FLR - In Public

Wonderful. Thanks for sharing.

 

Here's a fun fact. Mrs is short for mistress. Learn this the other day and now I use Mrs in pubic when addressing her

 

Interesting use of words and symbols.

 

Yes I found this very interesting . Now when I say yes Mrs (last name) She knows what the context is now . She very much likes me using it in public. Win win situation. Who knows maybe I just started a new trend . Lol

 

Very interesting reading, glad you have found ways to keep your FLR the way you want it.

 

I am to address my wife as Mrs followed by our Surname. I think it works well for all situations.
I'm not sure we are at the fully loaded FLR stage yet but I hope we get to that point and I'm pretty sure we are heading in that direction.

 

We also had trouble finding a name she liked. Ma'am, Madam, and Mistress were all ones she didn't like. She decided to have me address her as M'Lady and I do it in both private and public as much as possible. Those that know or suspect will give us a knowing smile. Others just think it's cute or sweet.

She always wears a symbolic antique key on a necklace and I am collared 24/7 so we don't exactly hide our lifestyle. If questioned about either the key or collar we will ask if they are sure they want to know the meaning. If they say yes, we will tell them and answer any more questions that come up.

 

I think it cute when a Dominant woman imposes the rules traditional that were once for M/f public behaviour.

But in an F/m context. So on a dinner date, she drives, of course. Without telling him where.

So he is not allowed to open doors for himself, instead he must wait for her to open them for him.

Even the car door, but especially the restaurant door.

He must accept being led, to her left, with her hand on his bum or waist, at all times.

He doesn't take his coat or jacket off, she does.

He doesn't choose where to sit, she chooses that, pulls the chair back.

He moves into position, she pushes the chair forward to say 'sit!'.

She orders the food for him, without him being even allowed to express a preference.

He is not permitted to begin her meal until after she takes the first forkful.

He has to pretend it's delicious, even if she's chosen something he hates.

If he wants to go to the bathroom, he has to ask permission, knowing often it will be denied.

(Perhaps using some kind of code agreed between you.)

He is not allowed to express any kind of opinion, tell any anecdote, speak unless spoken-to.

He must not ask for anything; if he'd e.g. like the salt passed to him, he must ask, "Would you like the salt?"

And if she wants a bit of fun, she can perfectly truthfully say, "No thanks I don't want any salt!"

When she's finished, he stops. Or perhaps is only allowed to eat half the meal.

Then she asks for a doggy bag. He knows that will be tomorow's dinner for him.

If he's lucky it will be warmed-up, on crockery, with cutlery to eat it with.

Or if unlucky or a naughty boy it will go through a blender with her piss and he eats it direct from a bowl.

Then when they're finished, she puts on her own coat.

And holds his coat or jacket for him to put his arms into.

Before leading him back to the car.

There are lots more little wrinkles you can weave into this.

Anybody observing it with an eye for kink will understand.

Guy

 

Love this scenario, putting the male into a position that seems like he is being taken care or or treasured, but in fact it is a signal that he is not the man at all in this relationship or at least the one in control.

 

Yes, inverting the code of chivalry.

I've done it for fun with feminist ciswomen, cross-dressers and transgender women.

But the absolute best is on a double-date.

Where I do it with a subbie ciswoman.

And she does it with her subbie sissy-boy.

WE all fully know what's going on.

It turns each one of us on.

Win/win all around!

Guy

 

I’m sorry if this is a silly question but what does HOH stand for?

 

Head of Household.

The traditional "male" role, thugh I am far from convinced that actually most men were such!

 

Your point?

There is a 'traditional male role', heavily promoted by the poitical right, religious bigots and historical revisionists.

As an experienced male Dominant, I am sceptical that the 'traditional male role' was actually how most people lived their real ives.

 

I address my Wife as Miss usually, unless it’s in front of the kids... I usually speak quietly, and she says it sounds cute in my English accent.....

 

My Wife wishes to be addressed as ma'am and prefers to call me "my love." It's quite noticeable among our friends and relatives.

 

Indeed, there was a TV seriesin the UK called 'Minder', where a shady businessman who employed a bodyguard (the Minder). Hewas a big man in the world outside, but obviously absolutely terrified of 'her indoors', his wife, who we never saw.

I think that reflects reality in a lot of homes, she let's him appear to be in charge, even perhaps to think he's the boss, but when push comes to shove, she is.

In my context, as 'mayor' running our little (usually temporary) community, I want to have just one person in each houshold who is obviously in charge of everybody else in that household, whom I can trust to keep them all in line, just so that disputes within that household do not spill into public space.

I am not fussed about their gender; or the way they run their households, so long as it does not become abusive.

 

Further to this, One of my many new daily tasks is to make the lunch boxes for the household which I have been doing for the past 6 weeks. I write everyones name on the sandwiches and on my wife's it's as above Mrs....... I also put a little note inside for her. She told me last night that some of her work colleagues have noticed her name on her sandwiches and brought up a conversation in her office about how there own husbands would never do that for them. Maybe they joined the dots perhaps they didn't but she didn't tell them when asked "What's your secret".

 

I like the little WLM hints in public my wife uses. When we eat out she and i discuss what we both want, what we'll split (both on diets) etc. When the server arrives she always orders for the both of us. "He'll have the ......and I'll have the .............. I just sit there and smile. It's those little things that get things tight in my cage.

 

Spendid, subverting the 'normal' by reversing gender role.

Maybe you could suggest that she chooses where you sit, by pulling a chair out for you?

Or her opening doors for you?

 

Can embracing small behavioral changes like that lead to bigger things? Perhaps revealing more of your private life to others and fully embracing FLR openly? I wonder sometimes whether timidity prevents us from fully living the life we desire. In any case, love hearing about these 'secret' expressions of your love and respect for your spouses.

 

I have just spent the last over two hours trying to write a short meaningful note in her Anniversary card whilst trying to keep our new relationship dynamic secret from kids and family who will no doubt read it. I'm not a writer, I wish I was but I think I've nailed it. Hope she likes it.