I have been at this for about 2 years and have found something that really does help a lot if you are struggling with your device with irritation or discomfort. 1. Shaving: I have been doing this for a long time, but when I shave down there I tend to have irritation issues with my device. So I switched to just trimming that area. I personally like having no hair, but have some helps me out. 2. Neosporin: Every night before I go to bed I put Neosporin on my skin where the base ring touches. This is a game changer if you are struggling with skin issues. 3. Goldbond: A lot of the under the ball sack issues come with sweat, then you start getting super irritated with the ring moving around on that area. Goldbond will knock that issue out in less than 2 seconds. Some other things I would like to put in aren't about irritation, they are just basic tips. 4. Bonding: Talk to your partner about doing something intimate every night, even if it is just for 2 or 3 minutes. Be honest about it. Get to a point where you are both happy with it, this point is different for every couple & person. 5. Nagging: There is a difference between communicating & nagging. The only person that can figure this part out is yourself. You'll get it eventually. 6. Expectations: Don't expect yourself or your partner to be on the same level of engagement you are all the time... Just expect them to be involved. Every couple is different, but I really chastity can be a good team building activity. Try to work things out so you and your partner are involved with one another. Just my opinion though... I'd like to hear your opinion and/or advice though. Best luck to all.