So it’s been my first month locked and so far it feels good to be locked but, at times the frustration kills me literally. So my question is, will this eventually get better with time or will it forever be a tease & frustration?
<PEDANTIC> I don't think that the frustration kills you literally. If it did, you would not be able to post. Being dead and all. I think you mean that the frustration kills you figuratively. </PEDANTIC> My answer to your question however is - a little bit of both ..
It does get better, but never becomes easy. I’ve done some long stretches (8 months was the longest) and it never became easy. Just easier. One of the hard things is that even though every day becomes a struggle, once you’ve been through several cycles of long term lockup, you realize that stopping means you have to start all over again. The tolerance you’ve worked so hard to develop for being locked up goes pretty much back to zero and when the lock goes back on, you go through all the struggles again to adjust to being locked up. This was one of the reasons we were trying for permanent chastity for me. The cycles of adjusting and stopping and starting again were really frustrating for my wife and to a lesser degree me.
Tease and frustration. Desire and restraint. That's kind of the point. All that desire has to get channeled some place else because there's no release. Step forward the Mistress/Goddess/Owner, on whom all that desire is now focused.
I agree with @LesterBallard isn't frustration and desire what chastity is all about, if not then why would you want someone else to keep you locked and restricted from erections, stimulation and ultimately orgasms. Use all of the pent up frustration to devote yourself and attend to the needs of your partner.
I find it to be a consistent challenge, but I do notice patterns. The first two weeks in lock-up are always the hardest. After that it kind of ebbs and flows. Some days are terrible and some I forget I'm even being locked. Around the 3 month mark I start getting really mentally distressed. It's not so much physical anymore, it's like a "why the hell am I doing this" self doubt. Sometimes the desire to get out in this phase is really deep, but as I said it's much more mental than physical. Longest I've gone is a little over 4 months.
Isn’t frustration the point? There will be other variables such as the usual ebb and flow of hormones due to various aspects of life. Other hobbies may help keep the brain concentrated on other things. The increased hornyness will hopefully make you be a better partner, unless of course you don’t have a partner, at which I would debate the point of chastity (unless you have a porn addiction or similar).
I'm at Day 47 from spurting and Day 20 since my last erection. I feel like I get into a sweet spot around this point, just constantly aware and very submissive whenever I think of her. I get throb-by very easily at this point, it's like being 19 again except that I can't do anything about it. I can't wait to get home and kiss my wife and do some laundry.
I agree 100% it does get easier now on my second go round 138 days in wish I was never unlocked in the first place but while I was I did notice I missed being locked dont knownit it was just in my head or that i got so use the the weight of the S/S cage