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    Happy to Serve

    Hello, pet. Aren't you happy to be under me? Of course you are.

    I am gentle, sensual, kind, yet voraciously greedy. I will seduce you long before I own you. You'll be under my spell and will hardly notice that you've signed your mind and body away. My eyes have that effect on people, I can't help it.

    You might be Mr Tough Guy Know it All, who bosses everyone around at work, but I'm the real Boss at home. Or you might be Mr Shy Guy no one notices, eyes always on the floor until I come along and elevate you to my servant.

    First you got to feel my curves, sitting on your lap and petting your chest, making you feel manly and strong. I'm so warm and soft and dammit- sparkly. There's just so much of me, you can't hold it all. Maybe it was the curves, or maybe it was pulling your head back and biting your neck that first got you hard. Wrapped in chains and helpless, you have to sit there and take it while I grind against your aching cock. The ball gag muffles you, so I'm not bothered.

    That ache will be nothing compared to when you're locked in chastity while eating me out. A curious tongue and curled fingers get the honey flowing all over your face. Better yet, let's put a dildo gag on you. Fucking me with your face, you can smell it but don't get a taste. I can feel you squirming in sweet misery, so I dig my fingers in your hair to keep you in place.

    Your cock is my favorite play toy. Oh, the things my delicate fingers do to you for hours at a time. It hurts my feelings when you're not hard for me, but that's easy to ensure with a gentle twirl or firm stroke. You'll literally be bursting at the seams, begging for sweet release, but I'll just drop it and go back to my book. Too bad your hands are tied behind your back and have to wait for me to take interest in you again. Poor baby.

    But you live for it, all of it. Isn't it such an honor that I let you care for my body? You get to brush my hair and wash me in the shower, work lotion into every inch of skin. You get to paint my nails and kiss my feet. Doesn't it fill you with joy when you work out a knot in my shoulder and hear my relaxed sigh?

    The highest of privileges is that you get any access to my body at all, and one you never take for granted. The sight of me naked is an absolute treasure. Finer than rubies and diamonds is the sugar that melts out of me when you do a good job. Pure ambrosia, nectar of a Goddess. The moans and cries I make, the arch of my back and thrust of my hips, every time I come all over you, is a gift. You gladly worship at the Temple.

    Those memories put a spring in your step each morning. Or maybe it's my bracelet around your ankle. Or the scratches down your back. Or the teeth marks on your chest. You carry me with you. Let's be real-it's the cage holding your cock.

    In any case, serving me makes you stand taller, you take immense pride in your role. Of all the guys I could spend my time with, I spend it with you. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry could ogle me on the street, but you've earned a peek at the goods. I am a pure, sweet, fairy princess in the outside world. Only my slave sees the raw, primal side of me, when I submit to my own desire and greed. Your tongue gets to work the nectar out of me-who wouldn't stand tall?

    We make a great pair. I need a capable man to use and abuse and you like to be used. Nothing makes you happier than to kneel at my feet while we watch tv, my fingers playing with your hair. Well maybe one thing.

    Maybe you're happiest when your cock is bulging out of its cage, while you wear a harness and fuck me with a strap on, hands gripping my hips, suckling a nipple while I cry out that you're such a good boy, and you can almost feel what it would be like inside me-maybe that's when you're happiest.

    Doesn't really matter to me.
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    Why Chastity?

    Chastity is a huge kink for me, but it's not just kink. I don't want this to be a bummer, but here's the biggest reason why I love male chastity:

    It keeps me safe. Let's be honest, it's a very, very, very scary world out there for women and girls. I once read an erotica where a man's mother kept his key and gave it to his wife on their wedding day, so that he never held the key to his own cock. I thought..."Wow, assault would vanish if all boys had to do this." I'm mostly joking and I know the problem is much deeper than that, but I do think about it from time to time.

    Almost every boy or man I've dated pushed me relentlessly, and a lot of them outright crossed the lines. I've been assaulted several times in different ways. It's hard to say that.

    So when I first saw a cock cage in porn, my heart soared. I'd never have to deal with some dude poking me all night! No more begging for blowjobs! It's a dream come true!!

