GF likes chastity but wants sex all the time

You should submit to her desires. Don’t push or bottom from the top. Be hers. Let your cock be hers. I tried to push for schedules (like two weeks or a month or three months) but my wife loved the power and control. She wanted to be capricious. I was leading by trying to adhere to a schedule.

Maybe you’re girlfriend is excited about the power. Let her do what she wants. Put her in control. You’ll be better off for it.

For us, I gave up all expectations. She’s flourished since I finally, actually, given her complete control and ownership of my orgasms, masturbation and sexual pleasure. It never worked before. It only worked when I gave up control for real. It’s hard. I make it sounds easy and simple. I understand that it’s not.

But if you start pushing for things she doesn’t want then she’s not in control. Believe me, she may be more perceptive than you think. I say things to my keyholding wife that I think are new, but she already knows.

And finally...
If you’re angling for cuckolding I can’t help you. I have no experience. I just know that needs full and open communication. Don’t underestimate the need to not just get one’s rocks off about something.

Honor her and her desires first and foremost and you’ll have a fantastic time. Let her surprise you.

 

Also you could try buying a realistic dildo unless you already have such. My wife was the same, but I bought Vixen Bandit and she has said really often how it was a good purchase. She used to say she prefers the real thing as I think most dildos are a bit too hard. Vixen's structure is closer to real one. I use it on a strapon harness.

 

^As above! It’s her key and hers to do with as she wants.

Chastity is such a complicated thing; we’re all doing it for different reasons. If my wife wanted frequent sex, I don’t think I’d have come across chastity. Well, perhaps for an evening of play... But I’d have been more than happy to meet her desire.

 

I would not try to push her too far. And that not necessarily about who should be in controll, but rather about the fact that she (also) has to be really satisfied with your sexlife.

Do not put that on risk by wanting too much in too short a time.

 

As others have said chastity is about submitting to her will and empowering her.
I would suggest going slowly let her be in control and see where it leads, there is nothing to say you can not communicate your wishes but I found the best way to do that was on a specific day each week we would have free speech time where I would be allowed to communicate my wants, needs and any issues or problems I was having. During those times I would express if I felt I was getting enough cage time or to much or if I was struggling it helps to avoid topping from the bottom.

It has taken us years to get this far with our flr and for me to find this deep level of submission with my KH, just remember it takes time, effort and willpower from both parties and both parties need to be invested.

 

Sounds like my madam, except she doesn’t want sex with me!

 

The whole point of chastity cages is that she's in control of *her* dick. She doesn't have to and shouldn't forego traditional sex. You should be the one foregoing -- foregoing masturbation, foregoing control and manipulation, submitting the penis and your penile narcissism to her management in order to bring you closer as a couple.

 

My wife brought up this very concept 5 years ago today.

That evening she said I was “Narcissistic”. She said “You're infatuated with your penis, narcissistic” and that I should be put back in my cage.

I have been under her masturbation and orgasm control ever since she had this revelation.

We men are infatuated and narcissists about our penises.

 

This. I asked my wife about this topic very recently. I asked if she liked her dildo. "YES!" was her reply. I asked if it felt real, and she said "It's more of a real cock than that puny thing between your legs!" I told her I had read about people soaking dildos in hot water to get them closer to body temperature, and she said that setting it alongside to my body while she rides my face and then having me "fluff" it to get it wet for her was working just fine.

 

A couple of things to consider from Steelworxx.

 

Nice idea! I like the way those look.

 

Generous amount of numbing cream and 2 condoms. She cums, You don’t. Then right back in the cage. This and the strap-on are the only two ways my wife will allow me to have sex with her the few times a year she unlocks me.

 

Get her a body wand and she may never let you out

 

Weirdly enough, it's even more difficult to be unlocked and used for sex after 13 months without! No matter which way you go, zero sex, once a year sex, once a week sex, it will always be a compromise, and be difficult to manage for someone who loves chastity and denial. Even if sex is a few times a week, the vast majority of your time will be spent locked and denied. For myself, and especially before we got serious about chastity, my focus was on sex being for her pleasure. We used techniques based on Tantric, and I focused my actions entirely on her pleasure, and not my own. Eventually it got to the point where mentally, I was trying to achieve her orgasm, and when she would cum, I would go soft after, as if I'd also had an orgasm. After many years, I did not associate my own pleasure (even though it felt good) or orgasm with sex. This made the transition to full chastity way easier for me.

 

My wife was the same at first, and still is to a point. I bought her all kinds of expensive life like dildos in an array or sizes, colors and materials, but she still swears its not as good as the real thing.

I have convinced her to use the numbing cream idea and she did enjoy it and that could possibly be our way forward, however she is concerned about lasting damage and voiced concerns about doing it regularly... research ongoing.

As for the wand idea, I bought one for the wife before i admitted my chastity fantasy and she can't put it down, alone or with me, and sometimes even on me.

Finally, there is one thing that actually did really get her attention recently and she told me that I "May be in trouble" if we owned one. That was the Sneaky Pete Fucking Machine. I would need more time to put into words, what occurred when she used it. So I'll do that another time, suffice it to say I think she found something that could safely replace me... Which is both exciting and terrifying..

 

Its the same as a Hitachi

 

You should be thankful. She locks your cock up or should I say her property. It is exclusively hers for her pleasure and use. You have the best of both worlds embrace it MistressS

 

WOW!

 

Go with the flow, don’t make it arduous for Her. In 12 months time would you be happy if you are still playing the chastity game and She is locking you up a bit longer than She is now?
If yes then let it happen, keep quiet and play by Her rules. It will get better. She is finding Her feet with it