So out of maybe frustration, I succumbed after deliberating for some time and paid for some FemDom video porn. It was not cheap (by my standards anyway) but I thought it might be entertaining. It was a great disappointment however. But I don't know why this was. It was very professionally done, it had all the elements of FemDom which I crave i.e. CBT, facesitting, strap-on and more but it didn't arose me at all. Maybe because I knew it was all an act and the actors weren't doing it because that was the lifestyle they chose but becuase they were getting paid for it. The sub obviously wasn't into it in any way. So it was a wasted 30. I will stick to Femdom literature in future which I find so much more of turn on. Does anyone else experience this let down?
There are websites and production companies that hire people involved in the lifestyle for whom this is not an act, but an expression of who they are and what they like. But whenever i see the mask drop, it is rather distressing.
I very much get where your coming from. I suffered the same fate for years...there was something about the fact that these people were actors that just totally turned me off. Without trying to plug myself too much, this is exactly the reason why I started Femdombride.com - Goddess and I had made friends with them, and we decided...heck - lets mix our personal passions with our professional passions and try and earn a living by providing a real product, that I myself wanted. The couple Goddess Starla and her hubby are a real 24/7 female led married couple, however to be perfectly honest...I do end up having to have them "do scenes" ... kind of... what most people don't realize is that in reality, you can't act that way 24/7 - reality gets in the way...so I do have to focus them into playtime essentially to do the weekly updates. Ultimately though we do try and convey the reality of a lifestyle female led relationship. Anyway - I do agree with you, and have suffered the same thing, luckily though it's been years since I've been able to masturbate - but I still do like torturing myself with good literature, good porn, and the like. I read literotica.com quite a bit, do you have any other recommendations where to find good literature/picture stories/captions?
Agreed i, too, have come across this problem. i may get *really* into a video's "plot", and it looks great, but then cameras go off and the entire thing is ruined for me. i went out and bought a dvd a while back from a woman whom i know enjoyed the scene...i know because i had seen her website and she genuinely enjoyed dominating guys. the dvd was amazing-there was such passion and fire in it, plus it had everything i'm into to boot! (basically the same things you are). From start to finish, it was fluid motion, a perfect session and the perfect Mistress and slave... then the hammer fell. At the end, where the credits roll (thanks to Mistress so and so, thanks to dungeon so and so for letting us use the space, etc) the dvd showed the camera man making the dvd, 7 different photographers taking pictures in the background, and the director giving directions to the cast!! it would have been my perfect video had i not seen that part, but i couldn't un-see it and so it was forever ruined. i tossed it a few days later when i went to watch it again and it got no rise from me. Montreal_cuck- i LOVED Femdombride.com (dammit randy! ha ha!) but i wound up letting my trial die off because of a crappy internet connection that wouldn't even let me download the photosets... the photosets. there was a bad storm right in the middle of the trial and somehow my DSL line got water in it. i never fully joined but i think now that everything is fixed, it's about time to. I never had the above issue with Femdombride because i consider you a DOCUMENTARIAN instead of the director...as you said, you focus and suggest, but i haven't seen you say "now i need you to do this to him." or "you need to beg Louder and with more feeling for the camera, randy". You, in essence, rock ~k
Will check out femdombride, thanks for that. But I think the reason literature works better for me is because its easy to put yourself into the story in the subs position, which I can't do with video as it so much more removed as a medium. I think i have read most of literotica, I have not found anywhere else recently but would also appreciate any recommendations
reality in our mind I think we all have a certain feeling or want in our mind. Our imagination is very powerful but at times when it comes to reality, we get let down. I really think it is a normal response. Having said that .... I wish I too could find more things I have in my head to watch and to learn from.