    I think chastity is such a turn on for me because it means that sexual activity will always be on my terms. Guys in chastity love to be teased and played with no promise of release. They enjoy oral service and fingering, they get pleasure from giving me pleasure. And if I do want intercourse, I simply let him loose. But I don't have to feel like I'm the caretaker of his erection.

    I'm happy to be a keyholder to help a guy out, and I'm happy to be a keyholder of a kinky pet. And I'm not really a Dominant woman. But in my heart of hearts, I would love to date a man in chastity. I would love to meet a man through here. Sometimes I daydream of telling a vanilla guy my story and he volunteers to be in chastity while we're dating, just to make me feel safer. I would feel BEYOND honored if a man did that for me. Knowing I never have to see or feel an erection before I'm ready would really help with my PTSD.

    So maybe this isn't the happiest story, and I do really, REALLY get turned on by male chastity, but it's deeper than that for me. I hope I'm still welcome in this great community <3 <3 <3

     
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    I am looking forward to meet you, and hopefully serve you. Tell me more. When, where I may serve you. I have a chastity device and would love to present the key to you
     
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    i dont think you'll have a hard time finding a locked male willing to serve. You just need to find someone who you also like and get along with. Good luck with your search. And thanks for sharing.
     
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    FIRST TIME

    *(I have lots of scene ideas, but this is how I handle every first session with a new pet. Don’t take my word for it, but this is how I treat every new sub in regards to safety and consent.)*


    Yes, we’ve chatted online. Yes, we’ve met in person and felt each other out...so to speak. Yes, we’ve shared our limits, fears, and needs for safety. Yes, we’d both like to move forward. Yes, we’re both sober and of sound mind. Yes, we’re at a safe location in the daytime where there are no weapons. Yes, we’ve done everything possible to prepare for your First Time with Me.

    Now it’s time to play.


    “Let me get a good look at you. May I touch you?” I ask.

    “Yes, Mistress,” you reply. You leave your hands in your pockets as I look you over, running a few fingers over your shoulders, back, chest. I ever-so-lightly trace my finger over your hips above your belt. You are careful not to move a muscle. I smile. “Good form,” I say. “Let’s just sit on the couch for a while, to get comfortable. Okay?”

    “Yes, Gaia,” you reply.

    “Good.”

    I take out a hairband and ask for your hands behind your back. I wrap it with a twist in the middle around both wrists. You could be free in 2 seconds if you needed to. You make yourself comfortable, sitting down first, ruching around until you can lean back with your arms behind you. “I want to sit on your lap,” I say. You nod happily. I settle on top of you and lean against you, my head on your shoulder. I take a deep breath and rest for a minute, I can smell your cologne from here and you can take in my perfume.


    “How’s this?” I ask. “Very nice,” you say.

    “I want to run my hands over you. May I?”

    “Of course, Mistress.”

    “Are there any places that you don’t want to be touched?”

    “Uh, nope, it’s all up for grabs.” We both laugh.

    “Okay, good. Just relax,” I say, and lay a hand on your chest. I sit like this for a minute, then slowly rub my hand in circles, then move up to your shoulder and down your arm, slowly. I’m in no rush, we’ve got all day, and the slower I go the more your nerves are amplified. I trace my fingers up your neck, around your ears, run my nails through your hair. You respond to my touch with shivers and a quick inhale; you’d like to groan but not sure if you’re allowed to. I twirl my fingers in the hair at the base of your neck, which shoots lightning down your spine and also makes you happy as a sleeping kitten.


    Laying against you, I can feel every muscle move. When your thighs get tight, when your arms flex, when you gasp or breathe sharply, when your chest tightens, each time your back arches just a little. Your face tells me everything you want to say. “You can make a noise,” I tell you while I run a finger sloooowly over your lips and down your neck. “I like my pets expressive.” Almost before I finish my sentence you let out the sound you’ve been holding for the last five minutes. I smile and gently bite your neck, which elicits another noise.


    I take my time, tickling your neck with my fingers and sometimes my tongue. I unbutton your shirt and run my hands over your chest. “Mmm I love your skin,” I say and place a kiss on your shoulder. You are in Heaven, though a certain part of you is beginning to ache. Running my hands over you, feeling your warmth and muscle, tracing your jaw and playing with your hair, has already got me started. But I won’t let you see it yet. “Can I play with my new toy?” I ask, my hand on your belt buckle. You swallow. “Yes. Please…”

    I abandon the buckle and tease you through your jeans. You drop your head back against the couch. I dig my fingers in a little, trying to determine the shape of you as you expand. I feel you out and trace around your edges.


