Hi everyone, looking from some advice here so please give it to me straight, no sugar coating. Been married a long time, in a purely heterosexual relationship, both in our fifties, vanilla only, no femdom. Basically I got caught looking at porn and it really hurt her emotionally. I am looking to rebuild trust, provide some accountability, and give her some control. This led me to the idea of a chastity device. We have never used anything like this. I know this will not prevent me from viewing porn, but at least it might remove the gratification since erections are restricted and masturbation is much more difficult. Speak of that, I was in a daily habit of masturbation that, since being discovered, I am now trying to break. It seems that the device will be a constant reminder to me of the behavior that I am trying to stop while helping me be more mindful of her at all times. This might help convince her that my loving intentions are authentic and not just trying to have sex at the time. Here is the problem: Can I trust her to be my only sexual outlet? Her level of sexual desire runs low and has been an ongoing source of contention, probably feeding the desire for me to resort to porn and masturbation. She "says" that she is willing to have sex twice a week which would suit me fine. I am concerned that if I turn over the keys to her, she will not be as sexually responsive as I need her to be, and will only result in me becoming more frustrated since I will be locked up. Since chastity is new to me, I have been experimenting with self-locking in secret during business hours while she is at work. This is mainly to prove to myself that I can handle being locked up. I have basically been locked 9am-5pm Monday-Friday for a couple weeks now. The cage is comfortable enough, but having it on causes me to think about sex even more. I end up tracking how many hours I have been locked and how many days it has been since our last sexual encounter. When she withholds for more than a week, I get depressed, anxious, and frustrated. I am sure that reduces her interest even further. If we go more than a week and I am locked 24x7, I might lose my cool. What do you think? Could this be a big mistake -or- could it actually be the "key" to helping restore the relationship? Are the things I am feeling about being locked just normal stages to go through before you get used to it and it becomes a normal part of the lifestyle? Thank you for your insights!