Femdom, FLR and Chastity an ongoing saga

Since starting chastity we've both become very open with each other with our feelings and wants. I expressed many of my desires to my wife and told her things I never thought I would in the past out of fear of her rejecting me. She really loves and appreciates the honesty that we have between us now. I didn't really realize how far down the path we'd gone until she denied me the key. She always told me how much she liked our mc lifestyle but sometimes I wondered because it didn't seem like she was trying to progress things. My problem is that I want her to progress in bdsm play and she's been trying to progress me in obedience for her. Again it's more of a subtle effort but it's working and the fact that she wouldn't give me the key and I didn't blow up when she didn't is proof. She is just more vanilla and I will just have to accept that. I'm lucky when she does try something kinky with me and even if she likes whatever we're doing that doesn't mean she'll allow it to happen often or anytime soon. Just as anyone I have ever spoken too who has experience in this lifestyle I know that time and patience is the only thing that will evolve things in more of the direction I hope us to be going towards.

 

It was definitely a shocker for me that she said no. Especially given the arguing, ranting/venting that went on beforehand. I'm sure it took her a lot of courage to do that and I'm super proud of her for standing her ground. She is also not one to give up so easily. Chastity certainly became much more real to me when she did that and luckily part of me craves that kind of control from her. So even though things are more often sexually vanilla for us than not, she knows how to keep me on the edge with her dominant behavior. The way she presents her dominance to me is also somewhat different than I expected also. I think I was initially expecting more aggression and forcefulness from her. Probably because of the porn I'd watched for so many years I created a false idea of what female dominance would look like or st least how I wanted it to look. Instead she presents her dominance in a bitchy hot girl fashion. She talks down to me and makes me feel a little humiliated when she does which gets me excited. If she doesn't think I'm taking her seriously enough then she'll bust out the riding crop or paddle. I think that's a lot of the play I was missing lately because that had toned it down quite a bit. She just had a lot going on and I screwed up by not keeping my cool or patience.