    I open your jeans and take you in my hand. “Are you having fun?” I ask while watching the thoughts running across your face. “Yes, Gaia. Ah.. fuck,” you whisper under your breath. I give you a tight squeeze. “You can at least call me Goddess while your dick’s in my hand.” I put on a frown. “Yes, Goddess, shit, sorry.” I laugh and bite your neck. “It’s okay,” I say. “You were distracted.”


    A warm piece in my hand and a squirming man does something to me. I’m relaxed, but electricity starts to run through me while I watch your face, your heart’s beating faster, you’re starting to sweat. I love teasing you, stroking quickly, then slowly, soft, then firm, stopping altogether every time your legs tense up. I think I heard you whimper. I giggle every time you make an especially helpless sound. The more fun I have, the more I lean against you, putting the weight of my breasts on your chest. Kisses and gentle nips now grow rougher on your neck. You don’t know how much more you can take, and you hope it never ends.


    “Okay, on your knees, boy.” I stand up abruptly. It takes a full 3 seconds for the haze to clear and you to realize what I said. “Yes, Mistress,” you struggle to get off the couch without use of your hands. I help you to the floor and make you sit up straight. I stand behind you and whisper in your ear. “I want you to eat me, dear. Would you mind?”
    “No Mistress, I mean Yes Mistress, I mean I’d love to eat you Goddess,” you sputter. I kiss your neck and stand up. I run my hands through your hair for a minute, you can feel my hips against one shoulder. I step away and take a small carabiner clip from my purse. “I’m leaving one hand free to assist you, okay?” You nod yes. I slip one hand out of the hairband and use the clip to secure your other hand to a belt loop on your jeans. You can free yourself quickly if you need to.


    I gently massage your free wrist for a few seconds. With my back to you, I reach under my skirt and pull down my underwear, tossing the lace to the floor. I settle back into the couch and beckon you forward. “Come here, pet. That’s right.” You rest your head on my knees and I play with your hair, waiting for your breathing to slow. When I think you’re ready, I lift your chin up to look in my eyes. I slowly inch my skirt up as I speak. “Alright boy, I want you to do your best, let’s see if you can impress me. And don’t rush, we’ve got all day. Let’s see how good you are your first time. Ready?” You nod eagerly, I can see the joy in your eyes. I kiss you on the forehead and guide your mouth to my waiting lips.


    That’s all, folks! If you want to know what happens next, maybe you should apply for an open position ;-)
    Gaia <3 <3 <3
     
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    Goddess Gaia, with your permission this sub slave would like to apply for any open position you may have or need. I am a wm 62 5'6" 215. I am a slave who loves to serve and please. I do have a chastity cage and would be honored to have you be my keyholder. I live near Lancaster. My personal e-mail is xxxxxxxxx Thank you for your consideration

    Mod Note - email address removed. Please use the message system on the site. Not a good idea to publish email addresses.
    Cheers
    Carrie :)
     
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    SPECIAL NIGHT


    I don’t know why it happened. It’s not our anniversary or anyone’s birthday. I didn’t get a raise at work. Maybe it was the phase of the moon, or maybe I'm just really in love with you today.


    When we got back home, we were still laughing from a joke you told in the car, but once the door was shut, I backed into the wall and pulled you against me. I can still taste the expensive whisky under my tongue, and the sight of you in a suit always does something to me.


    The giggling stops as I run my fingers through your hair and your hands go around my ribs. Kissing is my passion, my hobby, my favorite activity. I could kiss all day and not need more; however kissing is always required before more can happen. A bad kisser just *cannot* get me worked up. I love kissing so much I start sighing and making happy sounds within 60 seconds of our lips meeting. It’s a credit to you that you’re a good kisser, and you love seeing what your kisses do to me.


