First steps and teenage years

I know exactly when I started down the BDSM path. I was 13 when I got slapped hard by a girl whose breasts I had grabbed. I went home that night and masturbated to the thought of her beating me during sex. From that night on she was the only woman in my dreams and fantasies. Even today not a day goes by that I do not think about her.

Here is the weird part. We got engaged after 3 weeks. That was when I learned that her best friend is that 13 year old girl with large breasts. If that is not weird enough, my wife asked her friend if she would like to have sex with me because she was just divorced and had not had sex for 8 months. They were very good friends. We had sex and then I invited my wife to join in. We. found out that her girlfriend is bi and had dated girls in high school. My wife learned that she is bi and moved her girlfriend into our home and we formed a poly triad that lasted 30 years. Even better is that her girlfriend is a very dominant woman who refused to take on any traditional role. She enjoyed hurting men and would sigh with every moan of my pain.

Talk about dreams coming true. Now my wife and I both fantasize about our girlfriend. She was up for anything, even the yucky and more extreme stuff. She was a perfect sadist to my masochist. My life has been great and what is strange is that for us it was just our everyday normal life. Only now that we are no longer with our girlfriend, do I realize how special my life has been. Karma is not always a bit*h. Well maybe it is. There was another girl I did that to. I met her when I was in my thirties in a different State. We were both there on business and shared a cab. She slapped my face and said that is because of what I did when we were teens. Although we live far apart we had meet at a reunion and we follow each other online. I was surprised that she remembered that. I was slapped a lot. No wonder I like it.

 

Good introduction. Was the girl at Uni ever your KH? She sounds ace!

 

This entire journey has come as a huge surprise to both me and my Wife. We were so Vanilla before it is almost painful! I knew 'of' bdsm but had no idea what it actually was or whether my Wife would be interested. I still have no idea how we could get more involved in any community or even what one would consist of, and I'm still not very sure what it all involves. A lot of what we do has evolved out of me reading in the Mansion about people's experiences when they share them. The big change is my Wife is much more open to trying new things and much more in tune with what turns her on.

 

I used to get into trouble for teasing before I was a teenager.
When I did become a teenager I discovered I had special powers when I used to smuggle my mothers heels out of the house and wear them at school and put makeup on in the loo. I revelled in that special female power. Heady days for me.
Then I read a book called the "Story of O" which I found on a friends bookshelf.it was absolutely fascinating.
For quite some time (as Jules described above) I was under the impression that females where submissive...
Then I became involved in the fashion industry for a short time and ended up working dress making for a short time for her business in Amsterdam. We made a lot of special orders and I met many of the customers. The rest is history.

 

I have ben always a bit bossy, my mother has been dominant woman and as a girl I had often to took responsibilty over my younger brother.These ones have nothing to do with my sexuality and interest about chastity, but I think they were important. In my early teens I have started to be fascinated by idea of some kind of reverse of gender stereotypes. And it was the first time I touched the topic of chastity. I became obsessed with the idea, that boys not girls should remain chaste and virgins until their marriage. I am not sure what triggered these ideas, but probably they somehow evolved from thinking about gender stereotypes, my early sexuality and how I was raised. In our family there ere always strong women and in the same time, we were quite old fashioned - Sunday church in Sunday best dress, piano lessons, emphasis on traditions, family values, but always with strong female influence.

Then - by a lucky accident - I found one issue of Governess magazine and it was the moment I found out concept of FLR and female dominance I was able to identify with.

 

I don't know when I first discovered chastity but if I had to guess it would be around 14 years old. I was on tumblr looking at porn (I follow a lot of hardcore porn blogs) when I came across a picture of someone in chastity. Naturally I started to look up more images of chastity and began to realize that it was something I must try. I masturbated to the thought of not being able to masturbate. Once I turned 18 I finally bought a chastity device. One year later and I am on my 3rd chastity device. My goal is to meet someone in real life that can be my keyholder. I know someone from fetlife who has been my keyholder before but she isn't really my type so it's hard for me to get excited about her. Luckily I have plenty of time to find a match for me and for now will continue to experiment with chastity on my own.

 

Not sure if I've ever told anyone this except my wife. Very early on in my teens I enjoyed tying up myself. I would take as many socks as I could and tie them around my cock and balls and then put on every pair of tightey whites I owned and then would lay down on my stomach. This was well before the internet or before I was looking at porn mags. Later in my teens I would tie myself up or used handcuff on myself.

