I suppose I could make multiple posting with different questions, but first I would like to say hello to everyone and thanks for making this a useful resource. I suppose I deserve some flack for how I got started, but to abridge the story is because my wife is pretty vanilla and Ive felt something has needed to change. She will humor my more simple desires once and a while, but its such work and I feel like Im badgering her which has led to less badgering and me now routinely take matter into my own hands. My hope is that she has some closested desires that shes just never shared with me sometimes I think I can see a few, but she never admits and nothing every occurs. Anyway, Ive felt that we were drifting apart so I decided to try a chastity device and hope - as I know she doesnt like when I masturbate, and maybe she would like it when Im fawning over her like a teenager after a few days. I point blank asked her to purchase me cb6000 for my birthday, and the premise was weekend fun to see if we like it. To my surprise she did, but she laid down ground rules like this was my thing, not hers, and it was not to be worn outside the house and a lot of skepticism that it will be painful and wont work, etc... Some of that hurt as were a couple and doing this one-sided is not going to help us, but I figured I would take it slow and not press. The first weekend (a week ago), looked pretty promising. She grudgingly accepted the key, through the day teased me by flashing me and asking did that hurt?, indicted that she wasnt going to let me out right away, had me run an errand with her outside of the house with it on, etc.. This weekend was very different. We were playing a bit and she asked to see it and she freaked out because I was squeezing out of the ventilation holes. After that she forgot to take the keys each day leaving them on her nightstand where I put them for her. We eat lunch out, and there was a great chill when she found out I was still in it. I tried to tell her she needs to hold the keys and control/know when Im let out. No luck. After lunch she hid them but in a very obvious spot shes knows that I will find as its where she hid them the weekend before and had me get them. I have a few days off this week so I can patch things up. I will work hard and try to ignore the fact that shes not really hidden the key for now, and the first weekend gives me some hope. In addition to general comments, I do have a question I think the tube on the 6000 is too tight on me. Its an evil task to get in and requires much lubrication, and pretty much anytime examine myself I see that Im pushing out the ventilation holes. Im going to try covering them with tape tomorrow (we are not wearing it to bed), but I was wondering how to properly measure for a www.steelworxx.de device. Im not ready for any piercing, and may never be. ID of the ring would be the same as cb6000 ring Im using For the ID of tube do I just wrap a tape around myself when flaccid and use that? Do you add a small amount, say 1/8? Or should it be tight like the cb6000? I think I can get a good length by measuring from the back of cb600 ring to the end of my penis and add perhaps 1/2" Ive seen many recommendations for keyholds guide by Lucy Fairbourne would it be appropriate for someone whos pretty vanilla? Thanks.