    Soon enough I’m squirming in your embrace and running my hands over your chest and stomach. I push the suit off your shoulders and hook my finger in your pants to pull you even closer. Now every part of you brushes up against me. Your hands run over my shoulders, around my waist, my silky dress, over my hips. I pull your head down to my neck and whisper “More.” You know the signal well. “Yes, Mistress,” you whisper before kissing up and down my neck. You run a hand up my leg, under the dress, tracing your fingers past the thigh highs and garter belt, finding that special place. You know I like to be teased first, running your fingers over my garden, then one finger finds the slit. A few gentle traces and you can spread me open to find the treasure inside. I bite my lip when you draw circles, It’s frustrating but exactly how I trained you. You know me so well that I don’t need a million commands, my breathing tells you when to push further. One finger enters the velvety darkness; I gasp and arch my back, pulling on your collar. By now, you know just how to work me inside to make my legs shake. More moans and groans from both of us, I’m rubbing the cage through your slacks. I pull your face back to mine and we share passion from tongue to tongue.


    “Fuck me with your cock,” I whisper finally. “Yes, Mistress,” you say against my lips, and turn away to get the strap on. I grab your tie and yank you back. “No, *this* cock.” I pull the necklace over my head that holds the keys. Your arms go slack and you look down, dumbfounded, as I unzip your pants and unlock the cage as quickly as possible. Removing it entirely, I toss the cage and keys across the room. Your brain short-circuits as you watch them spinning through the air. I turn your face back to me and wrap my hand around your swollen head. I look deep in your eyes. “Give me what’s mine.”


    Instantly you snap to attention and know just what to do, your heart and cock swelling. “Yes, Goddess,” you say hoarsely and take me in your arms. We stumble to the guest room, no time for the stairs. I can barely kick my heels off before you throw me on the bed. We strip each other as quickly as possible, laughing when something gets stuck on a button. I grab your face again, I can never stop kissing you. You run your fingers across my shoulders, down my back, wrap me up and we grind against each other. You fuck me with your fingers, your mouth. “Give it to me,” I say again. “I need it.”

    “Yes, my lady.” You kiss your way back up. I take you in my hands and guide you in. To feel me around you for the first time in indescribable. One hand grabs my hip, another in my hair, a nipple between your teeth; you start to stroke and we fall into a familiar rhythm. You’ve fucked me a hundred times with a rubber model, this time you’re alive inside me. It Makes A Difference. You give me what’s mine, again and again and again. You’re always so giving. You’re so good to me.

    Bucking and rolling, writhing, wrapped up in each other, and so much kissing, kissing, kissing. I moan into your mouth and you grunt against my neck. Teeth and fingers leaving marks everywhere, we ceased holding anything back. I cry out and hold on to you for dear life as the final wave crashes through me and makes me shudder. I tell you yes, give me everything, pour all your love inside me at the end. It leaves you shaking.

    We both collapse, then you roll over and pull me on to your chest. We have nothing left for words, just trying to catch our breath. Our hearts hammer against each other. You kiss my forehead and wrap your arms around me. “I love you,” you say. I murmur something, you can’t tell what though. I’m already asleep, locked safe in your arms.


    Tonight there were no labels, no status, no orders. Just two lovers loving. Usually I sleep with one hand over your little bird in his cage. Tonight I fell asleep with my hand over your heart. I take what’s mine.
     
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    I believe Goddess needs a good slave to serve her in her moment of need.
     
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    FLR AND FEMINISM?


    (I’m half-convinced no man will want to be with me after reading this, but oh well, I have to be me.)


    I’m not going to say what you think I’m going to say. Not at all. And buckle in, this is a long one because I have a lot of thoughts about it and it’s very important to me.


    Honestly, D/s is not a natural interest of mine. I’m more into scene play or Top/Bottom. I’d be perfectly happy having an equal 50/50 relationship with a man in chastity, but I understand that a lot of guys in chastity crave submission. Also, I can be a little bit of a control freak, so why not use my powers for good instead of evil? So I’m willing to explore FLR but I would do it in a feminist way, which is how I approach most things.


    FLR as a feminist? You might picture a woman flogging a tied man and shouting “Men are worms/Female Supremacy!!” which is not feminism at all. That’s psychological abuse. Unfortunately, feminism has been distorted by media portrayals over the years to the point where most men and women who believe in and practice feminism don’t like calling themselves feminists. But I’m getting off track already…


    First, let me be clear that FLR with me will NEVER involve humiliation, degrading, sissy, forced-bi, abuse, torture, permanent chastity, calling you ‘useless,’ castration, or anything in the realm of ‘being mean.’


