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    Hi,
    I don't really know where to start. I have had an interest in male chastity cages for 10+ years but my previous partner wasn't all that in to it. We only experimented a couple of times with a cheap China knock off. I loved it.
    That relationshio broke down and now is the time for me to follow my fetish. I would love to be an active key holder and be a part of the chastity lifestyle journey. The problem is, i have no idea where to start.
    All help and tips would be gratefully received.
     
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    Welcome to our community and I hope you enjoy being part of it. Look around, you'll find several experienced keyholders who can give advice and there are lots of useful threads which should also help. If you want, you can contact Lucy - she's owner of site - who can certify you as a 'verified female' - a special status on the site. Not sure how hard it is to do, but most prominent dommes are verified. You'll find females in the chastity lifestyle are really appreciated and hopefully you'll enjoy your new journey.
     
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    Welcome to the mansion.
    Lots of good information here. Or if you have any specific questions, just lost them up.
     
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    Hi and welcome! You've come to the right place!
     
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    Hello and welcome. We have a personals forum where you could advertise for a sub. There's also fetlife. Good luck
     
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    Welcome to the mansion. If you have the time to dive into the forums you'll find all sorts of things that will hopefully help you better understand what you might be seeking. And plenty of people happy to chat and help!
     
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    #7 Ma'at Rebekah, Jun 1, 2020
    Last edited: Jun 1, 2020
     
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    there are many here that seek a keyholder like https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?posts/393421/ . as a keyholder i see chastity as a tool of power and control within a chosen lifestyle. i would have never thought of chastity as an end goal. could you explain to me how being a keyholder is so exciting for you.
     
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    Hello & welcome
     
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    Hello and welcome. Such offers don't come along too often here and you'll be inundated with people wanting you as their keyholder.

    What you didn't mention was if you were seeking (or had started) a relationship and not just keeping a bundle of keys
     
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    Welcome and Hello, like yourself i am new to the site and i have found some useful tips and information on here, be interesting to hear how you get on and develop in your search for knowledge.
     
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    Wow, thank you for all the support. I did join the chat room last night and everyone seemed so helpful.
    To try and answer a few of the questions, the thought of having my man in that state of frustration is the turn on for me. I have come out of a kink relationship (different kink) and the bond that you have when you share something like this amazing.
    Before I start looking for a sub I want to get a better understanding of the lifestyle. As I have said before, I have dabbled and I got a lot out of it but my partner wasn't keen.
    When a bloke is locked up how long realistically can you go between cumming, does it impact your normal life? What do you want from a keyholder?
    I am looking forward to see where this could lead
     
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    Hi im brand new here too but ive found this community so welcoming
    Especially in the chatroom
     
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    Its very dependent on the man. Some younger will be looking for orgasm within a day or two, whilst older can go for weeks, months. You've expertise is to judge.

    Not all men want the same from a KH. Some want to guide, almost top from the bottom a keyholder getting everything they want. Some want the keyboard to read their mind and know what to do, other want total control. We have one rule - Lady C decides. If in doubt, chaste means chaste. Enjoy
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    Hello to you. My time so far has been a pleasant one.
     
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    Welcome to CM. If you love chastity this is most definitely the best place to get your daily dose of both pictures and good forum threads.
    Enjoy your stay!
     
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    Hello and welcome to chastity mansion.!!
     
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    I would assume it's mostly the cleaning. Besides that I don't think there's a limit for how long depending on the cage.
     
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    Hello and welcome hope you find what you're looking for
     
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    Hello all ! Hope everyone is well . Just a quick Introduction. I'ma straight male and I'm 28. I've been into chastity for awhile. I'd love to chit chat. I'm friendly so feel free to message me! If there are any female keyholders wanting to hold my key, Just send me a message meame we can talk and see how it works and go from there :) thank you and I'm looking forward to using this site :)
     
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