Feeling trapped

Wouldn't sex be so much more fulfilling if you got to know this woman first (and ideally formed some sort of emotional bond beyond mutual attraction) rather than jumping into bed at the first available chance? You might feel trapped, but I feel like your device is doing you good, even if it isn't what you want. Hopefully your ex cares enough about you to give you what you actually need.

 

I don't know how I feel about having an ex GF to hold you key (and even with money being involved). but that's between your ex and you, so best of luck with that situation.

Now on with the new girl story, you think the girl you fancy fancies you, that's good. She left you three messages that morning like you mentioned. I mean, yeah, you left a very very good impression and she is interested in having your company, but "horny af" is.. I don't know, perhaps you are jumping few too many steps along the way.

On a side note, Holy Trainer for that long period without taking off is health concern.. it's a closed device with very little breathing room. I really hope you get the key back asap, and avoid getting infection or anything.

I am trying to not come across critical, but it's just a tad bit hard not to.

 

Wasn't it you who stated loud and clear that "you are not looking for a new girlfriend since you couldn't satisfy a woman" or something in those turns in another thread? And you also stated that the fact that your KH does exactly what she wants and that is what you love about her and that is what makes her so Dominant? And yet here you are topping from the bottom and asking for the key. So basically you are only submissive and in chastity to her when you don't have anyone else... *looks at you up and down and shake My head, turn around and leave the room*

 

William, as they said : as you made your bed so you must lay on it.
Make up your mind.

 

LOL, I really think he's just looking for drama. As you said one moment, he's paying his ex to keep his key and crying how she's ignoring him. Then the next thing you know he's in another thread hoping to get his key back to get with some new girl. Sounds like he's pretty high maintenance.

 

I have to be honest, I don't believe a word of this. Sorry.

 

Ask your ex for the keys as you want to see how things can work out for you with the woman you met.
If she is supportive of you she will give ou them if not get a strong and wide pair of pliars or better still pincers and just force the lock open. remove lock remove device sendd for new lock .

if you are genuiine about all this good luck... if not we're done here and hopefully you will unsubscribe.

 

Make sure you tell your new girl right away that you are into chastity

 

I respectfully suggest that you do NOT.

See if you and the lady in question consider each to be keepers first. Then work on establishing a relationship and if thats working then slowly and very gently introduce TTTWD. At the onset of this youwill attempt to tailor it to fit you. That's a mistake. Its about making it worthwhile to her ... getting her interested and motivated .... and you may well end up with a relationship dynamic you were not originally looking for... which may work better for you both or not... you have to take your chances.

 

I prefer to be open and honest with my kinks early in a relationship. So as to not mislead anyone. Like, say FLR. You can tell a potential partner that you think that type of relationship is best for oneself.

 

"Open and honest" will at least be the correct path eventually. If you really hit it off, you need to come clean. Kinks do not go away, they may smolder, but are always there. Mine stayed dormant for several years, I wish it had not.

 

Well he stated: "maybe I can start dating this girl who likes me and leave my chastity fetish behind!"

 

Not to be disrespectful, but he's either uncertain and experimenting or in denial, you don't "leave fetishes behind". Not for long anyway

 

Then maybe he should just get the key or get himself out and see how things go with the new lady in his life.

Though I tend to agree that fetishes kinks whatever you want to label TTTWD rarely go away for very long and certainly extremely rarely permanently

 

This is just getting stupid and ridiculous sounding.

 

The holy trainer is a plastic device. If you want out of it it's really not hard to do - with a hot bath, some patience and a little effort you can be out and not even damage the device.

Make your mind up - do you want to be locked by your ex or date the new girl - it's your choice.

 

you either go for the girl you are after or not. giving your key away, is just a sign you are not ready or can not face rejection.

get your key back. talk to the girl and say what you like.

its 50/50 she may like it and be your new keyholder and bring your dreams true. or not.

if she does not like it, then she is not the one.

be honest, be true, then you can enjoy.

in my personal experience: i love pegging, the very first and i mean the very first chat i had with my key holder i told her i want to be pegged. i did not scare her away. 7 years in (new kink idea), i wanted to try chastity and she is with me their too.

 

Me too feel the same way William

 

Your locked, you want to be unlocked, you get unlocked, you get locked again, you want to be unlocked, the lock falls off, ?

And I thought I had an exciting life. I’ve been using the holy trainer key and lock with my other metal cages for a few years and I’ve never had this issue.

What do you want, now that your free, stay free and see where this new relationship goes. You can always keep yourself locked when your not with her But Keep The Key Yourself. I’m almost positive that as this relationship develops she’ll understand and want to hold your key. Than the cycle can start over again with someone else holding your key.