FLR and what I found in my Local Communities and changes i started

That sounds like a great idea!

 

Personally I thought I was a submissive until I tried.

Then discovered it worked when I was the Dom, but only rarely the other way around.

I am much happier around male subs and women of every sort, than amongst male Doms.

There have been a few I came to know, like and respect, but they're very much the exception.

Mostly they seem to be submissives without the courage to submit, vanilla men looking for cheap sex, poseurs just playing the role, because it is what they think is expected of them, or abusers or bullies.

There is a famous experiment where it was shown that het. men who are accepting and tolerant of gay men are what they seem: but homophobic 'het.' men are generally repressed bi or gay men.

I suspect corollaries apply to transphobes and Dom men intolerant of sub men.

Guy

 

those who think submissives are weak because they submit simply don't understand. Submission is an indicator of strength,

Well done on your initiative. Sounds excellent.

 

These idiots sound like abusers who think that being selfish and controlling makes them a dominant.

 

We're not week. We are natural champions of people and causes.

 

That definitely applies to some of them at least. Most women submissives I have met, (and I have met more than most ever will), at some point in their lives fall for a domineering bully, mistaking them for the kind of caring dominant Master they seek.

I'm sure similar will apply to some male submissives, gay, bi or straight, but I haven't had those conversatons so often.

 

I had one that actually hit me at a munch
He and everyone else quickly learned how weak I was as he was against the wall with his arm twisted backwards and about to be broken if he moved and his face smashed against the wall

Everyone was in shock that I had him pinned so fast that they missed it if they blinked

He didn’t come for 6 months as he was scared of me
I think Me saying if he ever touched me again I’d kill him might have had something to do with it

When I finally did see him, I saw the fear in his eye
So I went over to him and told him that I was fine with him as long as he didn’t touch me or anyone else without consent

To make a long story short after that all was fine well until that group had other very serious issues caused by dominants who were abusing others but that’s a separate discussion

 

I dunno what I am, that is for others to judge, though enough submissive people seem to agree with my own assessment that I'm a good Dominant, that I have enough playmates, though more are always welcome!

It's no secret that I've submitted for scenes, taken corporal punishment, cross-dressed, been restrained, etc.

I often enjoyed it too, at the time, but not enough to repeat often, but I sometimes experiment 'just in case'?

Also because I am always reluctant to put anybody through any experience I have not tried for myself.

I am often told, "You don't sound like a Dominant!" because I treat prospective playmates with respect and consideration: they may be submissive, but until they volunteer as my submissive, IMHO I'll be respectful.

I have come to realise that this is because most 'presenting' as Dominant men, just aren't.

Where most women presenting as Dommes are; and often, like me, have tried the other side.

 

If this happened to you it must have been a shitty moment never the less. Though some how it appears you told this story to make yourself seam more of a macho man.

Could you alaborate? Did he hit you that hard or was it ment to be hurtfull? I myself have never come acros such a person who is this violent.
Which makes it difficult to understand.

 

The jerk hit me in the back of the head from behind.

The point wasn’t that I’m tough. The point is stuff happens and just because someone is submissive doesn’t meant they can’t be tough and defend themselves and others.

As for macho. I can be if needed, but I prefer to be a gentleman. There is a huge difference but they’re also not mutually exclusive.

 

We have tried on several occasions to host a UK FLR couples social through this site and others, but never with any success.