Hello all, First of all sorry for my bad english, it's not my native language. I think this section is for introduce myself so let's go. I'm a cis male married since 10 yeas in my mid 30's, in love of my lovely wife. I am more kinky than my wife (she's pretty vanilla) and have played with my kinks since I was teenager and tried chastity first time 8 years ago. I have never telled to my wife about my kinks since December 2020 and my coming out (about chastity) was a hard time. She has a bad background with her sexuality (rapped when she was youger) and we had a dead bedroom. After I find out she was cheatting on me, we had a big fight. We almost got divorced, but we are very in love and we decided to follow a couple therapy and a sexual therapy. During that i can explain my kink and how I work sexually. This helped so much and now she's more open about that. We are making baby steps together in this world and i'm so happy. For her it's seems it's ok but not sure she's very excited by that... But maybe in the future she'll truly like it. I hope. I'm here for exchange about tips, and how not push here. Sometimes think I top from the bottom, and i don't want that but after 10 years without the possibilty to be trully you it's hard to now what's the good way to communicate and help her to understand this world. Have a nice day.