I am a male in my mid 40s from Melbourne Australia who is increasingly interested in being submissive. I discovered sex and erotica early through porn magazines but did not have PIV / lose my virginity until I was 19. At university I had a close friendship with a number of guys with whom we would discuss sex and over the years we transitioned from talking about our vanilla relationships with our partners to beginning to discuss more kinky ideas that we would like to try. Most of the ideas revolved around D/s and mostly maledom. I had discovered femdom while reading Variations Magazine and it fascinated me not that I told my friends. Moving forward many years and having had a number of partners whom sex was hat not far from vanilla I finally settled down with my wife. We have been married now just over 15 years. She knew of my porn collection and has been a little adventurous but still the relationship has been essentially vanilla. The "cheating" I have done is online porn which she knows about. What she is unaware of are the toys and female intimates (mostly panties) I have bought for myself. What I hope to introduce her to, in no particular order is: chastity for periods of time (days, weeks or maybe months but not permanent) ruined orgasms orgasm edging milking cross-dressing in the bedroom / private. It may be I have to go to work with panties on but not be exposed to vanilla outsiders she to take the majority of decisions in our relationship oral service pegging CFNM when we are alone attending a Tea Party or similar with those in the lifestyle The above may or may not happen and some may be a fantasy that one or both of us once experienced do not enjoy. This may all be realistic or not... I will just have to see where this goes.