General Thoughts On Starting Out

There are several articles, posts, insights on finding the correct device, this is my take from my experience trying to find the correct cage. Several of the things I have read always redirect back to expensive devices and are from people with great insight and experience but that comes from a 24/7 lifestyle and are willing to invest in expensive products. Several people on post and boards with talk about their love of their custom made metal device. A custom made device is almost always going to fit the best. The problem is, many people experimenting with this type of play have no desire to spend several hundred dollars on a device. They never intend to make this a 24/7 lifestyle, it’s just a fun game to play over a weekend or for a week here and there. Their budget might be $25.00 - $150.00.


When starting to purchase devices I have found many people go at it blindly, choosing something that looks neat or sexy. It’s not unheard of for someone to buy 3-10 inexpensive Chinese ripoffs before they find something that fits. It’s also not unheard of for people to discover that some cages (not all) are interchangeable. They might have a ring that fits from one and a cage from another. If you have a firm understanding of your sizing, you can speed up the process. Nothing stinks more than waiting for a device only to find out its unwearable.


Metric system- just about everything in sizing is going to be in mm. If you are from the US find an online conversion program. I use google and it seems to work fine.


You’re likely if you are going to start with a less expensive model and be using what is commonly called a ball trap device. A ring goes around the base of your testicles and shaft and connects to a cage that slides up along the shaft. A ring too tight and your testicles could become damaged. A ring too loose and you could have a ball slip out (very painful I’m told). A cage too long and pee can hang out inside of it making a stink and cause hygiene issues including skin breakdown. A cage is too short and it can cause compression of the skin, not allowing it to breath properly. You also risk the chance of it becoming easier to escape from in a small cage. Since you are probably not buying a custom device and are going to be between sizes offered by the manufacturer, I would suggest going a little bigger on the ring and a little shorter on the cage.


Basic measurements- the two basic measurements that you are going to have is the diameter behind your testicles and penis. There is also the shaft length for the cage itself. Things I wish I would have paid more attention to in the beginning was taking accurate measurements of both. Take string, wrap it behind the scrotum and penis. Take the length and divide it by pi (3.14) that gives you your diameter. If you measured in inches plug that into an online converter and you get the mm. You will likely get something between 40mm-52mm, you might fall outside of that but the vast majority of people will find themselves in a ring around that size. Next measure your flaccid penis tip to base. The mistake (myself included) many people make when they take these measurements, is they do it once. Take it a few times. Your goal is to find your unexcited size. Don’t pull that string too tight and make sure the penis is flaccid. I really would encourage you to take it a few times throughout the day. Now that you have your measurements add a couple mm to that ring size and find a cage length that will be just as long as your flaccid penis. A couple more things I will note on measurements, first called ball gap. Ball gap is the room between the head of the cage and the scrotum. You’ve got a ring around your penis holding the balls in place, that cage is pressing down on the testicles, squeezing that scrotum. It's a balance, you don’t want to squeeze too hard, if it’s too tight your balls will feel like they are burning as that skin stretches out. If it’s too loose you risk a ball popping out, that shaft will also sit higher making it more noticeable under clothes. A lot of people think their ring is too small, it’s not, their ball gap is too small. Not all cages will let you adjust this measurement, with metal cages you can manually adjust it by bending them in place. It’s definitely the hardest measurement to find. If you are new to chastity I would suggest going a little bigger on the ball gap. The second thing is the circumference of your penis (just the shaft). You want a cage that is just about the same size, maybe a hair bigger than the flaccid penis. As you shop around avoid anything smaller than that. It will be painful and cause bruising.


Materials- There are several posts on these that can explain it better. Metal seems to be the choice from several people. It’s strong, attractive, gives a sense of being inescapable. It’s also heavier, tends to be more expensive, and will shoot off metal detectors.


Silicon offers a little bit of give. It’s light, they tend to be on the cheaper side and come in a lot of colors. Their material also offers the ability to be hidden under clothes easier than some other materials. They are also hard to clean and can be cut with scissors (which might be a good thing for your situation).


