I've been lurking a few weeks and found this site while searching for some sort of chastity device for myself. I was really delighted and surprised to find such a supportive community with such lovely people! I wanted to speak up sooner but wasn't really sure how to introduce myself, as I'm not quite sure how I fit in at this point. But I don't want to be rude and continue to lurk when everyone else is so open and friendly. I wasn't originally thinking of using a chastity device in terms of a lifestyle. I was considering it as a safety measure to prevent myself from pouncing on the object of my desire the next time I see him and completely fucking things up. This particular man is just too important to me to behave recklessly. I'm not always so wild, but he's very special to me and I know I wouldn't be able to resist him without taking extraordinary measures. But at this point, we're not a couple, so I don't technically have a playmate. I really want to explore this lifestyle, though. Before visiting CM, I hadn't understood how much chastity can enhance a sexual and/or love relationship. I was totally clueless about that and have a lot to learn. So thank you all very much for sharing your experiences and allowing me to see these beautiful new love colors that I hadn't ever seen before. And... if anyone has a suggestion for a device that I could wear short-term for maybe up to 12 hours, I'd really appreciate it. It doesn't have to be bullet-proof, but it should be problematic to defeat. Thank you!