Finding the sweet spot ;)

Well, back in the cage this morning after 13 days of total freedom. The Queen started her period this morning, so the dreaded days of less playing. Although she really enjoyed cumming while pegging me a couple weeks ago and has mentioned it will happen again this Friday or Saturday, so at least that should be fun and help get me back into a good subspace.
Hopefully I’ll get an orgasm or two before Locktober hits! I’m not sure how strict she’s going to be

 

Yes it will! We’ve played with pegging off and on for a while, but it was a little hit or miss for her to be able to keep her bullet vibe in place so she could get her O. I recently found a jock strap style harness that had a pocket for the vibe, and our first time using it was a couple weeks back and she loved it! The vibe stayed in place and when she would bury the dildo in me and grind on my ass, she was easily able to cum.
So I’m hoping she’ll want to continue this somewhat regularly, at the very least it gives her another option to get her orgasms when she’s got her period. Plus she has fun teasing me that she’ll find someone to give me the real thing lol, pretty sure that’ll never happen but it’s a good fantasy for us both.

 

That’s a great thing to be able to be totally open with your partner! We’ve been married for 30 years, got married at 18 and amazingly we both shared our sexual fantasies very early on. I’m very lucky to have a very horny and sexual Wife, chastity is just the latest kink we’ve decided to try out. And she has been increasing her dominance over the last year of it, making me incredibly happy and aroused lol

 

Friday night, pegging for me, locked in the cage, face down, ass up. Not long really, my Wife was able to orgasm quickly and then fucked me a few minutes longer before ending it. Clean up and cuddle, only day two of current lockup so it helped get my head right.
Saturday she put a “cup” in for her period, so I was able to give her head for about 45 mins and bring her to orgasm.
Today is day 4 for me, feeling great and horny as hell! Last night while in the hot tub before bed, we were kissing a bit and my Wife says, “seeing as we’re so close to October, we may as well just start Locktober now”
I’ve never been locked more than 28 days, looks like I’ll be flying past that record. She’s teased in the past about things like this but hasn’t actually followed through. However, she’s been much more strict and is having a great time letting her dominance grow and said she likes erection control as much as orgasm control.
So right now I’m fully planning on being a lustful, horny, submissive mess for the next 6 weeks or whatever it is! Maybe she’ll end up allowing a cum before October starts, but I’m not counting on it.
I’m happy to keep licking her or giving up my ass as long as she’s having fun

 

Still locked, allowed an erection Monday night for about 10 mins, a couple edges from rubbing on her soft round ass and it was very tough to not explode! Tuesday night she wanted to peg me again, this time was the longest session we’ve ever had for that. It had to be about a half hour of it, nothing rough, and it felt amazing! When I put my hands behind my back and she grabbed them, she started grinding into me, about a minute later she was cumming hard and fell off me exhausted. My cock was straining in his cage for quite a while after, I cleaned myself and the toy up and then held her as she fell asleep.
Today is a week, locked for all except maybe a half hour to wash, shave and then the edging. The Queen said this weekend I may be allowed piv, and she might give me an orgasm before my Locktober starts. If she changes her mind, I would be looking at a 45 day lockup, which would blow past my 28 day record.
She has fully taken over chastity as her own, no longer play it seems!

 

Day 8 of current sentence and for some reason I’m having a really tough time not begging to feel her pussy. So I asked for a maintenance spanking and we had the house to ourselves, well she asked for her wooden spoon which is closer to a small paddle than spoon, and the thick wooden cane. My Queen has been on a roll lately, really taking to being dominant and way more strict about even allowing erections never mind piv, and now apparently decided it was time to step up beating my ass! She almost had me in tears but stopped short, after she held me a while, she told me that level would be her “light” maintenance spanking from now on and if I upset her or disobey her regarding chastity it will be tough for me to sit. I am pretty sure I’ll be very careful not to trigger that reaction!

We will be alone Friday night till Saturday morning and I’m really hoping I’ll be allowed to at least have some piv for a while and I’m still holding out some hope for a cum! My wonderful Wife has taken the reins of chastity completely out of my hands, no more manipulating my predicament.
I cannot tell when she’s teasing me about long lockup’s or not, so I’ve tried to resign myself that I may be denied until Halloween night. I figure if I’m given a release before Oct 1st, it’ll be a treat!
I asked for this over the last two years of playing with the cage and lockup’s, and hoping my beautiful Wife and Queen would make it her own, and now it seems that is coming to fruition. I have submitted and will continue to try and bring her all the pleasure she deserves. She’s a strong woman, been my better half for 30 years, gave me 4 wonderful children, and always played whatever kinky games I wanted to try, so now I will worship her and let her guide me and mold me to what she desires.
I am a very lucky man!

