Good girl gone bad

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    So.. here I am. Trying something new in life. Something I never thought I would ever consider but am finding it addictive. My whole life i've been a sexual being. I can even remember making my barbies have sex lol Through all of my sexual experiences, I have always played a submissive gf. Always doing what I was told in the bedroom. I just assumed I was a more submissive person. Although in life i've always been a natural leader. So fast forward to a few months ago. I had been single a long time. Unexpectedly met someone who I immediately was attracted to and felt naturally compfortable with him and vice versa. He hinted around a bit here and there about some kinky stuff and of course I told him I love sex i'll try pretty much anything. So after a little coaxing he finally admitted to wanting to be locked up along with some other stuff. At first I was really shocked. Not in a bad way. I'm pretty open. But it took a minute to truly understand what he meant fully. Once we talked about it and decided to try it I enjoyed it right away. There were some difficulties for sure. I have a hard time being mean so its something we have had to work on. Also I have had to deal with him being hard to deal with. Always bugging. Although he is getting alot better. I tried to explain that if he made it this difficult all of the time.. I would get turned off from doing it. Too stressful. As of right now, things are going good. The communication is better, and he is alot more submissive and helpful. Any tips are gladly welcomed!
     
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    That's a VERY frequent issue. It is probably one of the biggest issues in terms of transitioning from fantasy or self-locking to reality/locking with a partner. It's good to hear that things are improving and that you had some patience for it. Both or either of those are not a given.
     
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    Welcome. One thing you might consider is limiting times you "role play". Have a "session" once a month or once a week and let him know that you don't want him to bug you about it outside those times (maybe just the night before!). This worked for me with a couple of gf's.

    If you both enjoy your roles in the relationship, the time spent in those roles will naturally increase... but go slowly and don't make it all about the play too soon.

    -droog
     
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    If he wanted you to be in charge, then let him know you’re in charge and you have some rules. No nagging is #1. And if he violates it, the cage comes off for [your choice: 2 weeks? A month?] and the dominance game stops during that time. That is, punish him by denying the thing he asked for. He’ll catch on.
     
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    Hi, and welcome to the Mansion
     
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    Welcome. Hope you'll get Verified and join the Keyholders forum. I'll look forward tour views on how chastity affects him, affects you as a confident woman, and your relationship as a whole.
     
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    Welcome and remember to keep it fun, especially in the beginning. Like you said you don’t want to get turned off.
     
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    Welcome! I'll look forward to learning how your relationship develops.
     
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    Any advice on how to deal with a difficult or whiney sub???
     
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    There are two approaches that are frequently seen here. Either you tell him all play stops until he knocks it off, or be very hard nosed about it and extend his denial indefinitely until he settles down. The first approach requires the least amount of effort from you.
     
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    What do u mean by verified?
     
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    The worst response to attention seeking behavior is to indulge it, even through punishment. My suggestion would be the same as described here:

    If you were to punish him by, for example, paddling him until he can't sit down for a day, that would work for the short term, but eventually he could forget the pain and start thinking how it was hot and thus repeat the behavior until he gets his punishment again.

    Of course, the denying him of his denial approach isn't without potential for issue. In the case of a child, the child could just continue to escalate their misbehavior until it reaches a destructive or criminal level so that the parent or authority figure HAS to react, but that shouldn't happen with an adult. Well, it shouldn't happen with an adult who is an adult.
     
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    Message L-u-c-y and become a Verified Female and you have access to a women-only forum for discussion.
     
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    Welcome here and it seems that your history it like the one of my laday, before submissive and discovering her power slowly with questions. Feel free to talk to her.
     
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    Welcome to the World of wanting to be Locked.

    To answer your Question on how to deal with a difficult or Whiney sub.
    What I would recommend is having a nice talk with him and finding out if he’s serious about being Locked and you holding the keys. When or if he agrees that Yes he wants you to take more control of him and you have the keys. Than you take the next step. You spank his backside very hard untill he is crying like a little boy than continue untill You Want To Stop.

    This is only my suggestion but I’m sure he won’t be Difficult or Whiney for a very long time.
    This can be repeated as required. Good Luck @Supgirl
    P.S. I do t think it’s Good Girl gone Bad. It’s more like Good Girl gotten Better ;);)
     
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    Welcome do the opposite of what he asks for since he craves your control anyway. Do he want to get out add a weeks until he learns it. Take control don't accept him controlling you by nagging for this and that simply take control. Glad finally one more woman has seen the pleasure of taking control.
     
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    What John said. If he is serious, he needs to be put in his place firmly and quickly. Sounds like he is trying to 'top from the bottom'. If he isn't serious, you'll soon know. As a true submissive I love it when my KH takes complete charge, even (especially?) when she gives me instructions that I do not want to do.
     
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