I wasn't quite sure where to put this so I guess I'll just put it here This post is spurred on by something that happened within the last week and it just prompted me to put something up about it. One thing I commonly see is a BDSM relationship or scene forming together and the top and bottom being on completely different pages as far as whats acceptable and whats not. Now i know many are responsible when it comes to setting out the lines and such but some things can be forgotten easily along the lines whether it's something you forgot to mention (maybe you don't like havign your balls crushed and now they're being crushed) or something you DID mention but your top has forgotten all about it by now. This is a list that i found and then heavily edited to suit my OCD of organization, i forget the original source so if anyone knows where this came from PLEASE let me know so I can credit the original author. It's in excel format so you need to have excel to open it (I can't confirm whether it works in open office or other spreadsheet programs). It's also a community effort, if you know of something I missed, please post or PM me so I can add it and update the spreadsheet. Fetlist
I took a quick look and it seem that I already have a list like that one... Might miss a few BDSM in the list but it should be nice for beginners.
It is more for the beginner or a new top and bottom to get their feet wet and gives a GOOD picture of where the sub and top liked to go in their scenes. Things can be added in very easily and in the case of my wife and I we will go back every month or two to edit and add in things we've done or things we've heard of. I realize you can't realistically hit EVERY fetish out there with a list but you gotta start somewhere. And yea the list is very common, mine I think is just easier to use and more concise/organized Maybe that's just for me
lists like this one are great. Mistress and i worked on O/ours years ago but about once a year W/we revisit. it's funny for both of U/us to see how far i have come since that first time.
The nice thing about a list like that is to try everything on it or, at least, all the items your Mistress wants to try. Maybe some of you would like to fill the list out and share it with us. I would like to see what naughty minds you all have...
I don't mind sharing mine at all. My List It's things i've done in the past, not nessecarily things i've done with my wife.
Very nice list belle. I couldn't help but notice that you rated following orders a 1. I would think a subby would be able to follow orders - assuming the orders remained within the allowed items on the list. I think the rest of your answers leave a lot of leeway for play - a very nice list.
I found this Excel sheet a great place to start. It will help us talk about things we want to or don't want to do. :rules:
lists like this one are a great communication tool. Mistress and i revisit the list every 6 months or so as W/we continue to explore and experiment.
Your link seems to have expired one way or another. Back when it was working, I followed it and found that the list was in "read only format" -- thus, not that useful. Anyone know where the list can be found without the "read only" limitation ? finallyChaste
Many thanks lockednloaded. This is still a "read-only" file, but it lets you make entries and then save under your own file name. Seems to be working great. finallyChaste