 

Sitting in the hot tub a couple nights ago and we started talking about our sex life a bit. I asked if she has been really into using the cage etc, and let her know I feel like she’s changed and become more confident in dominating me, and how she seemed even more horny than normal over the last few months as she’s become more strict.
She agreed that it’s given her more pleasure and likes the spanking, pegging and just keeping me wanting.
I asked if she thought this would be an ongoing “normal” life for us, and she sat on my lap and said, “I don’t see us giving up the cage, at least a week or two every month would be minimum”, “I just love the extra attention you give me”.
She also asked me if I thought when she grants freedom from the cage, if I assumed that meant sex and orgasms every day. I said yes because that’s how it usually went for us, a couple weeks of locking and then a week or two of daily sex and cumming.
She somewhat sternly said I was to stop assuming that, said even if she allows the cage to come off, it was still her penis and I may not be getting her pussy or orgasms every time. I of course told her I understood.
So sexy when your Wife owns you!

For the first year of using a cage off and on, I believe if I said I don’t want do this anymore, she would’ve been fine with that and the cage would’ve gone in with the other sex toys. I know now over this last year, she’s changed and has become the Queen whole heartedly and loves every aspect of it!

She’s allowed me to be cage free from Friday until next Thursday night, that night will start Locktober. And so far I’ve been allowed sex and orgasms each night, but I won’t be taking that for granted going forward.

Tonight we should be trying out the Vixskin Holster cock sheath that just arrived. Hoping she likes it more than the harness and dildo “boyfriends” we have, those have only been used a handful of times in the last two years.

 

The Vixskin Holster was great, gives me just enough feeling to maintain an erection but no way I’d get an orgasm wearing it. And my Wife loved it, it adds about an inch in length and maybe half inch in girth to my penis, and she loves that the motions are just like using my cock as opposed to using the strap on and a dildo. I definitely think this will be used much more often than her other boyfriends.

I was allowed 6 days of freedom till Thursday night, I tried to hold off my last cum as long as possible before starting Locktober, but the Queen said that’s enough, stop holding back, and a few seconds later I had a great orgasm!

Friday Oct 1st, showered and shaved her property and locked up that morning. My Wife had said she wasn’t sure if she wanted to start Locktober on the 1st or allow me more sex until Sunday night, but she was happy to see him caged as she was getting ready for work. She told me to get down there and give her head last night, it was late and after about 20 mins of slow licking, she had a strong orgasm and quickly passed out. I washed her up and cuddled up to her with my raging attempt of an erection painful in his cage. Cialis really makes him hurt lol, I woke up a few times straining through the night and early morning. I shouldn’t need to take another pill for a while now, I think she’ll be pegging me tonight with a shorter but little thicker toy than she’s used the last few times. Her new jock strap harness is perfect for her, and she has a new interest in fucking me with it, said she wants to “pound” me….yikes
Last time we discussed October, we talked about maybe letting my cock out for a stretch once a week and to use the Holster on him so I don’t really get to feel her pussy for the month, and that way she can get some piv, the rest of the week would be my tongue or her pegging me to get her orgasms daily.
Should be a great ride until Halloween when I’ll be released!

 

Day 4 of Locktober, my Wife decide against letting me have freedom through the weekend. I was allowed out of the cage on Saturday night, to get an erection so she could ride the Holster sheath after she caned my ass a little bit. Almost no feeling for me of course, she had a good strong orgasm while I sucked her breast and carefully inserted a finger into her bottom while she rode the vixskin.
Then I washed her cock, let him start to soften and squished him back into the cage.
Sunday was oral for her and today as day 4 started, the horniness level jumps, it always hits me badly day 4 for some reason. I’m trying to settle into forgetting about getting hard and missing the feel of my Queen’s warm wet temple.
I really don’t know how I’ll make it to Halloween, I really hope my Wife stays strong and strict, I believe she will.