    I’ve been thinking a lot lately about Women’s Wisdom. There’s been a couple examples recently of men submitting to women’s wisdom, which is really cool and refreshing. It’s there in scenes in Wonder Woman and Black Panther, for example. It’s healing and hopeful to see men admitting that there might be a better way.


    And women do have wisdom and men flat-out don’t have. And it has NOTHING to do with genetics or the male brain or any mystical shit. I’m talking about the sociological and psychological fact that men and women are raised to see the world differently, and to have different skills. It’s been proven in tons of studies, I’m not making this up.


    Women are raised to nurture and care for others. We’re encouraged to express love and show affection. When we play pretend, we’re given toys to play Mommy/Teacher/Doctor. Boys are taught aggressive games, to play Cops and Robbers/Pirates/Soldier. Girls are given Barbies with purses and boys are handed GI Joes with guns and rocket launchers. Boys are taught to “shake it off,” stop crying, don’t be needy or ‘act like a girl’. Guys are encouraged to act on anger and lust but not how to act on compassion, how to express fear and worry.


    So it’s a very real fact that women know more about how to nurture, how to listen, how to support. Men have been very, very, very harmed by patriarchy and sexism. I see the men around me as carrying Wounded Souls. You’ve been cut off from very vital parts of your humanity, of your own heart. It’s happening to the planet too-a lot of environmental movements were started by women, because they’re the ones who have to gather food and feed the family.


    So FLR for me would be a man submitting to *this* woman’s Wisdom. Submit to the idea that I might know a better way to live. Submit to my nurturing, but more importantly ****submitting to your own healing.**** Society fed you a lot of toxic bullshit that will take time to release.

    Part of that is chastity-divorce yourself from your cock. You are not a walking penis. What does your head want, what does your heart want? Through my touch, reacquaint yourself with your hands, your legs, your back, your neck, your chest. Take time to receive touch that isn’t sexual. Also, learn to give touch that isn’t sexual. Take it slow and learn the female body with no rush to get the female body off. Learn who you are and what you contribute to a relationship besides your penis and income. You’re not a bull; you’re a man with a beautiful heart. Yes, you will have to submit to self-care. You will have to submit to expressing yourself. You will have to submit to loving yourself. Submit to being gentle with yourself. Submit to my love.



    Take the time to learn deep listening and communication. See the world through a lens of collaboration instead of win/loss.


    And I’m not saying I’m some feminist guru that needs you to sit at my feet and hear me preach. Not at all. *All* women have wisdom men don’t have simply because we were raised differently. Every woman is an expert in some things compared to men.


    Another angle of feminism would come into play if we eventually live together. It’s been 50 years since the Women’s Movement, and studies show that in most straight relationships women end up doing most of the housework, even if they both work. I think that’s mostly because a lot of men have no idea how much work goes into running a house. “Cooking” also means planning and shopping. Cleaning the bathroom doesn’t mean wipe the counters, it’s also scrubbing the toilet and dusting the windowsill and remembering to buy Soft Scrub. There’s also *emotional* work in keeping a house and relationship running that guys are honestly clueless about. So a FLR would be an opportunity for a man to learn how much work is really required. Whether we stay together or not, he’s able to contribute 50% with his next partner.


    I say that last part specifically because I’ve heard the following from friends and advice columns: “My boyfriend is such a feminist, he’s read so many books/listens to me, but he refuses to do the laundry/plan vacation/watch the kids”. Which is my next point: some men want to learn about feminism, some men *think* they’re feminists because they have all the right opinions, but their actions don’t follow through. So to me, a man in chastity and FLR is walking the talk. He wants to learn how to be a better man, and will actually act on my suggestions or orders.


    So this has gotten long enough already, I’ll stop here. This is just how I approach FLR.


    Are you a feminist in a FLR? What do you think about feminism and kink in general? I’d love to hear from you!

    Gaia <3 <3 <3
     
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    BUDDHISM AND KINK?


    So I was raised a Christian, still am. I’m also getting into communing with Earth Mother and connecting to the Sacred Feminine. On top of that, I’ve started attending Buddhist practice the last few months, and it’s lead to tremendous changes.


