First Anniversary Surprise

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    Thanks for the advice Allornowt but I wanted him to be able to serve us a meal before securing him. I have now discovered that he knew what I had in store for him. Despite our agreement to stick to our own websites, he has admitted that he was that nervous about it he had sneaked a look to see if I had posted on here. He also knew in advance that Tom was an escort & not a bloke from the gym. I went to a lot of trouble to organise it all and unless I calm down he is so going to get paid back this weekend - not the things he does like. He's still not asked me about what happened with Tom.
     
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    Ooo... i'd hate to be in his shoes. If I were you this is when I'd really start to excersice my power. Start taking away privelages, because its obvious that he doesnt deserve them. You went through all the trouble to carefully plan this out and he violated the agreement to stick to your own websites, thereby spoiling your fun and wasting money as well.
     
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    sORRY COBWEB BUT I AGREE WITH EVERYONE ELSE YOU REALLY MESSED UP BIG TIME BUDDY. I definately can see that all this chastity and bdsm is absolutely fabulous when it is doing everything that WE dream about but that is NOT what it is all about really and unless you can REALLY hand over TOTAL control to your Mistress Kate then you may as well forget all the agreements and just impose chastity on yourself like a game. I could not bear the thought of my Wife/Mistress having sex with another man let alone in front of me, but if i had cajoled my wife to start living this lifestyle with all my promises of total obedience then if that was her choice i would have to comply. Anyone who is serious about this choice of lifestyle MUST agree to whatever Mistress/Master wants is law
     
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    Punishment administered - photo on profile page. Although I can't say it excited me doing that to him, I did get something out of exercising that control and, I think if he winds me up enough, maybe sometimes I can get into the sort of humiliations he seems to want. Seeing the grimace on his face as we were out riding would normally have me all sympathetic but he had wound me up so much that I just wasn't feeling lovey dovey towards him at all. He was complaining so much when we got back that I would normally have caved in but I made him see out his allotted stint and, although he clearly was in a good deal of discomfort, he actually seemed pleased that I continued to put him through it !
     
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    For the true subby, punishment is a gift - not while it is happening, of course. But afterwards, when their thoughts turn to what was done to them - despite the remembered discomfort, it excites them. Like a good sissy, cobweb rode his dildo...

    Be warned - it's not good to piss Mistress Kate off....
     
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    priceless punishment Mistress Kate an inspired choice. I know from experience he was just testing you to see if he could manipulate you into releasing him from the ordeal earlier than you stated but you being strong will have made a lasting impression(anally anyway)lol on him and he will think twice before he makes any more mistakes or crosses the line you draw:anim_37:
     
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    Absolutely delicious - gives saddle-sore a whole new meaning..<weg>

     
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    you have to feel sorry for him dont you! "(the horse i mean)" lol:character0053:
     
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    He's still sore & uncomfortable and it will be a week tomorrow - although I've calmed down now and wonder if I overdid it a bit, he has never said that himself which I take to mean that either he thinks he deserved it or, despite the discomfort and complaining at the time, he enjoyed it ! We've still never discussed any more about the evening with Tom but it will happen properly on next year's Anniversary and I've got a whole year to build him up to it !
     
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    Can I ask how things are going Mistress Kate?
     
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    Not been great actually since you ask ! After the punishment he developed a prostate problem which is being treated but which he puts down to the punishment. He has therefore been free of the CB for a few weeks now. He says he is missing it - but not as much as I am. He is not the same with me - not sure if that's because he thinks my punishment was too hard or because, unlocked from his CB, he is free to do what he pleases and his mind isn't focused on me the same.
     
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    You would think he would serve you without the CB on knowing how much worse it could be if he doesn't treat you well? Or maybe he hasn't been trained long enough?
     
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    I just went back and looked at the very first post on this unexpectedly HUGE thread, and something caught my eye that really got me thinking...

    Ya' know, there's a big difference between a company that you work for going bust, and a company going bust at which you're the DIRECTOR.

    Methinks (as well as everybody else out of work right now on account of utterly uninspired & mediocre management) that Cobweb should be cuckolded for that reason alone - - to see exactly what it means, in a very personal way and indellible way, for his actions to result in somebody ELSE getting screwed.
     
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    well, you can't force him to... imagine just how bad that can turn out.
     
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    I think it is probably a bit unfair to label Cobweb as being solely responsible for the demise of the Company - there were several Directors - and it was the shareholder Directors that made most of the key decisions.

    Nevertheless I'm really not happy with him at present - constantly moaning & whinging, not giving me enough attention and, although I thought he wasn't interested in participating in these type of forums, I have discovered one instance (not on here - but there may be others) where he has posted a totally fictitious story !

    I think the prostate problem is improving but he hasn't suggested he is ready to resume the chastity yet and, to be honest, I'm not feeling much like doing it for him anyway. The thing is, of course, that I know if I do do, it will get him back to where I really want him - just a bit disappointing that, after so long in chastity, he wasn't able to continue similar behaviours when he was not locked up.
     
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    I received an Xmas Card from Tom the Escort with a Letter pouring his heart out. Said he couldn't get that night out of his mind and had been waiting all his adult life to meet a woman like me ! Wanted to stay in contact and was prepared to be 'whatever I wanted him to be'. Felt his life had lost its way and that he treated sex too casually and thought I had the strength to help him as a friend.