 

Day 12 of Locktober, Wife allowed piv 5 days ago and then Aunt Flo showed up and we had one of our family pets pass away. So not much going on sexually for a few days.
However last night something happened that really blew me away! Day 4 & 11 of a lockup, I have always had huge jumps in horniness and yesterday was rough! I told my Wife that if she’d allow me to grind my cage on her bottom, that I’d probably cum in my cage. She laughed and said we’d try at bedtime.
We get in bed, she’s just in panties and tee, I strip to my cage and mount her beautiful round ass and squeeze my thighs to plump her cheeks up and start humping her….and a few minutes later I had a painful sting through my entire caged cock, and then a few seconds later I felt the push of cum flowing down onto her thighs! I was in shock, a huge painful orgasm. I got up to clean us up and my Wife started laughing, I had to as well, I could not believe that happened. I’ve had a few caged orgasms with her wand between my balls and under side of the cage fairly easily, but didn’t think I’d get one from dry humping her ass while my penis was bent down. After a decent laugh, my Wife teased and said, well I’m never letting you out any more, you cheated Locktober and can cum without being unlocked.
I’m pretty sure it’s just teasing…..

 

Friday night, day 15, I gave my Queen a nice hot oil massage and asked if she’d like my tongue, the wand, or for me to grind on her mound with her bullet vibe. She said she wasn’t sure yet, so we just got into bed and started kissing a bit. Then she surprised me by saying to go get her purse and get the key, she wanted me to take the cage off and wash her penis, said she’d let me rub it on her ass and get an erection for a while.
After washing, I laid on her in missionary and I was rubbing on her mound, just off to one side while we kissed a bit, she said she decided I should give her an orgasm by piv.
After a few minutes of slowly making love, she pushed me up and said to lay down, she wanted to ride me. She mounted me, put her vibe between us and grabbed my wrists and pushed my arms over my head and held them down while she increased speed. I told her I was very close to cumming so I may need to slow down a little. An evil grin appeared on her beautiful face, and she says, “yeah? How close?”, and I said if I grab your hips and thrust hard for a minute, I’ll cum. She let go of my wrists and I grabbed her and pulled on her tightly, started to increase rhythm, she told me to cum inside her which is only allowed a few times a year. I asked if she was sure and she said yes, but you’ll be punished, I asked what the punishment would be, but she didn’t answer, she just kept our rhythm going faster and faster….
It didn’t take long and I exploded, one of the strongest orgasms I’d had in a while! Once I caught my breath, she says “you always want me to ride your face, so here you go”
She started to mount my face and was laughing, I put my hands up to block her and felt her wet pussy, and thank god she just slid off to the side of me, both of us laughing. I’m sure I filled her pretty good, and while I’ve had a taste of my cum before, I certainly did not want all that!
So now I have no idea what will happen, I asked if I had to lock after or this morning and she said no, she wants me to be free today. I’ll find out later when the cage will go back on, and if it’ll be weeks before I cum again or not. Whatever the Queen desires will be done

 

Well, Locktober ended for me on the 15th and I was free till the 23rd, sex and orgasms daily. We had another fun talk about the cage and what my Wife wanted out of it.
She said she loves my attitude, energy and attentiveness when locked and mostly denied, but she really loves having piv with me too. So we’ve decided that I’ll be locked every day, on Friday night as long as I’ve been good all week, I’ll be unlocked and allowed sex and orgasm, sleep free and lock Saturday morning to help stay submissive. Saturday night the same, unlock and sex and a 2nd orgasm for the week, sleep free and lock up Sunday morning to start the next week.
My Queen has become more dominant as we go, and she says she really likes caning my ass a couple times a week to help my headspace and she likes seeing how red and how many stripes she can make, and last night she brought me to tears for the first time during a maintenance spanking.
Damn canes hurt! But I think it was an important step in cementing her dominance for both of us, she held me very tightly after while I came down from that rush.

This week was the start of this new trial for what could be my new normal. She said she’ll peg me for a while tonight before I’m allowed to be unlocked for piv, should be a fun trial run. She also stated again to me, that she wants me to be a fast cummer and hopes only being allowed sex twice a week, and only a couple of erections and touching, that it will help make sure my stamina is diminished down to minutes.
This turns me on incredibly but is also extremely humbling and scary to me, but I agreed to give her full control of our sex life, so that’s what will happen

 

Thank you for reading it! I figure it’s a great way to document how things are changing for us, mainly so I can remember lol. I’d love if my Wife would join and post as well, maybe some day.

