Got what I wished for. Now what do i do?

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    Hello,

    My wife found out I was into chastity and orgasm denial porn maybe 6 months ago and ordered me a chastity device. I was shocked and really turned on by the thought of actually living out some of these fantasies. So I've spent the last 6 months getting used to wearing the device and playing games on and off. The plan was to give me until our anniversary to get used to everything. Now that we are 5 days past our anniversary I'm starting to see that didn't do very well with the whole getting ready part.

    The most I was ever locked up for was a week or two at the most but there wasn't really any teasing going on those times. Normally 3 days max is the longest I would go. Now that I'm being teased every day it's insane. It's only been 5 days and I'm going crazy. Today I had the worst case of blue balls in my life, I couldn't move without grunting in pain for half the day at work today. It was after lunch time before the agony started simmering down into a dull ache. Anyways let me start at the beginning.

    My wife and I agreed that I would give her my key on our anniversary and she would start controlling my orgasms. So the day came an we started discussing the rules and making sure we were both on the same page. We negotiated over all the small details and a few big ones. Like I was shooting for a 3 min teasing blowjob every morning before she left for work and she agreed. That's epic but then it ended up being a blowjob every morning so long as I got her off the day before. Still not bad. The way I figure it that was like me getting teased twice a day one of witch I walk from with the scent of pussy all over my face. So we got a game plan in place for keeping things interesting and making sure we were both going to be happy with all the arrangements.

    Then she tells me that she's expecting to get lots of orgasms since she will be giving up sex. So I was a little confused but decide to roll with told her I would be teasing her and eating her our almost every day, plus anytime she wanted me to. She then says that's good because she would hate to give me more time for not keeping her satisfied. I'm really excited about everything and the conversation has giving me a raging hard on. So we start having sex and the whole time shes laying it on thick about hows she's not going to let me cum before she locks me up. I exploded in her. It was one of the best orgasms I've ever had.

    So we catch our breath and she starts putting the cage on. Then before she closes the lock she looks up at me with this serious look on her face and asks me if I'm sure I want to go thought with this. I say yea of course I'm sure, this is going to be great. Then I ask so are you going to tell me how long I'll be locked up for or make me wait. The evil woman smiles at me and says 6 months. So I smile back thinking she's joking and and ask her to tell me how long really, but she wasn't kidding.

    She said that if I really wanted her to get into my chastity fantasies that I needed to prove it. So I let her know that I thought 2 or 3 weeks would be a good way to prove it. Maybe even a whole month to really drive the point home. She stood her ground. Apparently a few weeks in her mind isn't worth even doing it. She told me if I wouldn't give her 6 months to see how she likes the chastity lifestyle then she wouldn't do it at all.

    So yea, all of a sudden I need to decide if I really want to try this lifestyle out.

    I mean I don't really know anything about being locked up long term and only being let out to be teased before being locked up again. So I thought about it for awhile as shes holding the cage on with one hand and playing with the lock in the other. She's so hot, so I guess figure if I get unlocked once a night to be teased while eating her out and then I get a teasing blow job every morning I'll be getting a hell of a lot more play than I was getting before. I decided to do it. I'm not sure why. Maybe I was in shock from being asked but just thinking about all the teasing and her sexy ass sitting there with the lock waiting for me to answer. I did it. I asked her, 6 months? She nodded. I smiled and nodded back, then she smiled and closed the lock.

    No orgasms at all for 6 months I still don't believe I agreed to it. So if you didn't notice it was like a fantasy coming to life for me. Before bed that night she unlocked me and we teased each other for about and hour and she edged me a few times as I got her off then I was locked up again. She wakes up before me so at 6am the next day She sucked me like she was trying to pull every drop of cum out. At lest she did for 3 minuets. Then It was back in the cage.

    Here I am 5 days latter and I'm struggling. I love the teasing more than anything. Its really the best part but I'm having a lot of trouble with the frustration and the blue balls. I didn't know blue balls were so painful. I didn't get them until last night and it wasn't that bad then but after she gave me the teasing blowjob this morning. It was all I could do not to beg her to let me cum. Ok, I lie I did beg her to let me cum. She didn't but I wasn't expecting her to.

    I get to work and it feels like it keeps getting worse and worse. Finally after lunch around 1 the pain started dropping off until around 2 when it was a dull ache. This may sound stupid but I swear it seems like they hurt less and less each time I took a piss. Anyway I would like to know how you deal with blue balls when you can't do the only sensible thing and cum to fix the problem? I'd also like to know if this is something I can expect to get a lot worse or last longer each time? Does it really get to the point where your balls are so blue that they just have a dull ache all the time? I'm just not sure I can deal with the blue balls. I mean will I have them 24/7 after a while? Or is it only going to every day after I'm teased?

