It is difficult to get to know a person online let alone two that are also in a relationship...getting to know their dynamic well enough to offer useful permanent advice from an informed perspective would be far more than just difficult. That you both wanted your relationship to be Female Led but could not really agree on what terms is apparent .. clearly you have come to a major crossroads. Whether or not your relationship as a whole will survive this will it seems depend a great deal on what if any compromises you are both prepared to make. There are of course as many different degrees of FLR as there are couples so perhaps it may be possible to fashion one that works for you both. I really would recommend that you both consider what the future may hold for you as a couple, can you get past this or, perhaps regretably, are your differences insurmountable?