currently experimenting with different cages to get the most comfortable and most secure (but it seems that none are 100% secure). Using steel Chinese versions. The plastic ones where a nightmare with chafing for me. My partner has taken to it well - better than I thought. I think that she enjoys the power and having me extra motivated to please her, by being more tactile, romantic etc.