Fantasy versus reality.. Be careful what you wish for!!

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by truecuckold, Jan 25, 2019.

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Did you have confusing and negative emotions when your chastity and denial became a reality?

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  1. Yes we had such emotions in the begenning.

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  1. truecuckold
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    For years I've had the fantasy of being kept in chastity and to be sexually denied. I was day dreaming about it, even when I had sex with my wife I was dreaming of that day when I would be completely denied sex. I had many chastity and denial pics and videos. I was even praying to be a chastity slave one day.
    Then, 4 months ago my wife had an affair with her colleague from work and she cut me off sexually completely, even now after she broke up with her lover.
    Few days ago, my wife talked to me and told me that she never wanted sex with me, and that she was forcing herself to have sex with me, she doesn't feel sexual attraction to me for years. And she said that this was the reason why she cheated on me and wanted to leave me.
    She told me that we can stay married if I accept that our relationship will be asexual. That we will have a sexless marriage. We can share everything in our marriage, share the bed, do activities together, and everything except sex . So, we will live mostly as roommates.
    We are in a D/s relationship. So, I'll be her asexual slave. She said that this was her dream for long.

    Strangely although this was my dream and fantasy for years, when it became a reality I got scared and frustrated !
    I haven't had any kind of sex with my wife since 13th of September 2018 . So, for more than 4 months. She doesn't let me even kiss her or have oral sex with her.
    So, I'm in real chastity and denial for over 4 months.
    I feel I really miss sex with my wife. I miss kissing her and touching her.
    Also, I have all kinds of negative thoughts like : does she deny me sex because she doesn't love me anymore? Does she still have feelings for her last liver and want to keep herself for him? How come her feelings changed suddenly after 10 years of marriage?
    There is something exciting me about being denied sex and kept in chastity. It was my desire for years.
    But at the same time when it became a reality I felt confused. I miss sex with my wife and I'm afraid that her denying me sex might be a sign that she doesn't love me anymore.
    I was wondering did anyone here had such feelings when chastity and denial became a reality? Did you have these contradicting emotions? And how did you overcome such emotions?
     
  2. Nicoftime
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Chastity has nothing to do with you being an asexual roommate, any partner that wants you to remain a slave to her, without sexual contact or intimacy, and also wants you to be chaste is pretty much an ass and should be dumped as soon as your lawyers office opens.
     
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    Welcome to today's fantasy. See the OP's posting history for the same ol', same ol'. Then ask yourself why this woman married the OP in the first place. Bear in mind she was supposedly sexually active with other men before and after they married, but not with him. Who does this in real life?
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    It’s right up there with
    She forces me to give men blowjobs
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    She made me show her sister and now they both use and discipline me
     
  5. Billus
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    Billus Laconic.

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    Don't forget "I woke up with my penis caged and now I'm her sissy."
     
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    Looks to me like you got what you asked for. You asked to be chaste and denied and now you are.
     
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    KatlynAshe Busy busy busy

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    That sounds like cuckolding without any interaction... which in my book is cheating. I would leave that relationship as well. It doesn't sound healthy or kinky in a fun way at all.
     
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    I'm one of those people who are of the opinion that there is no wrong way to "do chastity". Except I'm afraid in your case! It couldn't be more wrong! I would get out of such a marriage as yours! But I'm not you and only you can decide what to do. Sorry for being so negative.
     
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    My wife denies my orgasms, but we have sex multiple times a day. We wouldn't have it any other way.
     
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    Sorry but this reads like fantasy rather than reality.
     
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    It is reality. And my wife insists on it. Actually it was my fantasy for long. But when it turned into reality I felt confused!
     
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    “She caught me masturbating into her panties & forced me to wear a chastity cage (which she obviously kept for such emergencies and just HAPPENED to be such a perfect fit for me!) :-O
     
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    "She had me sign a legal document that transferred all my assets to her, so I'm penniless." Or, "She had drawn up a legally valid document that meant I was forced to become her slave!"
     
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    Ok. So I will set aside my scepticism and assume that this is a real situation.

    In that case this is not a case of give and take. This appears to be one sided and reads like the start of the end for your relationship. This is not chastity within the boundaries of a loving marriage in my opinion.

    But look on the bright side...you have the perfect online name.
     
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    “And then she and her lover, Winston, tied me up in the den and she put the baby monitor next to me (?? We don’t even have kids??) and forced me to listen to her and her lover at it and she made more noise than she EVER did with me.. I think I went to sleep after her lover’s 15th cum!”
     
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    A married couples sex life evolves continuously. After 32 years of marriage my wife and I have gone from backseat petting, through many stages of kink from vanilla to current real life chastity, panty cuckold. We love each other dearly and it has been a loong road. Exhibitionism at a adult drive through where men would look in our car windows and stroke openly. Some cheating by both of us, lots of toys and fantasy roles play and now our current play time. Obviously we are no longer spring chickens but we are healthy, in love and comfortable with our lives.
     
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    I am not to sure that this is a good idea.for even slaves had a reason to live.
     
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