    I will keep my faith, but I am very seriously pursuing secular Buddhism. I say that because it informs every area of my life, including kink.


    How does Buddhism impact my kink? First the sexy ways, then the not-so-sexy.


    Buddhism teaches mindfulness. Don’t just walk past the roses; stop and smell them. Look deeply at them. Touch them. Focus all your attention on them.


    When I go on walks, I do a 5 Senses Meditation. What do I see, what do I hear, what do I smell, what do I feel, what does the air taste like?


    …..Imagine doing a 5 Senses Meditation when you serve me. Focus on how my cunt looks. How it smells, How it tastes. How it feels. The sounds I make while you worship it. Imagine meditating on my cunt for 30 minutes. Sound fun?


    Mindfulness is about going slow. I won’t give you a quick handjob-No, I will meditate on every bump and ridge and smooth spot of your cock. Learn every millimeter of it and how it responds to my touch. Focus on the head, then the shaft, then balls, then back again. I’ll explore your body slowly, what sounds do you make when I use my teeth, my nails, a crop?


    This is just to say that mindfulness and going slow enhances any physical experience. Massage my body as an act of meditation. I plan to learn all aspect of Tantric sex some day, which is another school of meditation. Slow sex is i n c r e d i b l e. Have you tried it?


    Sex (I use this word for all body play here) gets me back in touch with my body, brings me back to the moment, gets me out of my head. It’s one of the reasons I love it so much. No worries, no plans, just this body on/under/inside mine.


    And on a more serious note,

    I bring mindfulness to every aspect of sex and kink. Meaning I don’t just focus on my pleasure, I take in everything. You made a face-are you in pain? Are you here with me in the moment, or are you uncomfortable or disassociating? Are you breathing easily, or are you tense because you have performance anxiety?


    Buddhists believe in nonviolence in all things. I cannot *hurt* you. “Funishments” where the sub enjoys being spanked are one thing, but I could never strike you in anger. I cannot use your body as a punching bag. Causing pain doesn’t turn me on-I only like using a crop or spanking because I see that it gives *you* pleasure. I’m not in any way a Sadist.


    Buddhists spend a lot of time meditating and exploring themselves inside. So I take time to ask myself, “What do I need? What do I want? Am I ready for this? Is this the wisest choice? Is this the right person for me? Am I giving as much as I receive? Am I behaving in an ethical manner?”


    I have a reminder on my phone to take a deep breath every 15 minutes and come back to myself. Yes, I do this even in the middle of a kink scene. Some people say, ‘who has time for that?’. Many kinks involve vulnerable body parts and vulnerable emotions-how can I NOT take 8 seconds to check in and make sure this is the right action???

    Take a deep breath for yourself also. Are you really at a green, or a yellow? Do you really consent, or do you feel pressured? Do you want to keep playing, or are you worn out? Do you want to date me, or are we only suited for play?


    Buddhists also practice deep listening. One person speaks, the other listens. No discussion, no defenses, no explanations, just listen. After one person is finished, the other takes a few breaths and responds mindfully. This type of communication allows for deep understanding, and allows each person to process their thoughts and feelings without interruption. I don’t talk like this 24/7, but it’s a great skill for sharing experiences after a scene or as a relationship check-in. If at any time you need to express something important, even if you’ve got a dildo up your ass, ask me for deep listening and I will give it. I only ask the same of you.


    The last part about Buddhism I bring to kink is non-attachment. That’s just another way to say ‘stay in the moment’. Whether you are my partner for 3 scenes or 3 years, I will give you my full attention. I will support you and show you loving-kindness. I will care about you and look into your eyes deeply. And when the relationship ends, I will not cling to you. I will enjoy the memories, and set you free to find your next partner. I will embrace every moment that I have with you, for it is only in the moment that we can truly live.



    Are you religious? How does it impact your kink? Would love to hear from you.


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    Hi
    I am replying to your post 'FLR AND FEMINISM?'

    First off, I actually created an account specifically to reply to this one post.

    (I’m half-convinced no man will want to be with me after reading this)
    Cant speak for everyone, but this post actually made me want to reach out to you more then anything else I have read on this site so that statement is not correct, at least in my case.

