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    ive been involved with chastity almost since the original CB2000 came out.

    As we all know life has a strange way of taking us on a journey through places we want and don’t want.

    I’ve tried different devices, and been involved in different relationships. Currently I have a Mature Metal Jailbird that I believe is sized really well. I’ve also reconnected with a Domme friend who I believe is going to make me one of her subs. As such I’ll be locked for her pleasure.

    In preparation for this, I’ve been wearing the Jailbird since last Sunday. If all goes as planned, tomorrow I’ll be giving her the keys.

    I’m both excited and scared. Excited as she’s an amazing Domme that I trust. Scared because as we know getting what you ask for can be mixed blessing.

    What I know so far is that the Jailbird has been very comfortable. Some minor discomfort when I’m excited, but overall much more comfortable and no issues getting used to it.

    I will say that in all the years that I’ve been involved with chastity play, I don’t recall hearding about folks talking about the testees being confined, and pushed out a bit and howit makes people feel. With the snug small Jailbird (I’m a grower so it’s quite small), I feel like I’m literally being held by the balls. And as a submissive wanting to go deeper in submission this is an interesting feeling.

    So I’d love to hear what others have experienced with this. I’ll also post more as things develop.
     
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    Well today is the last day of the first week being locked up.
    I’m really happy so far. I’m waiting to get my instructions on what panties to wear. Then hopefully I’ll be on my way to meet with my new Domme.

    I’ve also been thinking about what to wear to the gym, I need to get back to it. Im thinking a tight jock strap or a dance bet might hold the Jailbird well. I guess experimenting is in order.
     
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    well i hope that you am ok and that your cage is nice and comfy and that your new Mistress is nice as well. After you been locked up for a some weeks you just gets use to it and if your Mistress unlocks you for a bit well it feels funny cos you got use to having a cage on all the time. if it hurts a lot please go and tell Her tho.
     
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    jemima thank you
    I just took it off as I think I’m pushing a bit. Overall I’m doing well but it was feeling a bit tender.

    I agree that removing it after wearing it is odd. I know a weekisnt much but it was a good first test
     
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    yes tis and you has to make sure that a new cage is ok for you.
     
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    The cage isn’t new. I’ve worn it some, had it adjusted. I just haven’t worn it in a long time
     
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    Well six days was a bit long after a long layoff.
    I got some rubbing that made me tender.

    So some ointment, and a few days out and Ive been allowed to go with a more gradual work up to long term lock up.
     
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    It sounds like you have made great progress getting back into chastity. Do you have any specific goals? Staying locked for a month at a time? Whatever your goal, heal and keep on working at it!
     
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    Well actually I’m quite sad right now. It seems doing a week was too much too fast.
    I should have gone with my gut but it felt so good.

    I’m now paying the price as a rubbed spot heals.

    So, in a few days I’ll do one day, then a day of, then two, then a day off, then four, then if all is good eight, then two weeks. it’s slower but I should be able to go to long term/“permenant” after that.

    The goal is a year without an orgasm. So we will see
     
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    Well today’s my birthday and it’s hard to believe that the last year went so fast.

    I decided that I’m giving up orgasms for this year. I’m also giving up male underwear and going to work back up to wearing my jailbird full time. As the last time I went too long too fast and developed a sore then got busy and sidetracked.

    So today is day one.
     
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    happy birthday. :)
     
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    Thank you
    It was nice

    And it’s really nice to be locked and in panties
     
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    I've only had two devices. My first was a cheap flexible silicone knock off of the CB models. from there I went to the jailbird. I have a few pictures in my pictures section of how it fits. I have no point of comparison, but I do agree it kind of grabs your balls and pulls them up and forward. It kind of creates a ledge out of your scrotum. Cleaning there is difficult, but imperative. I'm surprised to hear about your sore spot. You might want to discuss with Mature Metal as that shouldn't happen with a proper fit. I'm a grower too and went very small. It's snug to the point of having some marks when removed that fade quickly, but no broken skin. Happy Birthday :+1: 1 Year :eek:
     
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    Thanks. I adjusted it a little as it’s snug but not too tight. Any looser and I can get out. Any tighter and it would hurt me. So it’s fit right.

    That said, I think I found that Vaseline is the best lube for me.

    So my plan is to wear it a day, the. Off. Then two, then four, then a week then however long.

    I made the first day which was so comfortable that I went basically a day and a half. I’m out now but will put it on tonight then begin two days.

    I haven’t cum since the 12 and it’s a struggle but I’m going to be good.
     
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    So today is day ten without an orgasm.
    I’m still getting used to my Jailbird. I’m also working on stretching my high sac a bit. This seems to help a lot.

    I’m also talking with a lady locally who is interested in learning about Femdom. So while I don’t know where thing will go, it’s nice to at least talk to someone with similar interests.

    So the goal now is to get several days going in a row where the cage is comfortable and no chafing occurs. I think I’m close as I’ve done a couple days in a row now, and I’m able to sleep. I suspect that more slow and steady and patience along with more stretching and I’ll be good.

    Overall the Jailbird is very comfortable and secure since the adjustments. So it’s just getting used to it and working up time!
     
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    Hi @tomf_22033 With many of us guys it seems that patience and perseverance is needed. Good luck.

    I think this is something that I need to work on. Can I be so bold as to ask what have you been doing to stretch your sac?
     
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    Um
    Do you have an itch issue?
    Seems you might want to figure what’s causing it.

    I really don’t have an issue
    Lots of lube helps a lot
     
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    The last few days have been uneventful. As expected The Jailbird is getting more and more comfortable as I get used to it.

    My only concern now is rubbing as the last couple of times that I started wearing it I chafed at the base. I think adjusting the lube, the stretching and being more patient is addressing this.

    So the plan is to be locked the rest of the weekend. I then take off the cage, inspect and then decide.

    If there are no signs of rubbing and chafing then I’ll make a choice between a day off or going for a full week.

    Either way the next goal will be a full week. Then I think I’ll be good. I’ll probably do one more set of checks though just to be safe as my recent experiences haven’t been good.

    But so far so good.
     
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    Given that your recent experiences haven't been good, maybe the best option is a day off before going for a full week (says he who hates a few hours off even though I haven't quite ironed everything out yet. lol).
     
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    Well shipping is stupid.
    I know on small items sometimes it’s as much or like you shoes more than the item.

    FYI, I got the Oxballs from Mr S in SF. I was just seeing what they had and found them. I like them as they’re inexpensive, they stretch and they’re easy to use. In the past I’ve used metal ball stretcher weights and they’re nice once you get them on nut a pain to put on and they’re expensive.

    Likewise I’ve also used leather straps and they’re also a pain and expensive.
     
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    Things have been rough the last few weeks with work. Today I had a major setback.

    So I'll be starting over again once things settle down which I'm not sure when it will be.
     
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    Hope things have settled down and that you're relocked.
     
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    Nope
    Going through another rough time with work.

    But thanks for the kind wishes. Right now work and addressing some personal stuff are the top priorities.
     
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