    I'm not really sure how it works and I need to get mentally ready to deal with it. I had no idea I knew so little about blue balls.

    The next thing is can I realistically expect to make it 6 months when I'm flipping out so hard after 5 days?

    I'm in so far over my head. I want to have sex with everything. I'm not sure what I should do.
     
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    OK, I'm not a man, but I can give you my take on it.

    First off, and this is in no means raining on your parade, but I doubt she's going to keep you locked for six months. To go for so long your first go, is pretty extreme. The mind fuck is fun, though, so we say it. I love sex with my husband. There is no way in hell I'd go without penetrative sex for 6 months. Even with a strap on or fake replica, it wouldn't be good for me. It's not just the thrusting that does it for me, either. The hottest thing is knowing he's going to blow inside me. So, unless she's getting fucked from someone else, and enjoys sex the way you say she does (giving you oral in the morning is a good indication of that), I doubt she'll keep you denied for half a year.

    Second, is the ache you're feeling is normal. Nothing is wrong with you, and it will get easier. You'll get used to it.

    Remember, that this is something that YOU wanted. You asked her and she's indulging your fantasy. That doesn't mean that communication should stop. You need to keep talking and let her know how you're feeling. If it gets to be too much, then tell her so. You're going to learn that there's a fine line between being very excited about being in chastity, and resenting her because she's being unreasonable.

    This is a fun game to play, but it still needs to be consensual.

    Good luck. :)
     
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    If he has blue balls that shouldn't be that normal - at least it isn't for me. (and therefore I thank god^^)

    There are two things you can try to get rid of your congestion:
    - you can try to lift something really heavy or
    - take a really cold shower (an icepack on your balls should do as well)

    Both should have a chance to settle your bloodflow. Once the congestion is gone, the next one shouldn't be much worse than he first one - why should it ?
    But it could be that you have a tendency to congestions. If that's the case - good luck^^
     
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    Yes, it is normal. Countless men, including my husband, have experienced the ache he is describing.

    Please don't lift anything heavy to rid yourself of the pain you feel in your groin. That's a good way to really hurt yourself. Why on earth would someone lift something heavy to alleviate pain to their crotch?!? That makes no sense to me whatsoever.

    Now, what I'm talking about is a dull aching/throbbing sensation (at least that's how I've heard it described to me), you're feeling. If the boys are turning purple and necrotic, then circulation is being compromised from the tightness of your device. That is NOT normal and a dangerous situation that needs to be remedied immediately. I don't think that's the issue you're talking about, though.
     
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    Nope not a circulation issue, it was defo blueballs. I'll try the ice but I think Goddess Jen has the right idea on the heavy lifting. That doesn't sound right.

    Now that I look at it from a not hopelessly freaking out thought process I think she's fucking with my mind too... but she will be the last one to know that I think that. We do talk and really after thinking about it it would be a hell of an accomplishment to go 6 months.I'm going to give it my best and then resort to talking, begging, and pleading when the time comes. I know I can do this if I want to I just need the right mind set. I'm still trying to rap my head around it.

    I know things will change soon. She is not a morning person at all and I dont see the morning blowjobs lasting much longer.

    She did seem real serious about that 6 month thing though.

    Thanks for all the advice on dealing with the blue balls and Goddess Jen thanks for helping look at this from another angel and getting me out of shock mode. :)
     
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    Lifting something heavy isn't unreasonable, but just another way to perform a Valsalva-Maneuver which will cause the veins in your legs as well as those responsible for the testicles to widen. And this will get you rid of your congestion.
     
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    Nice, I'll give it a try next time then. I think I'd try almost thing that could help.
     
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    I think we've worked some of the bumps out. We decided not to have anymore 6am tease/ballbusting sessions before work. So when she gives me blue balls I'll be at home so I'll beable to whimper as much as I want and take my mind off of the blue balls by channeling the ache in my balls into fuel to keep my tounge moving. The last part was my idea. :)

    We've both been having so much fun. The need to cum is taking over all my thoughts and everything I see seems to be sexier now. It's really hard to keep my mind focused on some thats not sexual. I work support and today I had to call a customer back and when she answered the phone I was distracted by how sexy her voice was and completely forgot why I had called her for a few seconds lol.