    I’d be perfectly happy having an equal 50/50 relationship
    Again, cant speak for everyone, but that is my idea situation. Just because someone is interested in this kink does not mean they like all the other things that can be associated with it at as well. A relationship needs to be 50/50 (at least outside the bedroom) and that is the only way I would accept a chastity relationship


    You might picture a woman flogging a tied man and shouting “Men are worms/Female Supremacy!!” which is not feminism at all.
    Unfortunately, the far left and social justice warriors have hijacked the term feminism and have turned it into an ugly word that a lot of people do not respect anymore. The base of what it used to be is still solid, but it gets buried under this new wave that is currently going on.

    And women do have wisdom and men flat-out don’t have.
    Totally agree, although it is a fact plain and simple, males and females have different brains, different thought processes and different viewpoints to approach things in a different and unique way.


    Boys are taught aggressive games etc
    I defiantly was and remember the exact details of my GI Joe and when I get it (Christmas) and remember it vividly. Although while I was raised in the conditions you stated, I still think I am compassionate and don't just act on violent instinct. I don't like talking about myself like this but even though I was raised with violent video games like Mortal Combat and playing war and playing with guns, it did not shape me into this hyper aggressive, hot headed act with violence before rational thought as you may be trying to portray with this point. Not saying that you are, but it can read that way from a certain point of view. I (again, can only speak for myself) but acting on anger in the last thing I want to do. Calm heads prevail after all.


    You’ve been cut off from very vital parts of your humanity, of your own heart
    Perhaps, although this might be a bit outdated but am more then happy to admit that I am wrong if I am. I don't see it this way, but I defiantly understand why you would think this or see it this way. I defiantly 'think' with my compassion.

    a lot of environmental movements were started by women
    I did not know this, thank you for teaching me something new.


    Part of that is chastity-divorce yourself from your cock. You are not a walking penis. What does your head want, what does your heart want? Through my touch, reacquaint yourself with your hands, your legs, your back, your neck, your chest
    After all the social justice warriors and man hating there is out there, and on the internet, this is really refreshing to read, so again thank you for adding this into the post.

    And I’m not saying I’m some feminist guru that needs you to sit at my feet and hear me preach
    It did not read that way to me, so no worries there.

    *All* women have wisdom men don’t have simply because we were raised differently
    While this is true, I would go as far as to say *Everyone* has different wisdom. One of my favourite quotes is "everyone you see knows something you don't" and that is something I live by. And of course everything unique about you is a byproduct of your environment. Take us, you are from Pennsylvania (I am assuming that is PA) and I was raised in Florida. I am sure we were raised differently, not because we are opposite genders, but everything about our upbringing is different. I was taught that Alligators can run up to 30mph and if you are being chased by one, run in zig zags, now that was crucial for us to learn, but probably not on the top of the list for you. And that also goes through cultures and where you were born. I lived 6 years in the UK before moving to Florida and the experiences were totally different.
    I am not trying to take away from your original point, because yes a women born in any location has wisdom that a man born in that same location would not have. But then again, I would imagine a different women might not know that wisdom either. We can all learn something new from each other and to not accept someones logic based on something outside their intelligence level (assuming you have known that person for a long time) is narrow minded and naive. But that does not mean don't fact check later ;)


    straight relationships women end up doing most of the housework, even if they both work.
    I totally agree that house work should be split 50/50 and cant imagine not doing it if and when I ever live with someone so not really going to say much about that. That is down to the individual and of all the stories I have read about wives or GF's keeping their husbands or BF's in chastity, the one constant in all the stories is that he does a lot more housework, so that is where chastity can help the wives.


    There’s also *emotional* work in keeping a house and relationship running that guys are honestly clueless about.
    I am intrigued, can you tell us more?