 

This past weekend was great! Friday night she pegged me for while and is getting better at thrusting. I was still locked and she was able to orgasm, I was then allowed to unlock and take her from behind and was instructed to not hold off orgasm. It only took a couple minutes and I finished, allowed to sleep without the cage.
Saturday morning after she stroked my morning erection for a while, it was back in the cage for the day. We had sex that night with me having to stop multiple times to stop from cumming, after she came, it was the same as Friday night, no holding off the O and it took less than a minute which deeply pleases my Wife. It’s so humbling and destroys any male ego I had left, knowing she intends on making me a two minute man or less, I struggle with accepting this but realize I agreed to the Queen running the show, so I’ll have to continue coming to accept this new reality.

Sunday morning I caged up again, she allowed me to rub my cock on her bottom that night for my 3rd cum of the weekend.
Locked Monday morning and will remain locked until Friday night.
This should be our routine for the next couple months to see how it goes, I’ve been told not to take it for granted that every weekend I’ll get 2-3 orgasms, she may decide to mix things up and deny them sometimes too.
She gave me a decent caning Monday night to help me get back to a deeper submissive mindset, and with her period starting it’ll be a fairly quiet few days, probably some grinding on her to get her off each night, maybe she’ll peg me again so she can cum that way.

 

Yesterday marked the end of our second week of this routine. The weekend started with hot oil massage for the Queen Friday night followed by giving her an oral orgasm on the massage table. I was allowed to unlock once we got in bed and got to cum from rubbing on her bottom.
Saturday morning locked up, and she told me that she would be pegging me that night. I think she’s really taking a liking to being able to orgasm while watching her fake cock disappear into my ass! After I cleaned up from that, the cage came off and we had sex, she got her second O and I came very quickly after she flipped over and let me have her from behind.
She told me that Sunday morning we’d probably have sex, she knows how much I crave that and how it’s become a rare treat.
The last few months, I’ve been allowed to wake her with my tongue and she has said she really likes cumming like that, and admitted it’s more that she doesn’t necessarily want the feeling of my cock in her first thing in the morning. This for some reason really turned me on, I guess it’s the brutal honesty and her being ok with being selfish knowing I’m locked and at her mercy that arouses me lol. So finally getting to have piv that next morning was amazing!
We ended Sunday with another round of piv.

I told her my stamina came back pretty good just from 3 times of piv, and she said, “well, we’re changing that then, you’ll get to stay locked Friday nights and only get to cum Saturday and Sunday night starting this week”
She really wants me to only be able to hold off orgasm while she cums when we have piv and then as quickly as possible have my orgasm.
I believe we’ll keep this routine going at least over November and see how things go. But I’m only having mild sub drop and the caning every couple days helps.
I can see living this way for the foreseeable future, I’m feeling great, submissive and horny all the time. And as long as my wonderful Wife is enjoying my attitude, servitude and quick trigger, all is well

 

My Queen allowed 4 orgasms last weekend, the end of 3 weeks in this routine. And it definitely seemed to have an adverse affect, not really in sub drop but overall mindset, I feel blah, a little depressed, lower energy.
I confessed this to her this morning in a long text, I asked if she would help correct my attitude with daily caning and she immediately called me down to our bedroom for a morning caning before she got ready for work. I also let her know I think 2 orgasms per weekend should probably be the maximum allowed to help keep me in a better overall mood. I’m sure she agrees, she already told me I’ve had too many this month. So hopefully we’ll dial in this weekly routine now and it’ll keep us in peak form.
Everything else has been going great, my Wife is happy pegging me once a week for now, she gets oral orgasms nightly and has been pleased with how quickly I have been cumming when it’s my turn, but said she wants to keep training me to get faster.
I think she may make me skip a weekend release occasionally as well, to help make me more sensitive when I’m released.

 

Today is the end of our 6th week and we seem to be in a very comfortable routine now. Locked every day, allowed to sleep free Friday and Sat nights usually. No more than 2 orgasms for me, and plenty for my Wife.
With each week she has settled into her more dominant role, she expects immediate obedience, still canes me regularly, has been pegging me once a week on average, and demands my orgasms to be done within a minute after she has had hers. After she settles down after hers, she’ll turn onto her stomach, she’ll check her phone for time and allow me to then enter her from behind, and once I start pumping, the time starts.
These weeks of being constantly locked, and only allowed a few minutes of piv a week has already wiped out my once strong stamina for fucking to the point where I have to go very slow, change pace and do everything I can to not cum while making love to her. She loves hearing my whimpers while I try to hold off and still give her the penetration she desires. This has really had an affect on me, pushed me into a submissive mind set I haven’t had since we started playing with the cage a couple years ago!
I’ve kept a list on my phone of each month, days locked and my orgasms, just for fun. I was averaging about half a month locked and around 13 orgasms a month until this routine, which should drop me down to 8 a month. I should wrap up 2021 with having had around 200 orgasms.
When I let the Queen know this, her response to me was, “we need to cut that way down, to about 50 or so”, that made my stomach drop and cage get tight. I said so 1 orgasm a week? And she laughed.
She is allowing me my second cum for this week tonight, but I guess we may be moving toward once a week cums for me.
I love the way things have evolved and I know just giving in and going with her desires makes me happiest, so I will follow her lead and enjoy the journey. She had admitted to me that she sees herself as the dominant one now and loves how everything is going, and while I miss fucking her every day and dominating her, this has been a fun and exciting experience for both of us. And that’s a great thing for a couple married over 30 years

