So I’m starting a new thread and journal due to now having had four full years with my now wife and mistress. Year 5 is starting and who knows what that will entail. 2020 started without an O, erection, or physical contact for nearly 2 months. The hiatus ended rather toe curlingly last night. I am currently uncaged...was told to lock up right away, but I have been playing hooky a little hahaha. For those unfamiliar with me, and our story, feel free to read some of my other journals “uh oh I think she likes it” and “the evolution of mistress amante”. I will recap briefly here in case you don’t want to read four years of fun, struggle, whining, and venting. We started as a normal couple dating. I was coming out of a nasty divorce, and to be honest, wanted this relationship to be different. I told her of my submissive sexual preference, need for chastity and to lose control of that part of my life, my feminine nature, and within a few months that I am intersex. All in all she handled it pretty well. She didn’t really understand why someone would want to lock their privates up or give that power to someone else. She agreed to try it, and didn’t really look back since. We started with her unlocking me every night, usually ending in an O, then came ruined O’s, lots of teasing. One day I mentioned that I didn’t have a hard time grooming because I could just pull it out the back. She was visibly upset. She didn’t know that I could always pull it out the back. I casually mentioned that a piercing is the only way to fix that, she told me to make the appointment. We went shortly after and she watched me get pierced. It took awhile to heal all the way, I bought a cage that I could wear my piercing without hurting it while it healed. In the coming months is when she really came into her own about being in charge of sex and being guilt free about it. You see while I healed I still ended up pleasuring her. That really set up our situation that she could have sex whenever she wanted and not worry about reciprocation...since I physically would get hurt if she did. When I did heal, her taking what she wanted and not giving me anything unless she felt like it continued. With that, we communicated some of her kinks as well as mine. We started experimenting with her kinks like physical punishment, spankings, paddling, and even maid service. Unlocking went from almost every night to about once a month or so. Somehow we kind of naturally went into what would be called female led, or maybe service oriented. I started doing more acts of service such as starting her car, making her lunch, coffee, dishes, laundry, foot rubs, and cleaning the house in general. Of course the maid service was more sexualized but didn’t involve sex. Painting her nails, washing her hair, and massages. I was born intersex, I’ve always known, but at my age my body just isn’t keeping up on the male end and is sliding more female. This comes with certain physical changes over the last few years, breast and feminine figure being most prevalent. I mention this because this worried me and our future, but she handled it great and stuck with me...boobs and all. As time went by, we have settled down into a very loving, D/s life but doesn’t focus everyday around our kinks. We have played around with the idea of being in a cuckold marriage, there are some roadblocks for her that have basically kept it to just fantasy. One she doesn’t feel comfortable with it becoming public knowledge and discretion would need to be total. Two, it would be odd for her to just go on a stranger and get busy...huge cock or not. Three, she and I both want it to be with me there...the guy would have to be ok with that. Four, if the guy is up to all this, he still has to be ok with not being in a romantic relationship and just a fuck toy. And five, safety as far as disease and all that. With all that, finding the perfect guy and scenario would be like finding a unicorn...so we are leaving it open and if the perfect thing happens to happen we may just do it. We are open but with a very picky set up. I have about 10 orgasms a year, use toys and wand on her I don’t know how many times lol. We now don’t do much punishment or teases, ruined orgasms have kind of went away too. I am physically not very big so sex with me is mostly something just for me. When she wants me to have one she’ll give me one. Will update on this thread from here on out.