    She also verified that she was getting tired of the morning blow jobs even though she thinks it turns her on as much as it does me. She said once she got tired of it she would switch to hand jobs. So I'm really happy about everything. We both really like the idea of doing somethig sexual as soon as we wake up to start the day off thinking about eachother.

    For me it's amazing because I'm always horney as hell when I first wake up. Plus being able to get out of the cage around the same time the morning hard on happens is like a gift from god... Or goddess. :)

    I'm still not sure that she's fucking with my mind about the 6 months part. She still seems really seirous about it. It freaks me out everytime I think a out it but the idea of it really turns me on. I've just decided I'm enjoying this more than anything we've ever done so I'm not going to think about the long term and just go day by day and see what happens. It's not really fair for me to ruin a good thing by flipping out over what I think will happen.

    Besides the instant we start talking about me being locked up for 6 months I instantly get hard and start throbbing in my cage. So it's hard to lay next to her and tell her I don't want it while my dick is trying to burst out of the cage. Lol she's started talking to my caged peins when what I say doesn't match up with what it's telling her.

    I would love to get your take on everythig. So far we are having a blast with it. I'd really like to get more invoulved with this community but I'm having trouble finding where I should jump in at. This chastity thread doesn't seem very active. Maybe it just seems that way because I really want some people to talk with about all this.
     
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    It sounds like you're having a lot of fun. I think you hit the nail on the head... being aroused all the time, the least little thing seeming sexual, is a nice payback for enduring the frustration of chastity. But it sounds like the 6 month duration is not set in stone... like you could just change your mind and it would all be over. Of course it should be consensual, but I wonder if you're getting the full range of emotions and sense of physical denial, since you seem to think changing your mind about things is an option. Your wife seems to be enjoying herself... the whole idea is for her to be in control, so don't you think you might be shortchanging her... she has agreed to play your game, and now she's really into it... something many men would give anything to have. I'm not criticizing, just trying to help you experience chastity the way it should be experienced... you obeying, and your wife making all of the decisions. Of course you should communicate... I'm just saying that maybe you would enjoy it more if you accept the way she wants it to be and focus on what you ARE getting out of it. I'm enjoying hearing all about your journey... thanks for sharing.
     
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    Congratulations on such a wonderful wife. Six month is a great gift and I really hope you are aware of it.

    I must agree with Strict Sir, you really should remove the thought that you could "back out" of the game. That totally spoils it for you. Trust me.

    She should be in charge. The chastity should not be optional, but should be a fact carved in stone.

    I think it´s a good thing that you stoped the 3 minutes blowjob-tease, since that is from my feeling too much to endure. Blue balls are so so so bad, no one can endure that every day and still work efficient.

    I suggest you prepare some nice surprise (diner, gift, etc.) for her to thank her, so she knows you are aware of what a major gift she just gave you.
     
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    You know, I didn't even realize I was doing that until you pointed it out. Well maybe I did but just didn't understand it.

    I think we are both trying to break in this new couch and we are just now starting to settle in to our new spots. Over the last 6 months I've had all the control. Even when she had the keys she always did what I wanted. So I guess I've still been in the getting used to the device mind frame. Its like it didn't click into place for me mentally that it was her turn to be in controle. You would think the sound of the lock closing would have tiped me off.

    This is quite the revelation. God now I'm straining in my cage at work from thinking about this. I guess I dropped the ball but luckily she held her ground. I think it might be good for us to make a chastity contract together. It might help the new changes sink in for both of us if we put it on paper and maybe give us something to lean on if were not sure something is consensual.

    Omg 6 months sounds like such a long time. I know I freak myself out about. It's just not easy to look at the whole length of time at once. That's normal for a guy right? I get hard in my cage every time I think about it but also worried, no, shocked maybe, or even idk. I feel so much it's overwhelming. It's different when I focus on one day at a time. I realize I've only been denied for a week so far but it just seems like I could go forever if I just keep looking at how intimate we are each day and the way we ravage eachother with our lust. Everytime we tease eachother and I give her orgasms its just perfect and the feeling stays with me all day. Looking at one day at a time I feel like she could tell me maybe you can cum tomorrow every day and I could go forever.

    I really like the idea of doing something special for her for the blow jobs. I'll plan something for this weekend. They were really amazing and I only had bluebells really bad the one day. So it's something I'm going to work really hard to get her to do again sometime. The last two mornings I got to the edge so fast I almost came. Today she was even going really slow and it snuck up on me.