 

December has been strange, I’ve been allowed 3 orgasms as of the 16th. Only 2 from piv, and only allowed a few minutes in her pussy for her to orgasm a week ago.
I’m a little afraid she’s getting totally used to cumming without the penis being involved, and this fun game is getting to serious chastity….and the “careful what you wish for” bounces around my brain daily. But, we’re both having fun, me filled with love and lust for my beautiful Wife, and daily orgasms, and total control for her.
She has my head spinning, wondering if I’ll be allowed an erection, maybe get some stroking, or maybe possibly an orgasm at some point. My ass has been spanked bright red a few times this month and it helps keep me focused. Unfortunately she hasn’t pegged me for almost two weeks now and I’ve started craving that for some kind of sexual relief!
We’ve both changed a lot since last December, hopefully plenty more fun to follow

 

Last couple weeks have gone as expected, my Wife has total control and I have no expectations as far as unlocking or orgasms.
She allowed a few orgasms between the 23rd and Christmas, but she started her period, so only a couple were from piv before it started.
I think she’ll allow piv and an orgasm for New Years Eve, we usually ring in the new year with sex. That would close out Dec with 9 orgasms for me, 6 of them from piv. This would be my second lowest total in a month, and she’s been telling me not to expect that many in January. I have a feeling I may go from NYE till my birthday weekend on the 22-24. I’ve asked for lots of sex that weekend, but she replied with “we’ll see, but I doubt it”.
I think I’m finally at peace mentally with denial being a regular nightly event, she really enjoys my tongue, with a couple nights a month of me grinding on her and her vibe, and some piv every few days even though I don’t always get to cum when that happens.
I feel very good over all and I think she’s happy with “her pet”, I feel very submissive to her even after any orgasms I am allowed.
Life is good! Excited to see what this next year brings!

 

I am finally understanding what the chastity high is, I feel incredible! It’s only been 9 days since my Queen allowed an orgasm. We had sex NYE and that weekend a few times, and now as I expected I’ll go until my birthday weekend. But I think I’ve finally reached the mental peace of mind in giving in to total submission and instead of worrying when my next cum will be and how many I’ll get to enjoy, I’m looking forward to longer stretches of chastity and focusing on giving my Wife all the attention and pleasure.
When I first started lurking here and learning, no way I could fathom going weeks and months without cumming. Now I’m finding myself hoping for her to deny me more, and enjoying the cane, the teasing, and the piv with no finish for me except the pat on the bottom telling me she’s satisfied and it’s time to clean her up and let her penis go soft so it can be locked again.
That stuff combined with seeing my incredible Wife take over, enforce my chastity and enjoy her being even more horny than before, it’s overwhelming me with amazing feelings.
Im sure there will be some tweaks and some things changing as we go, but I believe after 2 years of trial and error, letting go of my manipulation and topping, we are at that sweet spot. The Queen ruling me with love and strictness, and my total submission to her.

 

2022 is going to be an interesting year for this caged guy. My wife says her goal is to allow an orgasm every two weeks, maybe one a month occasionally. This was my birthday weekend and I figured she’d allow a few, she allowed one last night (Sunday), we had sex Monday morning with an orgasm for her and I asked if I could stay inside her for a few more minutes and she quickly said no.
I know she’s allowing a 2nd cum tonight for my birthday, but I’m required to orgasm as fast as possible once she’s had hers.
She really loves it that I have to slow down, change pace and position a bit to keep from cumming while trying to please her. Only getting one or two orgasms a month will only make this worse of course, but if it gets frustrating for her, we have the Vixskin holster cock sleeve, and plenty of other toys to use with the strap on, or numbing cream.
This progression makes me feel incredible, and knowing my Wife & Queen has now made this her preferred sex life is just awesome!