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    Very true. I however think I will avoid those broken bones :rolleyes:
     
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    Me too. With 20 years of martial arts training, I’m amazed that I only got hurt like that once. So I’ll pass on any more!
     
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    I snapped my tibia and fibula in half a few years back, it hurt and certainly not looking to repeat but was nothing compared to childbirth. If only we could inflict that pain on our men. That I would sooooo enjoy.
     
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    Having mine broke...makes me respect my wife much more.
     
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    I was there when my son was born. I understand what you’re saying. But I argue kidney stones are as bad if not worse as the sharp edges cut up the urethra and that hurts for days.
     
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    Unless your kindney stones were 9lbs 13oz I find it hard to feel sorry for you Tom. I was ripped from one hole to the next after 23 hours of labour and almost 3 hours of hard pushing. Dislocated both hips and burst the blood vessels around my eyes causing them to blacken from pushing. I joke that I looked like the bride of Frankenstein. I assure you I also hurt for days.
     
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    Ahh, and so his whimpered moans echoed into the deafening silence of the night, accompanied only by the swishing sound of the crop whipping towards his exposed and tender flesh.
    He thought he knew what pain was, she would teach him, time and again that he knew nothing.

    With the utmost respect my dear, for all that you have endured. XO
     
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    Ma’am with respect for all women. I’m grateful to have been born with boy parts. Men have no point of reference for real pain.
     
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    omg that’s awful.
    Thankfully you're ok now
    I can’t imagine.
     
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    Eating my own stuff and anything with other guys. Absolute hard limit.

    No scat, blood, pee or animals.


    Open to most everything else.
     
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    Limits vary as relationships develop. The more I know someone and learn about them the more I trust them and the fewer limits I have.

    Ultimately I long to reach a place in a relationship where there is no need for explicit limits, just absolute trust.

    Perhaps one day...
     
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    So you are saying that my husband and I are not in an actual female led relationship, because I respect him enough to have a safeword?

    Interesting.
     
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    My wife gave birth to our last two children naturally with no pain blockers.

    I will always concede that woman are superior to men.
     
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    it’s a term we use for people who claim to not be kinky, but dabble in a little bit of light stuff. Basically very light kink.

    So maybe they Play with a blindfold or use scarfs for light bondage.

    Hence not purely vanilla but not much more.
     
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    Haha :+1:
     
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    To parse apart my initial claim: A safeword functions as a feedback mechanism for setting limits for the sub, but ultimately it would be up to the Domme how parameters are set. It sounds like in Your relationship You set the parameter by having the safeword and adjust the parameters accordingly. This parameter setting works differently in every relationship, but I would argue that one of the defining characteristics of an FLR is that the Woman sets the parameters.

    Total aside, any chance Your user name is a reference to the Book of Lilith?
     
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    Okay, rephrased like this I do agree with you. Thanks for clarifying.

    As for my username, it's a reference to the Jewish myth that Adam had a wife before Eve, who was called Lilith. But the wife was too spirited and refused to submit to Adam in bed, so she was cast out of paradise and became the mother of Demons.
    I figured she made a good name for a Domme. She is my play name.
     
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    Absolutely!

    And that totally is the same Lilith. Mistress introduced me to Her (She likes those kinds of theological stories). As a double aside, in addition to the theological intrigue, I've appreciatively read many of Your posts and for whatever it's worth, I believe You and @Mistress Davenport would likely get along famously.
     
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    I agree with most people there: no cuckolding, no feces/urine, nothing requiring medical attention.

    Exception: Bi, depending on how you define that. My wife/KH takes me with her strap on and I have come to enjoy that. (so does she-she loves to talk dirty to me. "You want it up your ass, don't you? etc) Have I fantasized about taking a real cock? Yes, but again, no cuckold, no 3rd person.

    So, is that bi? I dont know and dont really care.
     
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    Hat's off to you.

    And to answer your question - the only limit is serious injury.
     
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    lockedUp24byKH Yes Dear...Right away.

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    I guess my limit is hard pain and forced Bi, But I've always said I'd try something new a few times and do a little research before calling it quits.
    If I said no to everything I never would have had the pleasure of an aneros massager.
     
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    It was washing cloth nappies that desensitise me.

    I used to have a big thing almost a phobia too poo even as far as poo particels in farts

    ... tow kids later of delving your hand into 3 buckets full of pissy shitty wet soaked nappies twice a week doesn’t both me the slightest.
     
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    Lol, I remember a car trip where one of the kids won the spectacular projectile vomiting contest in the car. At home, I took the kid out of his seat, saw the disaster and said to his mother, "do you want to clean the kid or the car".

    But having kids definity lowers the threshold for dubious bodily fluids.
     
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    Husband's hard limits are:

    Things neither of us want:
    gay/bi
    cuckolding
    anything that makes him bleed.
    water sports or hot lunch (although he'll submit to enemas)
    anything that could injure him. Like for using zappers to administer Male Genitalia Discipline (that's what I call CBT. I'm a Disciplinarian, not a Domintatrix). He has a limit against plug in zappers; batteries only.
    face slapping


    He used to have a hard limit on anybody kn owing I put him in Chastity or Disciplined him. I've managed to push that limit and get him to go to gatherings and events. I've gotten him to back off his limits on people watching our home Disciplinary Sessions, although he's insisted on his limit against guys watching at home. Girls are OK, but he doesn't want guys watching at home. He's still squeamish about gatherings and events because he knows guys will be there, but, he does go to them with me.
     
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