Hello, I have my bf in a chastity device it's taken us several months and several devices to find one that we are happy that I know he can't slip out of and one that doesn't pinch his skin, etc. My bf was the one that brought up the topic of chastity and I'm relatively new to it but really love him being locked up. I'm not someone who is natural confident and not very good with words especially speaking them. What seems to be called a vanilla life. If anyone has any advice,experience and/or knowledge to share it would be much appreciated. Or any suggestions as to where a good place to start to looking for anything that might be helpful to me. Thanks, Kelly
Welcome Kelly! Happy to hear you two are enjoying yourselves and making it work. Reading through the female led relationships and key holding forums is a good place to start. They're great places to ask specific questions too from your point of view. Otherwise start figureing out what you want from your chaste man and getting it from him in his frustrated but dedicated state. Suffice to say you have many options and all the power at your fingertips or wherever else you keep the key
My advice is don’t fall into the trap of getting too focused on making it fun for him. Make sure you are having fun and enjoying it.
Welcome! There are many discussions here and lots of positive advice. I’m about a year in and still am learning a lot. This site has been truly helpful. Once you go chaste, vanilla goes to waste. Lol
Welcome!! You should be able to find lots of help here. Lots of information and amazing people that love chastity. Christina
As @KatlynAshe mentioned before you should definitely check out the Female Led Relationship (FLR) Forum here and find additional resources online. There are many levels of the FLR spectrum, all leading to a relationship where your partner works hard to make you happy, and you enjoy them for working so hard (and probably because you like them also). Think of it this way... If there is anything you don't like doing (dishes and laundry) positive reinforcement (the promise of a future release) quickly makes a great motivator for him to provide you comfort regardless of his expense or effort. Besides, you deserve being treated special... Right? Being a keyholder doesn't mean you have to spank him when he's bad, or tease and deny him. It simply means that you decide when he is released and that may depend on whether or not he's vacuumed or washed your car.... I'm just saying. He has asked you to fulfill his fantasy... Soooo.... What is your fantasy.... Ok... Now make him give it to you. By the way, you have proabably realized by now that you need to have an open mind if you have already gone this far down the rabbit hole. Well, I read through the first result that pops up when you google Female Led Relationship (currently) and... There short page written with pictures on the Cuckold Consultant site that is really good. I know, I know you aren't into cuckolding... Well neither am I, the page is brief, accurate, entertaining, and my old favorite site (about.flr) is no longer live for me to refer you to. So Check out https://www.thecuckoldconsultant.com/articles/4-levels-female-led-relationships/ Then go on the FLR forums here, then have your husband rub your feet (no relief for him) before kissing him goodnight at bedtime. Good luck
Exactly--that's the main first step Welcome. And never doubt your power over him. Be confident, strong, and more importantly, don't let him 'top from the bottom'. Enjoy.