    One thing I'd like some advice on is how we can be more carefull about acidents. I really want to make it all the way to the end. Is that what you were trying to say about the blow jobs and teasing every day being to much? I kinda feel like it might be a good idea to have a break from being edge so many times a day.

    We kinda had this first week all planed out so we both knew I'd be unlock each time we teased. I think this weekend im going surprise her by making out in random places and catch her off guard at home so she doesn't have time to think about unlocking me. Then make it a point in the contract that it's up to her if I get unlocked while we tease.

    I'm really starting to like the contract idea. Thanks for all your help and advice.
     
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    Be careful with the teasing, soon you will be on a level where it will be very hard to control accidents. I once had to stay chaste for four weeks and back then I did not have a device. So all I could do was try to be strong. After two weeks I had an accident and that sucked so bad. It felt terrible to fail so hard.

    Just imagine how terrible it will be, when you fail after like two month? All that time for nothing! Just to prove what a failure you are in restraining your cum inside you. So be grateful to have the chastity device. I was SO grateful myself, when I got my first device. All that responsibility to be strong and not make myself cum taken off my shoulders.

    So maybe you can ask your wife to be nice and not tease you too often, since you want to be strong for her.

    One thing my Mistress did back in the days was that she offered me that I might beg for pain, if I feel close to cumming during teasing. She used a TENS device to give me some VERY unpleasant electrical shocks to help me stay cool.

    So enjoy your six month :) ... I would so much like to be in a position like you are *envious look* ....
     
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    I am a huge T&D girl and my pet has totally suffered from blue balls. Currently, we are taking a break from some things while he recovers from another problem but I am glad to see another guy posting about the same pain. :)
     
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    Just curious (and not to cause trouble) but what happens at 6 months if she decides it should be even longer ... remember it is HER decision after all.
     
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    So much has happened since my last update. Fast to... My wife and I have been talking about our sex life and fantasies and learning alot about what each other likes. Something the strangley hasn't come up the whole time we've been married.

    This mostly has to do with her fantasies and how we both kind of like the same stuff. She really likes tone teases as do I, the only difference is that I also want her to deny my orgasms and controle them. Where she wants to orgasm but have her body contoled. She likes being told want to do during sex.

    So pretty much I need to start doing alot more in the way of what she likes in the bedroom. She is concerned that I won't beable to boss her around the way she likes if Ive been denied for so long. She thinks it would be best if we take turns by switching every week or two.

    I didn't like the idea of only being denied a week or two and always knowing when i would get to orgasm. So I talked her into trying it out to see if I'm able to tease her well while being denied. Should be alot of fun. My first test is the weekend after Ive been locked up for two weeks. Then again after Ive been locked up for six weeks.

    We do alot of stuff in-between but these will be all day sessions.

    It should be great fun but I have real doubts of my staying power after being denied for so long. So it's still up in the air how long I'll be denied.
     
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    @Billy

    That would be awesomely hot and scary lol. Right now I think I'm still having to help her get used to being in control. It's not going to be much longer though and we are learning alot about one another.
     
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    Barons, just a suggestion...

    You may want to move this thread over to the Vault. That's where all the personal stories of our members are. :) Happy Chastity!
     
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    Thanks Goddess Jen. If any mods happen by feel free to move it. :)
     
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    6 Monate durchgezogen?
     
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    Yes I thoroughly agreed with you , you asked for it and your Mistress obliged, 6 months sounds like fun , besides Miss loves her pussy eaten by the sounds of it , focus your energy on doing that as good as possible.
     
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    Sorry but text in red is really hard to read
     
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    Hi Goddess Jen, I have questions! First off, ball ache. How long does it run to get used to it? I have managed to stay locked for a couple of months, before I started having difficulty urinating. Possibly a grumbling prostate? Mistress has hinted at making it a permanent arrangement with some sort of caged release, which I'm basically ok with. I was recently pierced for security, which obliterated all sense of "pent up-ness" for a couple of weeks, (was caged right away after piercing) but now I'm definitely feeling it. Apart from the odd time I've not really had ball ache, but I had a difficult night and boy they're aching now. I don't want to crack if I can learn to cope with it, but how long will I need to grin and bear it? Thanks
     
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    Personally haven’t been pegged but from what I’ve read and heard here blue ball relief is just a strap on away. Some joking aside, ruined and forced caged orgasms are a thing with the help of a vibrator and deftly applied tens unit. There are ways to keep you submissive and locked and also relieve your pent up prostate without device removal at all and also tease you without ever taking off the belt. Show this to your wife and I hope this helps.
     
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    What a great and truthful post.
     
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