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    I've posted a few things now about my past and what I have done previously. I've explained how my chastity journey started and some of the amazing things I have tried along the way. To name but a few I have been into casts, braces, medical play, diapers, needle play. Not to mention a far few bondage scenes and a bit of public humiliation just for good measures.

    A fair few people have explained what they like about chastity and how it fits in with other kinks and fetishes they have.

    Always wanting to do the best I can I would be really interested in hearing how far I could push things so the question is, what are your hard limits? What do you veto or what would make to say the safeword?
     
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    For me it would be forced bi, getting cucked. Id say everything else would be fair game, and ive got a pretty fertile imagination.
     
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    I can’t see my wife/keyholder forcing me to do any bi things but anything is possible I guess. other than that I am sure I would do as I’m told.
     
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    Ma’am

    Hard limits: urine, feces (anything associated), blood, anything that would require medical attention ( broken bones, lacerations, or that wouldn’t heal in 4-5 days) anything medical ( I’ve had surgery 3 times on each leg ). I’m pretty much try anything a dozen times kinda sub.
     
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    Scat, blood, needles, children, true non consent, deep physical harm, animals.
     
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    P.S. anything illegal I’m out.
     
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    Those used to be limits for me now I’m very bi and love it.

    So my HARD LIMITS are blood, scat, drinking piss, being outed, anything that is illegal, needles, animals, breathe play, and anything that causes permanent harm.

    typically I Have a discussion with anyone I play with or serve. And we communicate so as we get comfortable we can push things as they see fit.
     
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    After reading a few more comments, I believe I should amend my earlier comment....
    No feces, urine, children or animals.
    I positive I wouldn’t be asked to do those anyway.
     
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    Ok maybe i forgot some stuff from that list :)
     
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    I’m intrigued by how many are listing scat as a hard limit - dislike maybe - but clearly not locked long enough!

    With my wife whatever she wanted I do do to please Her...and intern hopefully get some PiV time. I would find it difficult to go ahead with a tattoo but if it was a tattoo or been locked for the rest of my life I’d take the tattoo.

    of course anything illegal is automatically a limit.
     
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    As an agreed upon hard limit we have cuckolding, we're both not into it.

    Otherwise, we're pretty much 'vanilla BDSM' as I've explained on here before. I have tried the harder stuff in other relationships, it's not my thing since I've grown older. So the main hard limit I have is doing physical damage, so some pain play is fine with me but nothing that leaves marks or serious bruising.

    Otherwise no scat, no needles, no fire, no extreme bondage, no medical play, no sleep deprivation or sensory deprivation.
     
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    Potty training three kids, I've had enough poop on me. It's not fun.
     
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    Yeah we have poop issues with kids too, it's really off putting.
     
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    For me nothing involving pee, poo, blood (though I’ll happily lick my mistresses ass ☺️ Lol. Nothing where I’m going to get seriously hurt eg broken bones.

    Bi/ cuck etc if I’m honest I’ve no idea, part of me is open (pardon the pun) part of me thinks I’d get there and go “oh No” and run away (tail between my legs)

    Most of all Is ignoring my safe word/ need to stop. Trust is hard earned and easily broken.
     
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    This crowd sure is hardcore!! I find it a little frightening we actually have to ask someone to not break our bones. I certainly like to inflict a little pain but that sure is hardcore. I guess I'm pretty tame enjoying the cuckholding of my husband. I enjoy a few other things but we don't need to go into all the details.
     
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    Wife and I have safewords for emergency removal of device, but I am willing to try anything she is interested in at least once. If I don't like it that much I would tell her and it could become a unique punishment?
     
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    im not into broken bones. Broke a wrist in a karate class and it wasn’t fun. But yes hardcore bdsm is fun and a lifestyle for some of us.
     
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    For me scat and blood. Watersports are a kink of mine so, pee is fine and welcome. I’d have to see about others as they come up. I don’t think she would do anything to harm me anyway.
     
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    Scat, animals, children, anything that would require medical attention. Being left alone in a house in bondage.
     
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    I think in some ways I am still very vanilla. We are all very different, so long as we find that which we can be passionate about.
     
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    Beyond those at the edge, illuminated by others above, I'm so inexperienced not really sure where my limits would be. I know fantasy has shifted a lot in recent years, so things I would I never considered have come into play. I'd like to think I'd be up to try anything safe physically, but like @CuriousJay said who knows until faced with it.
     
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    We are so vanilla that I consider myself a spectator here. But we approach it from the opposite side. We have a discussion before we try something new and would only try it if we both agree. So I guess we don't have discussions on hard limits. I think everything discussed in this post would be a hard limit for us.

    I would say my safe word is 'no'. Same for her, safewords are for both. If there is any problem 'no' would stop what is going on and we would figure it out.
     
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    The joy of having kids.
    Ours are 20 and (almost) 18 but the oldest has serious psychological problems in addition to his autism so we have some bodily fluids flying through the house at inapropriate moments. @MRS.Lilith does a wonderful job as stepmom. She really is a multidimensional angel/devil and I love her to the end of the universe and back.
     
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    This will come off controversial (and possibly salacious), but W/we have no safe word and I have no limits. A lot of these ideas of safe words, SSC, and limits really come from the pro Domme / scene party / maledom spaces. Living in an actual committed Femdom relationship is just a different animal. Like most who have commented, W/we're not hard BDSM (think teasing and denial, bondage, pegging, spankings/fun sensations).

    If it is an actual committed Female Led Relationship, the Woman is in charge and She sets the limits. These limits are governed by the fact that She loves Her sub, and these are activities that She enjoys doing. Additionally, as these activities are slowly expanded, Her submissive will give off signals if something is wrong, too much, or just not enjoyable. She chooses what W/we do, and She loves me and wants to make Her property the best that it can be.
     
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    What is vanilla to you is super kinky to some. What’s kinky to you now may be French Vanilla in the future.

    so yes we are all different and we also change.
     
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