I never truly tried introducing that side of me until a previous relationship. It wasn't until I was with my wife that I discovered chastity. Since then I've talked with her about my desires and how they've been deep down for quite a while and not something I've opened up to with others.

 

You are so lucky to have had such a clear direction and self-knowledge at such a young age.

 

I discovered my kinky side in the 7th grade when I saw a porno I found at my parents and it had 2 Domme's and they were walking a guy on a leash. Then in 10th grade I learned that chastity belts existed and I wanted to be in one so badly. We discussed the topic of chastity belts and the issues of men dying in battle and women being locked permanently etc etc in my history course for 2 class periods.

This was in the late 80's so internet wasn't a thing at the time or if it was I didn't know about it.

 

For me it was in the early teens for most of my BDSM discoveries. It was when the internet in the home became popular and I had a computer of my own. One of the first BDSM things I remember reading about was a chastity belt. I had seen Robin Hood men in tights and the chastity in that movie got me started. The first sight I remember finding was Altaiboy. I started reading about female chastity then when that was done moved to male chastity and finally to feminization.

I had also found grommets sight and read more about bondage and it helped me discover all the equipment and ways to be bound. As I was still living at home I was not able to do much but I did practice self bondage when I had a night to myself. It started with Saran Wrap and duct tape, then trash bags, rope and any other household items I could find which included my moms lingerie.

I also remember when I was a young kid, maybe 3or 4 that I wanted to wear a diaper suddenly. I found a plastic bag and liked the crinkle when I walked, but it was not bulky enough so I put some toys in there. My parents saw me doing that and asked why and acted weird so I never did that again. But in my teens I found some depends at my grandpas and would steal one every now and then.

Chastity never actually happened until about 5years ago when I was in an adult shop and had spare money and one was for sale. I bought it and took it home. My wonderful wife is a perfect match to me in every way except sex and my fetish’s. She is very vanilla and reserved but slowly has been willing to indulge me. Usually with bondage it was me being tied up and left a note for her when she got home to use me.

Eventually I introduced her to chastity by me being tied up with it locked on and the note explaining it a little. She was not really into it but would hold the key very occasionally. I travel for work a lot so I mostly self locked when out of town. I am on my 3rd device now, stainless steel. Recently she has asked me to lock up and she has said she likes the attention I give her when locked.

I wish we could do a lot more bondage, chastity, diapers, femdom, and that she would use me as a slave and order me around some. I also want to try her plugging, pegging, and feminizing me occasionally. Mostly with tight corsets and crazy high heel boots. I like the idea of being a pet on all fours, eating off the floor, going to the bathroom outside, and sleeping in a cage at night or whenever she goes somewhere but some of that will never happen.

The internet was good as a teen to let me know I am not alone in these weird thoughts and feelings. It showed me much more than I ever guessed was out there. Since a kid I always enjoyed being tied up in games etc and with the diaper thing it seems I was meant to be into weird fetishes. Never been into pain though.

 

Thinking back to how it started was a card game I lost when I must have been 17 or so . It was more a truth or dare poker game . I took the dare and had to be on all 4 leashed and cross the main cross road in town to the girl who won.. Think that started something and when I saw a chastity cage it all came back and I knew I had to be in one.

 

I remember watching the movie mortal kombat when I was 7 years old in the cinemas. Sonya blade (played by bridgette wilson) was fighting Kano and beat him, finishing him with a headscissors. I remember watching, becoming very excited and starting to sport an erection. I know it sounds funny to have this happen at 7 years old but I distinctly remember it as if it was yesterday.

I remember for as long as I can always being fascinated and excited by strong females, particularly when they would use their strength against men.

From about 17 I began to masturbate (late bloomer I know) and within about 6 months I could only fantasise about strong girls in my classes, beating me and humiliating me.

I can recall seeing chastity cages and similar things over the years on the internet (as I would only ever watch female dominating men videos) but was not interested at all. Only earlier last year, at the age of 29 have I become interested. I can't even recall what I particular drew me to it. Perhaps a captioned picture on tumblr. Sexual humiliation has always been an interest of mine and the idea of a chaste male being humiliated be a promiscuous female intrigued me.

Now that my wife and I are playing with chastity, she has finally bought into the idea of a female led relationship. Prior to chastity, the emphasis had always been on my fantasises etc since she is very open to kinks but had been very vanilla prior to meeting me. She was happy to do it, because she knew I liked it but was o ly doing it for me. Now, with chastity, she is happy and actually wants to fulfill my fantasies. The more she denies me, and the more I enjoy it, the more attention, affection and enjoyment she receives.

