Has anyone been locked due to cheating?

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    My lady would really like to know, is it always the case that the man suggests chastity, or is it starting to be a thing where the man is caught "playing away" and the wife dictates chastity device lockup as a condition of reconciliation?

    We're just curious..
     
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    I’ve never herd of it. Mostly the men in chastity are very much devoted to their partners
     
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    It’s overwhelmingly the majority of men asking their partners to lock them up. Although the locking would most certainly prevent cheating, almost all of us are in the mindset of wanting to be locked and waiting for our partners for sexual attention. In my opinion chastity is implemented to enhance the relationship between two people and not try to “fix” it. It’s more about opening up communication and the want to experiment with role reversal and perhaps even creating an entirely new lifestyle for your relationship. Not to say that people have never implemented chastity for the reason you suggest but it’s been my experiencing that the foundation of a good chastity relationship has to be solid, built on trusting each other, being honest and open with communication.
     
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    Yes, I agree.
    I was cheated on by every girlfriend I had; almost to the point of wishing I were a cheat too. But that's not me or likely many of us that are locked. I certainly don't need a cage to be loyal.
     
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    I think if you were the cheating type you'd never allow yourself to be locked up! And let's be honest most of us could get out of it if we really wanted to!
     
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    My wife considers masturbation to be cheating. I was locked to stop masturbation.
     
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    well I spose the Lady cud lock a man in a little room for a bit but he wud bang about and make a noise and be a nuisance . a lot of men are like that.
     
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    SO heavyFeather, are you saying that it was your wife's initiative to lock you? Would be interesting...

    BTW we're also in the situation that everyone else is, the man has asked to be locked..

    BUT consider, if you showed a few devices to a naive, completely vanilla person, they would probably assume that they were invented to prevent cheating, yes?

    But in almost every known case,in reality it's the man who asks to be locked!!

    Really, what does this tell us about human nature??
     
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    My Wife thinks the very same way!
     
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    I cheated. I suggested Chastity. She saw the value.
     
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    I don’t see it as a very viable solution to cheating, but I will say that it certainly doesn’t hurt as a very much appreciated side benefit.

    My wife didn’t agree to be my kh because she wanted to eliminate cheating, but she sure does love the fact that I can’t.
     
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    Well said.
     
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    My partner suggested it, he begged me to cage him. He hasn't ever cheated, nor would he. He is devoted to me, more so than any ex of mine was. :love:
     
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    I love that Question and think "Human nature is evolving rapidly."

    I know two stay at home dad's that care for the kids and homes whilst their wife / partner go and work a full time job to support the family, I know at least one of them is deffinatly not in a FLR as he himself is a good friend and we both attend various kink evets together. He is very domminant.
    I just think attitudes in general are changing and I am very curious to see how societys overal attitudes will adapt to accept a "new norm"

    I feel you, whilst my wife would feel more than secure in our relationship to have me "naked" when she travels and in no way uses chastity to prevent cheating she certainly does enjoy the comfort that comes with knowing I am all locked up unable to masturbate or cheat her in any way.
     
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    Like most, locking was my idea. There was an unintended side effect though. I've never understood why but my wife has been really jealous. I've never given her a reason......I think she's just insecure which is crazy because she's a total fox. I play in rock bands on the side and travel occasionally without her for my real job. In the past, this would drive her wild in a bad way. Now, when I head out, she'll make a comment like, 'don't let anyone hit on you'. I reply with 'you have all the keys and my cock is locked in a steel cage. If I wanted to cheat, I never would have brought up the idea.'

    It's been a gradual change but she's much less jealous now and I think the cage played a part. She'll now whisper something in my ear like 'have fun and remember, your cock is all mine and will be forever.'
     
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    Yes. My wife locked me, while we were dating. Quite early on I came out to her as a submissive male. She happened to be dominant sexually and in her personality. Our fetish, kink and BDSM life is always evolving. But, the chastity and FLR has been constant pretty much since the beginning.
     
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    this is spot on.
    my wife was flattered that i wanted to stop masturbating and devote all of my affection and sexual energy to her. some days she regrets it as i can be quit needy and not give her her space. but it has made us communicate more, and now we act more like we are dating than marred for over a decade.
    my wife also loves the fact i cant cheat by masturbating or even consider a side fling now that im locked.
    my lori device wont allow me to pull out and re enter via the back due to the security collar it has around the head of the penis. and even then, i will have a steel device dangling from my balls. im not sure how many women would be interested in having sex with a partner in a precarious situation like that lol
    it is arousing to know i dont even have that decision(having sex) without her any more. not that i ever would, but the fact its no longer my choice to make, is strangely arousing,
     
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    If cheating is a real problem in the relationship, a chastity device won't stop it. There's no such thing as "inescapable chastity" short of keeping you immobilized with medical grade restraints 24/7. Any padlock or belt could be easily picked or shimned after watching a few videos on YouTube if the wearer really wanted to sneak out and back into it.

    Chastity itself is really a psychological game and the physical device is, in my opinion, really just an enduldange of a bondage fetish we all share.
     
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    That's really interesting, skD, a half-way house you might say. So in at least one case the new(ish) technology of male chastity is keeping a relationship alive. How's it going?
     
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    I think you will probably find that they guys that say they were locked because they had cheated on their partners and that their partners now insist on it are either wishful thinkers, fantasists or just plain damn lying. I'm not saying it does not happen at all its just that I very much doubt the tales are genuine in the cases I've heard about it.

    There might be some guys claiming thats the reason they are wearing a device as they don't want to admit it is/was their choice initially.
     
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    Pretty much describes my situation, but I'm the one who suggested it.
     
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    I have never cheated on my partner but I have done on previous partners, not something I'm proud of.

    My partner and I are in a long distance relationship and don't get to see each other as often as we'd like. Chastity was my suggestion, my partner trusts me & knows I wouldn't cheat on her but likes the peace of mind that me being in chastity gives her.
     
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    I cheated. It still haunts me.
    If I had known about chastity I would have suggested it. It might have saved my marriage and a lot of pain.
    Still I wouldnt be with the woman I am with now. She's perfect for me and I'm so grateful I found her.
     
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    Although I have never cheated on my wife, I do find many other women tempting. I always confess to my wife when I find another woman tempting or have been in a tempting situation. We believe strongly in being open with each other about temptation.

    Even though I have never cheated, she does find it reassuring that I can’t. I travel frequently for work and could easily have affairs if I were so inclined or if a very tempting situation came along. So it is nice for her to know that I couldn’t even if I wanted to.
     
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    Same.
     

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