    Are you a feminist in a FLR? What do you think about feminism and kink in general?
    While I totally agree with the original core concept of the original feminism of 50 years ago, the term has been uprooted and changed to something totally different which I cannot get behind. Although the fact that it even needs to exist in the first place is beyond me, but that is a conversation for another time, the fact is - is that it is or at least was needed. There are no rights women don't have that men do have. I know you can say things like I have a right to feel safe walking alone at night and that is totally true, but to be honest, most people feel unsafe walking at night alone, I know I do. The point I am trying to make is that there is no law in place specifically for men. And I know, having equal rights by law is not the same as having equal rights in every day life. This is probably getting off topic so I will try to reel it back in. I cannot say I am a feminist, but I do believe in the original message, although I don't need a movement to tell me to respect women, or anyone else in general, I treat everyone the same, unless I don't like you (which means I at least know you) By default if I don't know you, I will treat you with respect and kindness, not because of something derivative like feminism, but because that is how humans should behave with each other. Its sort of the same with religion, I don't need an entity that may or may not exist or the threat of eternal damnation to tell me not to kill someone or to not treat people like literal garbage, and I don't need a movement of females to tell me not to be a giant douche to women (or anyone for that matter). And I know feminism is more then respecting women but again, I will probably always do what my heart things is the right thing to do, and yes that includes the housework and not taking advantage of someone.
    I defiantly think feminism was needed back 50 years ago, and probably through out most of human history, although there have been cultures and times when women were totally equal and had even more power then men (think ancient Egypt) and Vikings made their women handle finances because they thought math is witchcraft. Spartans treated their women equally, it is more of an up and down roller coaster with equal right for women across history, but there have been times where women were equal.
    Chastity is something that could go hand in hand with kink, mainly because after a week plus locked in, the guy will be putty in your hand for you to mould however you like, but great power comes great responsibility blah blah blah. That also ties back with the online stories from women about how their husbands become better lovers and people in general and contributing to the housework is always a common theme.
    Also this far left social identity politics and social justice warriors that is happening right now totally turned me off to feminism. But that does not mean I am going to underpay female employees just because they are women (although I don't believe there is a wage gap ((don't hurt me)) and I am not going to take advantage of the drunk girl in the club (because common decency) and I am not going to talk down to women or assume that they know less then me. You can learn a lot from anyone and I don't dismiss people thoughts and ideas based on something trivial like gender, only if they only say stupid things.

    I would say I am an egalitarian before saying I am a feminism. But why label ourselves, I am a person, a human just like you. I have knowledge to share, stories to tell and a lot to contribute, just like you do, and the other people who are reading this and all the people who wont read this. Modern society did not get built by isolating ourselves from the world around us.

    I was not going to touch on your BUDDHISM AND KINK post, but I have travelled around Thailand and the Philippians (among many other places in the world) and have seen the temples and seen the monks and spoken to them so totally get where you are coming from. Buddhism is the one religion I can get behind, but Buddha told everyone not to follow him but it still kinda blew up into this big religion. I totally get what you mean with that post though. But Thailand and Asia is very different, lifestyle and culture to America or even Western Europe so it plays out differently. Different way of life and different desires and different values. The world moves slower over there. I travel a lot and have seen and interacted with a lot of different cultures and they are defiantly on to something.

    I hope reading this was worth the time it must of taken you to get through it. But these are just my thoughts and opinions, it may all be wrong but its coming from me.
     
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    I so much agree with this -- thanks for writing it. See my thread "Chastity Invites Awareness" for my (shorter) view of my attempt to gain and submit to this woman's wisdom.
     
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    Will do, thanks! <3
     
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    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I found reading about your perspective very eye opening. It helped me to better channel some of my own thoughts and feelings and hopefully I can use some of the wisdom to help make someone else happy.
     
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    Thank you! I'm just putting my thoughts out there and hoping I can find a man who will love me for all that I am
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    Best wishes to you in your search. Sounds like you're a very awesome Lady. Any guy would be extremely lucky to win your heart.
     
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    Since reading this article I've been reflecting on the interesting concept of containment.

    I can relate to a desire of wanting to contain and protect a partner while I enjoy their company. Sharing her trust as I hold her safely in my arms would feel like an honourable privilege. Knowing she is filled with excitement as she enjoys the rough and the smooth can trigger some very powerful emotions.

    I can also understand the desire to be contained. I feel this concept may sum up the same feelings guys feel when they have a craving to be locked in chastity. They want to share that connection with someone they trust, it fills them with excitement knowing they are contained and at her mercy.

    I assume there are people who fit naturally on one side or the other on the subject of containment but I'd expect there are a lot of people who would enjoy experiencing the idea of containment from both sides. It could possibly be a basic D/s thing to some degree although I expect it's a little bit more flexible.
     
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