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    New to the site, and lifestyle. My husband tried to dominate me for years and I would let it happen, for a few min, till he got his jollies off, then we'd go back to normal life. Him masterbating while I'm working, me getting mad that he doesn't even try to have sex in the morning cause he just watch some sort of crazy porn, that he lied to me about watching so how can I even have the hope to know why I'm not enough! My arguement to him is that if he didn't j.o. he'd want to have sex with me more, his arguement is he a man and they just do that. I can't get mad for human nature. This was a constant argument cause for reasons from childhood, sex had always equalled love to me. He didn't love me cause he didn't even want to have sex. I looked better than half the porn he was watching so I didn't get why I wasn't what he wanted.... But guess what? I am exactly what he wants, I just have to get him to use his real brain and refocus. The refocusing has strengthened us is so many ways. Both of us have been walking around for the last month with silly little smiles, and love that we are sharing this together. I love now that of I'm upset about something, I know what I'm upset about, not just really irritated because I found the lube left on my pillow!
    When I joined I started reading everything here, ordered books, and am jumping into this. He loves it. Last night he was allowed to be cage free after he cleaned our room. He was even able to pleasure me first, before his cage was put back on.. that was the first time he was so aroused and not able to finish, you could tell he was a little irritated, but in the morning, I rewarded him but letting him finish.. it was a great one for him.
    We are still new and right now in the training stage, so baby steps,. I think last night was the first night he realized I am his KH and I DO have the power. If he doesn't listen then I guess we aren't really doing this are we?

    Anyone else with similar stories? Or different ones?
     
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    Welcome! Get him used to not finishing! He will grow to love it and you will grow to love his attention! Learn the saying NO is the best thing you can do!
     
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    Welcome! And yes he will get use to the pleasure of frustration!
     
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    I'm already loving the attention!
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Good luck and welcome!

    Re channeling our focus is a great place to start. How far you take his behavior modification is up to u. I never would have believed how far we have gone. I'm not saying I'm perfect yet, but let's just say I don't need to be told twice to give a foot rub lol.

    The porn thing is something most women don't understand. They compare themselves to the actresses and try to rationalize the content. It's hard for them to believe that it has nothing to do with them. It's a tool used for self gratification and that's it. My only issue with it is if a partner (male or female) is neglecting their partner because of it. Sadly, when a male takes care of his own needs, it chang s our priority list of what is important. It's not on purpose but it does happen.

    Looks like u got it under control as well as other things. Looking forward to reading all about it!
     
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    Looks to me like you now have things well under control and he will be responding accordingly, as most of us have! Congratulations! Just don't allow him to top from the bottom as he will want to do.
     
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    @MadamBelle Welcome to the Mansion. Glad that it seems to be all going well for you (and him ).

    I'm just going to move this thread to The Foyer.
     
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    We are very much the same as you, very new and finding our feet.
    We are almost one month in and my wife is finding her feet quicker than me, for instance some little thing asked to do and I may be busy working on a project on the pc, I will say 'one moment love' and I now get a response while holding my key on her necklace 'No, I want it done now.' with a smile I have never seen before we started this.
    I can honestly say taking away my access to my body parts has stopped me watching porn and wasting energy that could be spent with her, until now I never saw it as neglect / cheating her of something that should come naturally.

    The one thing I am struggling with are waves of emotion I have never experienced before, but with what we have started I can vocalise where in the past I would lock away anything emotional.
    Who would have thought restricted access could bring about so many changes..?

    We learn step by step and so far both very happy.

    MadamBelle I hope your and SO are enjoying the new experience just as we are, and the information we have read on this site this past month has been enlightening.
    Have fun on your journey, oh and if you wear the key on a necklace like my wife be ready for questions a friend of my wife has already guessed what the key is for but the fact hasn't been confirmed that I know of.
     
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    My plan is to say 'it has something locked up that's very important to me. It's kinda like family jewels'
     
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    welcome. Sounds like you have the right attitude and are doing great so far.
     
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    heloo @MadamBelle i hope You like it here and i'm glad that You are here.
     
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    Greats story! Welcome to CM !
     
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