Like so many others have gone on to say, even in just the short time we have enjoyed it (6 months or so), chastity has added so much to our marriage!! We've only been married 4 years, so it's not like it needed to be saved, but we are definitely so much happier now.

Sorry for novel, thanks to anyone who takes the time to read it

 

My first steps was when I was 15 years old. I had just started seeing this girl. She was beautiful. We would hold hands, make out, lots of kissing. Then one day we were playing around and took it further. feeling and touching. We both started removing our cloths. When she saw my dick she covered her mouth, laughed and pointed. She said "Oh my God that is so small." She could not believe my size (or lack of). She got dressed and got out of there in no time. Over the next few weeks she would not return my calls or talk to me at school. Within a week she was dating another guy. For the longest time after that, I word picture in my mind the memory of her laughing and pointing. I would also wonder how big her new boyfriend. I also wondered how many guys she had been with before me to know that I had a small one. I would masturbate no stop to the humiliation of her leaving me for a better man. This really impacted my sex life into adulthood. I have always admired strong confident women. My college girlfriend cuckolded me for about 5 years. My wife cuckolded me while we were engaged and after we married.

 

I was put into a steel chastity cage at fifteen by my stepmother because I was masturbating about 10 times a day. I had jerked off wearing her panties and my sister's panties numerous times and she got tired of it. I got a few spankings with a leather strap by my step mom and my older stepsister but these gave me a hard on and I had to jerk off to calm down. Her first attempt at controlling me was when I was just 15. She bought some diapers and locking plastic panties. I also had a wetting problem that she was concerned about, anyway, I'd have to pull the panties up after she diapered me and then she would tighten the chain around my waist and between my legs and lock it in the back. I had to wear this to school and everywhere. Finally someone told my sister about chastity cages so the two of them went to a store somewhere and came home with one. She unlocked the diaper and plastic panties and allowed me to jerk of. Then I was told I have to wear the device. She convinced me it was for my own good. I put the cock ring on by myself and then my step mom put some lube on my cock and slid the cage over it and locked it. She and my sister each have a key. Almost right away I got a hard on and it got very uncomfortable in the cage. I've been wearing it for two months now. To add to the agony my sister had me wear her nylon panties so that when I walked the key wouldn't keep clinking against the cage. I like wearing panties so this didn't help in keeping my cock soft but it solved the noice problem. I was told that in two weeks she'd take the cage off for a couple hours and allow me to jerk off as much as I want.

 

I definitely did not even think about it until much later in life. In fact I was probably more alpha growing up- especially teens through twenties. Much of that was before the internet. Once I was able to explore the internet lots of new avenues opened up. It’s only within the past 6 months or so that I started experimenting with chastity and denial and I’m nearly as deep into it as some of the boys here but I’m open to anywhere the wife wants me to go

 

Thinking back on things Robin Hood Men in Tights might have been my first exposure to chastity. The actress was very attractive and it was something that I found arousing. Male chastity didn’t come into focus until about 3 years ago thanks to the power of the internet (Instagram and then Tumblr).

I will say though that a lot of my sexual preferences were ingrained in my mind at a very early age when I came across my parents sizable porn/book stash.

 

Good ol mom and dad!

 

I used to practice selfbondage as a kid, under 12 years old. No internet available at that time, and no porn either.
Somehow it came up, I tried it and I liked it.
Until a point when I couldn’t get out anymore and my dad had to cut me loose...
several questions followed of course but I just told them I didn’t Know why I did it. (And that was the truth).

Steel cages I found out like a year ago.

Crossdressing and female clothes also from my childhood.

 

I’m from that same era of pre internet and really didn’t know too much about it and there wasn’t too much available. I used to skateboard as a kid down in NY’s village and see some “weird” stuff but never really followed it. Now I’m doing some of that “weird” stuff and really enjoying it, if only I had known then what I know now!!

 

definitely later in life, though looking back submissive tendencies were always there.

 

I'm a femboy with a domme mistress and another domme femboy. They want me caged a good part of the time. I wear a metal cage. Sometimes one of them puts me in shackles with a chain from the cock cage to the chain attached to the shackles. It makes me very horny and my cock gets hard and strains against the cage

 

Another case of CPR I see, Chastity Post Resurrection that is!