Myself and my partner have an active interest in BDSM and have incorporated male chastity play within our sexual play. This fits in with myself (the male in the relationship) being generally the submissive and the chastity then is dealt with as a denial and sits well in the context of a submissive state. Recently, we have been interested in the concept also of female chastity. However, I am faced with the challenge of not only finding natural dominance difficult, but moreover, how to excite her through chastity. She is equally as keen in the introduction of the belt, but I’m finding it hard to gain a true understanding of what buttons I must press to enter her head of the excitement of chastity. In my world, it’s a very different turn on, and one that fits with the usual things that you read on here of submission, cruelty, humiliation, 24/7 bondage etc etc. Hence the tease/denial and penalties are of interest. Her mindset is clearly very different when it comes to thinking of her own chastity. In her mind the wearing of the belt is very much about feeling owned by me. She shows no interest at all in the denial of sexual pleasure. In her view, that would simply lead to her switching off, rather than gaining increased frustration. Clearly I want to maintain an excitement and arousal, and not lock her up only for her to quickly tire and switch off that part of her brain. I struggle to gain this understanding as the focus of my chastity is so intrinsically linked to denial, to the point that it’s easy to play with that denial to work me to arousal. Subtracting the denial, the wearing of a locked device seems rather different, almost pointless in my eyes. So, the question remains how I go about keeping her hot in the belt. Yes, verbally I can reinforce the ownership that she craves. Other than that, I can only see the ritual of unlocking before gaining access as being a turn on for her, together with the constant reminder as she feels it under her clothes. Do I simply leave it as that or can I enhance the experience for her in any way? Anyone with any experience that could offer some helpful tips or insights?