My cage is ordered and I was thinking, ok... let’s not go mad.... first, a week... then maybe another week... then maybe get the wife to start ‘adding’ extra days and make sure she sticks to her ‘punishments’... then at the beginning of February, let’s try a 2 weeker up to Valentine’s Day... then we start cranking things up. My wife was unsure about this last year so I do have some baby steps to do with this.... I don’t want to scare her off of this little kink of mine, but she did finally come around more to it by telling me to order the device at the end of December. 100 days is something I will get around to suggesting to her - but I do need to ease her into this gently - so to speak! Will keep you posted! In the meantime, what other similar experiences have people had regarding a lengthy time out and maybe even getting back into it with a completely different partner than when previously locked?? Was this a struggle to explain to new partner?? Just curious!
I used to have a Curve - but WAAAAAY too big!!.. got rid of that years ago... I’m now having trouble with nighttime erections actually waking me up - so I’ve gone for small - i understand after much reading this is way more comfy generally and will stop hardons during the night!! It should arrive next week!!
You seem to be making the assumption that YOU not your wife will be deciding how long you stay locked! Now wouldn't it be funny if she just took the keys and went for 100 days straight off! . Have fun, whatever happens!
I agree with @Chaste J. If you want this to be for her leave it up to her. You never know where this may take her, she may enjoy it more than you think. You know what we say about being careful for what................. Good luck.
Hmmm.... now THAT is something I hadn’t actually taken into account!! :-0 Crikes... thank you... a very good point made there!!
Yes. It's up to her, leave your fantasies at the curb. Just serve her and submit to her and she'll figure out when to lock and unlock. Warning: there's usually a proportional relationship between the quality of your service and the length of lock-up.
So, previously my longest lockup was for one month and almost two weeks. When I was locked up on 15 December, my K/H told me, with a big grin, "I thought this time we'd try to break your record." When I hesitantly asked her how much more time she had in mind, her reply was just, "We'll see."
Well..... my wife gave a number - she said 30 days..... and laughed. Whether she laughed on purpose I’m now not sure. What did I reply?? “30 days? Easy!” She just calmly said “I know you can”. So I think we will indeed be looking at at lock up until possibly precisely Valentine’s Day... which is kinda nice I guess! (If a little long for someone who’s used to almost daily cums! :-O
She didn’t but then it was late so maybe doesn’t realize that Valentines is now only 34 days away! So when the cage arrives, it’s going to be pretty much a whole month I would say! However. While some people like the idea of wondering WHEN exactly they will be realeased, I personally find it more exciting having a set number of days and setting a release date. This just makes it easier to know that if she adds extra days because I screw up in some way, then those extra days are indeed a punishment. If the release date is unknown, her then adding extra days makes no difference.. if you get my point...
Hi Andylocked.... I am in the same boat as you almost, after 6 years of locking ( aprox 300 days per yr ). I was forced by a medical condition to unlock for a year. Just in the past month have we re-dipped our toes back into chastity. It will be a learning process all over again, lots of communication , and understanding. There are some permanent changes that we have no control over. I am very happy that my Wife / KH accepts that this is a brand new adventure for the both of us. Only time will tell how things work out, but we both are hopeful.
Thanks for sharing! My previous experience was pretty much on and off (in and out?) due to my ex not really being into it at all. My wife now knows of my regular solo habit and to be honest, things haven’t been great between us over the years - I won’t go into details, but my fault and too much booze. I have been dry now for 3 years and still have a lot of making up to my fantastic wife to do! Having told her lots about the benefits of male chastity, she is back on board with the idea and we both look forward to how things will hopefully pick up as I KNOW I need to focus more on her and less on me and my selfish ways!
I know exactly what you mean, having a target creates that "anticipation". But still gives her the opportunity to move the goal posts if you are a naughty boy! We play in a different way. No dates or targets, I'm just locked subject to her every whim! Mrs Chaste likes LONG lock ups and I mean LONG! It works for us. The actual being locked up is 24/7, 365 (barring problems or hospital, doctor things). So even if she did let me out for a proper orgasm or just for a tease I'm locked back up immediately afterwards! Everyone is different and that's what makes it fun!
I made the mistake yesterday of pointing out that Valentines Day was roughly 30 days away - so what might be an idea is maybe a good starting point would be 2 weeks from now and 2 weeks before Valentines. (Obviously I was just testing the water BUT was firmly rebuked by my wife telling me not to even THINK about advising her on this particular subject! I think I can safely say she is definitely getting into this now. She even started telling me last night that she hopes the cage is small enough for my tiny thing! I mentioned how SPH is also a bit of a thing for me - and she seems to thoroughly enjoy teasing me in that way!!! I ended up trying to get to sleep with a VERY leaky tip!!! (Making the most of holding him while I still can! 2 days to go, I think!!) :-O
On Thursday in post #11 you reported that she told you 30 days. So two days later you're negotiating with her for half that time? You're lucky she didn't punish you, which would have entirely appropriate.
In case I didn’t get this across.... I am actually getting quite nervous about this now... having been such a habitual and totally selfish Spanker of the monkey over the years, I am now starting to worry this is not the best idea I ever had - I LOVE sex and love having orgasms - having read up and being fairly knowledgable on the subject of male chastity, isn’t going to make this any easier - This could well be one of those “Be careful what you wish for” moments. Ignore me for wittering on - am sure it’s going to be fine.... just a little worrying at this moment in time!!! :-O
Hahaha!!! I know - i’ve Always been stupid and every bit of trouble I’ve had in my life has been down to my own stupidity! My wife is a VERY strong person, so with this, her ability to shout me down WILL work for her. If I try any more negotiating, she will make me suffer... trust me on that!
Sounds like you need strict chastity, that you aren't able or willing to control your masturbating. Masturbation is selfish and disrespectful, and distracts from your attention to and consideration of your wife. If she's strict with your chastity she'll improve your ability to be emotionally intimate with her and thus your marriage. You're here on CM, so you know that deep inside this what you want.
You are completely right of course - it’s just been 5 years since I last ‘dabbled’ in this kink, and because of the difference in cage size also, i’m just a little nervous! More so this time as my wife is definitely more into it this time also - However, been there done that... only this time... I dunno! Just nervous!! I have been extremely selfish over the years... so I know I have a lot of making up to do - trouble is, my wife knows that also!!! Lol!!
Well.... the postal service have kindly emailed me.. today is the day - new cage arrives and tonight WILL be my first lock up in ages! Trepidation is one word... we shall see how it goes!!!
It’s here and he is now in and secure...ish.. but a restless night was had.. no growing problems, comfortable as comfy!! Just excited I guess!! Anyway... new smaller ring (45mm) is on the way, 50 was just me being overly optimistic!!
And my, that was quick - ordered the 45mm ring - it’s arrived and after a good few minutes getting everything through the ring (puff pant!), and then 10 minutes getting the cage aligned with the connections on the metal ring, and minding out for pinching and stuff..... IT’S ON!! And feels much more comfortable now and sits better against my pelvis! Fingers crossed everything stays in place & we shall see what the future holds from today onwards!