I agree, most is overacted, the only videos I have found to be appealing and fun to wartch are the ones with REAL lifestyle couples and REAL Dommes, not just actresses to play on screen part time. You can see it immediatly in everyone's eyes who is not into the scene. The overdone oooh's and aaah's are always annoying to me and I tend to want to rech in the screen with duct tape to stop the forced noises. My husband and I have been making BDSM adult fetish video for about 2 years together and have really noticed the difference in working together verses hiring models/actresses for scenes. Our content together is what really sells and I think its because of the fact that we are so into it and its real for us. Its not just some paycheck to us, its our life. Realism makes all the difference inthe world. May be what is missine in a lot of BDSM porn.
In the UK, a company called Dom Promotions makes some good DVDs of female domination and male submission. I thought their DVD "The Slave Chambers" to be very good; lots of CP, e-stim, ball busting, foot worship, bondage, breath play, pegging, and a nice messy cumshot; the obligatory money shot.
Ok, lets look at this from a different angle for a second... Instead of pointing out what is lacking in femdom porn on the market currently, what do people actually want to see in femdom porn? What would make a DVD or clip download actually jump out at you for you to buy it? What would be the most satisfying femdom porn you could buy? M
Interesting direction - I have a few thoughts: I really like the concept that men "fight" for the right to have sex with a woman, like rams fight to mate. I saw an old mainstream porn clip where men arm-wrestled and the winner got to have sex with the woman, making the mating itself based on the worth of the male. To turn that on a FemDom theme, the men would have to really fight hard and perhaps the woman allows cunnilingus but doesn't actually allow pleasure for the exhausted "alpha male". I am turned on by having to "earn" my playtime with my wife, and even when I am the perfect husband, I am still denied just so she can exercise her power over me. I would like to see a MFM situation where the men are not allowed to come. Perhaps they are both locked in chastity, but the focus in any case is specifically on female pleasuring. I've never seen something like this. I would like to see verbal abuse, a woman telling a male he can't fuck, has a small cock, etc. I am sure i could think of some more ideas, but I have to go!
Funnily enough, I do not get sexually aroused by pornography. Not even fem domme porno. I do like watching some porno though, but it does not turn me on. What would I like to see? Ball busting Chastity and the wearing of chastity devices, hard throbbing cocks inside chastity devices, etc Clothed females and naked male slaves Nice ladies wearing floor trailing long glosss PVC dresses E-stim and torture Violet wands Water sports Objectification Humiliation Small penis humiliation CP CBT Sexy female feet, with painted toe nails, toe rings, stick on jewels and in sexy sandals (perv!) Foot worship and foot rubs Ass worship At least one very messy cumshot, with lots of male groaning Anal sex
Mistress Vixen is reputed to be very good. And a very VERY good friend of mine (The Man with the Lobster!) has recently starred in one of her films "The Pool House", so that one should be doubly good! What would I like to see in a FemDom porn flick? Me!!!!! LOL Stinging Nettles E-Stim Verbal Humiliation Foot worship, with lots of food, mud, muck in general being eaten off them (but then I know where to get that in real life!) No fake stupid talking by the Domme... get over yourself already! Oh - and red ants, I'm getting a thing for red ants lately!
Femdom porn can be horrible or it can be amazing. The key for me is the enthusiasm of the Domme. A very verbal woman who is clearly enjoying herself and exerting her dominance in a way that lets you know that she is for real makes for the best scene. If the woman in the scene is not saying much and looks to be going through the motions, it is not even worth looking at. wannabe slave d had a great reference to Maitresse Madeline. January Seraph's CBT videos are some of the best. Back in the day, Skye Blue made such good scenes that I don't know any better. Mistress T and Penny Flame are good at what they do as well.
I don't particularly like female on female porn but there is one particular scene in The Fashionistas where Taylor St. Claire dominates the heck out of Belladonna. HOT HOT HOT!!! There are a few other female dominant scenes in an otherwise "mainstream" porn feature. I use quotes because most reviews will try to warn you that it is a more hardcore than most... but certainly nothing that this forum would find extreme. A lot of the rest of this particular movie has a fair amount of male dominance which frankly I don't go for (really don't like to watch a male slap a female.. gives me the creeps). But the sex and the story are quite good.