Plastic- Wide range of plastics are used. If you plan on using one for any length of time make sure the plastics are safe. These are probably the most popular entry level materials, several manufactures come with different sizes in the same box so once you order you can play around with rings and spacers to find your fit. They come in several colors and some are clear. There are a wide range of designs and some are easier to keep clean than others. Most people start with plastic, a lot of people’s first device is a CBXXXX or a Chinese rip off of that device.Holy Trainer and The Vice are also popular choices for a first attempt.


Hygiene- Honestly when I first started I didn’t even think about hygiene. My wife and I would play for a couple days at a time and didn’t think much about it. It was not until I did my first week straight and was shoving q-tips down the shaft of a holy trainer device did I really grasp the importance of an easily cleaned device. When you purchase one, just be mindful of how you are going to keep that clean. Cages with bars are going to be a lot easier to clean than closed cages. Your penis will also sweat inside that solid plastic/ silicon cage. It’s going to get a bit funky. If you play for a weekend, it’s not going to hurt much to use a shower attachment to hose it down with some soap. Go a week and that's a different story. If your partner like to give oral sex, they are not going to want to give it to a penis that has been locked up for a week without a proper cleaning.


Lock- Three types of locks are used for most chastity devices. The standard padlock like you would see from master lock. The next is a lock blocker which was first designed to go in antique furniture locks to make them more secure. The last is plastic numbered locking tabs. There are two other methods I’ve seen people use for more permanent methods. One is to rivet the device shut (yeah drive rivets into a lock so it can’t be undone). The other is a product from Cherry Keeper called the Permalocker that fits in a lock block style lock. It is essentially a plastic tab that has to be drilled out if you want the belt off.


Personally I’m a fan of the lock blocker style of lock, with its low profile. My wife likes the feel of the click of the master lock. Those plastic tabs are great for travel. With most belts you won’t get to choose the style of lock but some brands do have adapters.


Lubrication- Finding a good lubrication for the base ring is important. Honestly, the best advice I have is to experiment. Find something that works for your skin type and won’t breakdown your device. Personally I just use lotion. I apply it more frequently than a silicon lube, but it’s handy and I can store it in public and nobody is the wiser and it’s inexpensive. Everyone is different I’ve seen all of these and tried a few:

Vaseline

Goldbalm

Silicon Lube

Lotion

Coconut Oil

Baby Oil

No lube

Products for diaper rash

Products for pregnant bellies

Aloevera


I would experiment. Try a few to see what works for you. Lube the base ring and keep your scrotum conditioned. I would avoid lubricating the penis, if you need help inserting it I would search for the stocking method.


Last thoughts, as fun as it is to put a device on and hand over the keys. Real life gets in the way of the fantasy. Don’t go too fast in the beginning a few hours at a time and keep doubling it until you get to 24 hours. Too much too soon can cause frustration and for you to give up before the fun begins. Have a key on you or within reach until you can wear the device for a full day uninterrupted. After this point you might hand over the key but I would suggest being unlocked by keeping on doubling it 24,48, 96 then I would go to 168 hours (1 week). After each of those is finished the device needs to be removed and inspected. Check for any redness, chafing, sores, bruising, swelling of skin, anything that does not look right. If you find something let yourself heal before you proceed. I know it’s tempting to power through the pain. Don’t, that’s sensitive equipment down there. While it’s healing it gives you an opportunity to find out what caused the issue. Was it the body just toughening skin? Does something need to be adjusted on the device? Should you sand something down? Is this device working for you? Something that didn’t bother you at 48 hours might be killing you at 96. Also try to plan for your first overnight lockup to occur when you don’t work the next day. You will be woken up a lot. Burning scrotum is not uncommon the first few nights until your body adjusts to it.


Once you get to a week with no issues then you hit a crossroads on what to do. Several people will go longer than this. If that’s what you want to do, I would still suggest getting let out once a week for cleaning not only yourself but the device. If you have a cage that is more accessible to cleaning, maybe you and your partner want to go longer. With the right device you could go much longer.


This is just stuff I picked up from experience and things I learned on the web. You could dive much deeper into all of this stuff. But it’s all stuff I think people need to consider before ever investing money and putting anything on. I believe you can find a comfortable device that can be worn for a long time without breaking the bank. The important thing is you and your partner play safe, be hygienic and have fun during the process from searching for a device, working through the trial period to that click of the lock when they take the key for the first time.

For this of you who have been locked for a while do you agree or disagree? Any other things to take into consideration?