Hello! Experienced Master, new to Key Holding

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    Hello there,
    I’ve always been Dom(me) but myself and my partner are moving into a more full-on dynamic, with greater power exchange and chastity.
    I’m all for it in theory, but tend to overthink in practice. I need to learn to trust my judgement more.
    My boy is beautifully subservient, but doesn’t take criticism well, and has tended towards getting sulky or pissy in the past when chastened or denied, this time feels better though, and he seems to find great peace in servitude and submission; while I find everything easier when he does exactly what I say like a good boy ;)
    We’ve both joined the forum to learn more, and share our experiences with the community/ thanks for having us!
    Ms King
     
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    Welcome. Look forward to hearing about your journey.
     
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    welcome
     
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    Welcome to the site.

    This doesn't seem to be the attitude of someone I would characterize as subservient, but that's just me.
     
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    #5 henry58, Nov 27, 2018
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    He needs intensive conditioning and strict guidance.
     
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    We’re all on our own journeys, aren’t we? I think he experienced a lot more struggle with our power dynamic before our recent move to chastity and Female
    Led Relationship. We’re both getting used to the shift in control and I never do anything the way it “should” be done. I want a full and active partner in life, but one who does as he is told, fulfils my sexual and emotional needs, and his happy and fulfilled and at peace in himself. It’s a complex balance and one which might take us years to get right. I’m happy to put the work in.
     
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    Welcome and thanks for sharing. I think your needs and desires and willingness to train your man will make you a great keyholder. Hope you'll get Verified and share your journey.
     
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    Welcome to cm
     
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    welcome to cm. The balance you seek is not always easily attained, just as social norms and learned behavior is not so easily discarded. Expectations either real or imaginary cloud both sub and domme perspective at times. Having a place like this to vent, reassert ones objectives, and to communicate about a subject that is somewhat off limits everywhere else has been a great help for many.

    Good luck to you both, and anxious to hear of your adventures.
     
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    Welcome to the mansion, glad you found us here. I'm happy to see another Dom/me around this place, too. :)

    The 'work' can be so worth it. I look forward to hearing about your journey. Best of luck to you both.
     
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    Welcome. As my wife and I have experienced, there are often compromises in a relationship. Sometimes “close enough” is as close as you need to be or risk spoiling a good thing.

    For example, my wife loves having me chaste, and I try hard to satisfy her desire for it. But sometimes, I do get grouchy or even a little resentful about being chaste. She takes my periodic bouts of difficulty pretty well most of the time. She knows it’s frustrating for me sometimes. But even with my periodic times of difficulty, she still prefers it to how things used to be.

    In the same way, be open to the potential need to let your man vent frustration once in a while. He’s not perfect, nobody is. A little bit of disobedience may not be what you want, but it may be what he needs to keep him going during the times when is obedient. Having some pressure release once in a while keeps things stable and controllable.
     
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    Welcome! We found that in periods of chastity, that I am more bottomy and desiring to please. She realized that that's how she wanted me full time, so chastity became full time from then on. Having access to orgasm and sex always had me switching (no pun intended) back to a more middle, switchy nature. Being denied, and no longer having any Top role sexually made all the difference.
     
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    Good journey Ms King.
     
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    Welcome to CM, I am sure both of you will like it here.
     
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    Thank you! It looks like a great community, and we’re looling forward to sharing our journey and get involved x
     
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