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    #1 Maditilda, Jul 31, 2022
    So I've been married a little over 3 years. My wife has always been more sexually active than me. I've not always had energy to accommodate. She's been looking for ways to spice stuff up. Then out of the blue she proposed chastity. Heard of it from her friend. She had never really heard about it. I'd never even thought to bring it up. It wasn't a huge idea or kink of mine. I tried it once solo years ago, but lost interest immediately. Still watch
    ed porn of it, but not interested personally until wife brought it up. Things rolled on pretty quickly. We talked, I told her it was a huge turn on for me(it was, but never seemed practical or feasible in our relationship, so I'd never given it a second thought), she was surprised and really turned on, so within a day I ordered 3 cheap ebay devices. Tried 2 of them. Waiting on third and a locking PA ring. (More on Piercing later). One felt bulky. The one I'm in now is quite comfortable. I've only done a couple hours so far, so we'll see.
    In the last month prior we've had sex twice maybe. Now in 4 days, 3 times. It's increased both our interests.

    I hope to evolve from very vanilla to more full time locking. We'll see what my new keyholder wants and is comfortable with. Yes she did propose it, but more as a notion. Right now I think I'm way more into it. We're still reading and talking.

    I love crossdressing, key holder is accepting, and encouraging, but it is separate from chastity. (For now at least.

    While I'm new to chastity, I'm no novice to piercings. Any questions on those feel free to ask. I had a PA which migrated and left my head split down the bottom side. Had an ampallang, didn't fully heal so I abandoned it. May try again. Guiche piercing. Halfadrayva (apadrayva minus the PA). Both nipples(newest). And earlobes)
     
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    #2 MissyB, Jul 31, 2022
    Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and enjoyable.
     
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    #3 King Hippo, Jul 31, 2022
    Welcome to CM!
     
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    #4 Maditilda, Jul 31, 2022
    Thank you
     
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    #5 MtnViper, Jul 31, 2022
    Welcome to CM!

    What is the wife's motivation?

    Does she want more frequent sex? Less masturbation for you? To lock up your penis so you have to use your mouth, fingers, toys?

    I've met women who were just warming up after a couple hours of sex, and few men, especially their penis, can keep up with them. ;-)
     
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    #6 Maditilda, Jul 31, 2022
    She wants more sex and to spice things up. She really prefers PIV and me Cumming in her. Usually I don't last very long and get soft quick. But withe the ring I stay hard at least.
     
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    #7 LesterBallard, Jul 31, 2022
    Good luck
     
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    #8 Xileh, Aug 1, 2022
    Welcome! Your wife is pretty rare in proposing Chasity. Are you also submissive?

    You might explore wearing a strapon. If she is open to it, you can (even when locked) focus solely on her without worrying about your own performance. It is very liberating. It is also a major mind trip for you.

    Have fun!
     
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    #9 Maditilda, Aug 1, 2022
    Thank you very much. We have used a strapon on me. I have not used it on her yet but hopefully she'll let me. She always wants PIV by the end though with full ejaculated. We don't have a Dom/Sub type relationship, but I would love it in the bedroom. Although I do tend to be more submissive in general and let her take charge.
     
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    #10 madams-sissysub, Aug 1, 2022
    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    #11 Maditilda, Aug 2, 2022
    Thank you. How are you doing?
     
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    #12 Maditilda, Aug 2, 2022
    Thank you I'm enjoying everything so far.
     
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    #13 Andy88, Aug 2, 2022
    She wants sex, more frequent sex, real sex using the penis and not some toy and ultimate sex complete with ejaculation into her. A good husband is a good provider including sexual gratification. You may have to think out of the box, all the more if she prefers real penis that can cum than some cold rigid toy. Chastity of the male is a first step towards keeping a lid on the buildup of libido only to be released onto her. She is just brilliant and explorative. Go with the flow. Let her take charge. Be agreeable to her needs. Be supportive of her choices. A sexually deprived woman is void of soul.. hoping to hear from you.
     
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    #14 Maditilda, Aug 2, 2022
    Thank you for the advice. Still very new for both of us so we're figuring out our new dynamic. 4 out 5 nights of sex. More than the last 2 months. So something is working. Lol
     
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    #15 Maditilda, Aug 8, 2022
    Thank you. Glad I found this place.
     
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    #16 jemima, Aug 8, 2022
    hello @Maditilda and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well
     
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    #17 MissyB, Aug 12, 2022
    Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and entertaining.
     
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    #18 Maditilda, Aug 12, 2022
    Thank you very much. I'm doing well.
     
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    #19 Maditilda, Aug 30, 2022
    Update: been mostly locked 24/7. Still trying to adjust the the cage. I can handle everything, but still getting irritation under my scrotum behind the balls. I was using the smallest ring I had for one cage, but it may have been too big. I switched to my other cage (see new pictures). It has 2 sizes smaller, definitely can't fit in the smallest one. It has a circular ring/double ring. I think it's helping. So crossing my fingers.

    Wife's interest seems iffy. She's turned on, but not getting into the tease and denial. Very timid in that respect.
     
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    #20 Aspire02, Aug 31, 2022
    Welcome to the Mansion
     
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    Have a wonderful journey
     
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    #22 littleguy3, Sep 1, 2022
    She needs to see the benefits to her of t&d. You'll have to explain it and then demonstrate it through your actions.
     
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    #23 Maditilda, Sep 1, 2022
    Thank you for the advice
     
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    #24 Pleaser, Sep 5, 2022

    I have a few piercings myself, RPA, frenum, nipples. I am locked from wake up til bed time.
     
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    #25 Maditilda, Sep 5, 2022
    I forgot list that I also have a frenum. Did most of them myself except the nippls and guiche
     
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