    Things haven't been good with Cobweb of late and I showed him the letter thinking it might gee him up a bit. He said it was fine if I met up with Tom. What?!! Surely he should have been unhappy at the very thought of it? He doesn't know whether or not I had sex with this guy in the Summer and he's happy for me to meet up with him? Surely this means either that he is no longer bothered about our relationship or that he wants cuckolding. If it's the latter, why did he react as he did back in the Summer? He does tend to like to be forced into things rather than ask for them but I'm unsure here because, based on what has happened since the Summer, this seems a surprising development.

    Am I wrong here or is this what he is saying to me? I wonder if I'm too keen to get into it? Tom's only half my age and I do fancy him but my head tells me that he is just besotted and any relationship would be unlikely to be a lasting one.
     
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    Because they don't know what they bloody want!

    Or, he does have the need to feel like it WAS forced on him. (I had this conversation with a Master today)

    I say it's cuckolding, so go and have the conversation. Explain that although you realise he may feel he needs to be forced into the scenario that you, as his lover and partner, need to be 100% sure that this is most definitely what he wants.
     
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    Thanks MW. I know really you are right. I've been deliberating for a couple of weeks. Initially I was upset at Cobweb's reaction & was determined to meet up with Tom but out of anger at Cobweb. I managed to stop myself until I had calmed down and, although I've still got this nagging feeling that Cobweb is expecting me just to do it, I think you're right & I need to have a conversation with him - it's too serious a step not to. I have, today, read back through my posts in the Summer and, although I couldn't recall it, Cobweb did suggest that if he had been humiliated or forced to CD whilst I was with Tom, then there was something in it for him and he would have been OK with it. I would have thought serving us a meal was pretty humiliating but guess I need to check understanding. Trouble is I am pretty sure he really wants me to just do it and I think I'll tell him that this is what I'm going to try to set up for us and give him a few scenarios of what could possibly happen. This way it will seem like it's being forced but he'll have a chance to say 'No' if I've got it totally wrong. Then of course there is Tom & whether this is what he wants - he said he would be 'whatever I wanted' but don't want him to feel any more used after what he said in his note. Thanks again.
     
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    Cobweb didn't seem particularly excited by my news - but then he hasn't been by much lately - but he had plenty of chances to veto it which he didn't. I'm not sure whether he's just disinterested altogether & couldn't really care less what I do. Anyway I've arranged to see Tom to discuss it & I'm really excited about it. I am also nervous about it though because it feels very different to the one off 'no strings' surprise back in the Summer as I'm going into it expecting that I might develop something ongoing with Tom.

    Can I ask anyone else who's done this - Dommes or Subs - what works best for you - cuckolded sub present or just them knowing that you are out on a date with someone else ? Do you have them help get you ready for the date or does it work better to let them play no part in it at all?
     
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    Hi Kate,

    I can't be of direct help as I've never been cuckolded myself, but try signing up to ourhotwives.org and taking a look around. You can get yourself verified as a female and post and read areas that men cannot. I can recommend the site highly, it's of a similar quality to the mansion!

    J
     
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    Mistress Kate,

    Having not been in this situation either, I can only speak from what I imagine I would feel. I think I would prefer to be present. Being present, I would be humiliated and feel controlled, but I would be participating. If I was left at home, I would feel neglected. It would be difficult to feel controlled, rather than just feeling like a man who was neglected and unloved while his Wife went out to get it on with someone else. I would question why I was in the relationship at all.

    So, if we were into cuckholding, I think I'd vote strongly in favor of being there.

    mikecb
     
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    Um...

    Begging your pardon and all, but if it worked like that then the business model would be to -rent- the device, not sell it. Of course his behaviour didn't continue after the device was removed. That's why it has a lock. If the effect was permanent you wouldn't need to keep it on.

    (suppose i should put a :) here in case anyone doesn't find it funny)
     
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    Not sure this is going to happen after all ! Met Tom last night but the illusion I had of him from previously - confident hunky looking stud - was destroyed when he said what he really wanted was for me to take control of him ! He will be a 'straight' lover for me to cuckold Cobweb but what he dreams of is me dominating him ! He would love not to be able to have sex with any of his clients because I had him under lock & key. I said surely that would affect how much business he did but he thinks not - he thinks there is a good market for women who just want a good looking man on their arm for the evening. One of my concerns with getting involved had been his history of casual sex but I'm not sure that I can think of him as a stud one minute and then lock him up the next and I'm not really sure I want more KH responsibilities. When he could see I was wavering he said it was more about helping him to get his self respect back than it was about me dominating him but that's not what he had said.

    We've both agreed to think about it for a while rather than rush into anything.
     
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    It just seems like the relationship in general between Cobweb and yourself if hurting. He seems depressed to me from what i have read. he doesn't seem to really be into being cuckolded and doesn't seem to care much about what you do since the anniversary experience and punishment. The feeling i'm getting is that he feels hurt by the whole thing but, being a natural submissive, wants to let you do whatever you want . Obviously the thought of you with another man was too much for him. I can't imagine my wife/KH doing it. It would totally crush me even though we talk about it in play that she could have a big black cock anytime if i don't please her. We both know that it is something that would hurt our relationship. The thought of it is exciting to me, the reality of it is devastating. I know it works out for a lot of people on here but from reading this entire thread, i feel concerned that your pursuit of a cuckolding experience could end up with the demise of your current relationship. I am obviously not as in tune to Cobweb as you and apologize if i am overstepping here. I would just hate to see him completely emotionally pull out.
     
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    You were right locktite. Although the thought/fantasy of cuckolding excites him, the reality has scared him - he wonders generally if he's bitten off more than he can chew & worries about me wanting something more with Tom. Hopefully he just needed a bit of tlc & reassurance and we might be able to get ourselves back on track.
     
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