OK so where do I start? I think with the awful news. So after reading @Mascara^Snake ‘s thread about super short cages being the fashion I really, really wanted one. I was wanting one anyway to have a device which is more snug and invisible under clothing but after a long conversation with her (thank you) I decided to go and buy one. I ordered it from dhgate and was extremely excited. It finally arrived yesterday but to my absolute dismay it was impossible to get into it. I tried everything - I even bruised my penis trying to squeeze into the ring at the back. Hilarious pics are available. Back to the drawing board though. I still don’t have a device I can for example wear to work. However there is also good news on the horizon! I met a Domme on another site and have been chatting quite a lot. I am meeting her on Tuesday for coffee. I do hope there is chemistry and we hit it off but I am nervous as hell. I suppose really I was hoping for advice for the above two problems? First are there any suggestions for a small and short cage? I want metal, I think with an integrated lock. I want it for comfort, security and invisibility. I am happy to pay for quality after seeing the cheap Chinese one, it doesn’t look too sturdy. Secondly, the meeting. As I said I feel like it’s a first date. In a way it is. It’ll be my first D/s meeting. I do not view this as just a fantasy, and nor does she. We spoke about everyday things - music, compared pjs etc! But I’m wondering how to approach the meeting. Should I bring her a gift for example, or is that too forward and presumptuous? I am already giving her the non fitting cage to add to her ‘collection’. Please any advice?
Congratulations on finding a Domme, I do hope the meeting goes well. I would advise just be respectful and be yourself. A small gift would probably be appreciated, I have been brought wine, sweeties and my favourite, Lush bath bombs. I am sure anything like that would be a very nice gesture. Sorry to hear about the device, I know @lockit has a small device which we use for fun, maybe he will be able to help you with your questions in that regard. Good luck with the meeting, I will have my fingers crossed for you on Tuesday.
This is why I love the Mansion. I can throw a couple of questions out and within minutes someone I don’t even know is offering advice and wishing me luck. Thank you @Mistress Jules.
@verne well if you cant get the little cage on you its not big enough is it. what you has to do is measure you so that you can have the ring fitting cos you has to squeeze into it cos it don't open. then you put your willy into the cage and bring it down to the ring and then put the lock in and if you cant get the cage down to the ring then the cage aint long enough so you has to get a longer one.
I have found that some members get excited when trying on a new cage. This of course makes putting it on very difficult or impossible. Have you tried getting it on when you were absolutely soft? Also, although the manufactured cages are not custom, most offer different sizes. For example a cage that is super short on dh gate or Amazon will have a similar device but the cage is longer by one inch or so. So keep your eyes open for something that is a bit more your size.
Well until then I thought I was smaller than average. The ring was 40mm and I struggled to get one ball into it. I’m thinking 50mm might be more realistic. This is the device I tried: https://www.dhgate.com/product/new-...w-steel-chastity/393034650.html#s4-9-1b;searl @Nicoftime I’ll admit I was excited at first but I made sure to calm right down before even attempting it. The base ring wouldn’t even go all the way down the penis. I think this one was rather too ambitious for me. Would any of the more experienced fellas in here have a recommendation? I’m skeptical of the security of non metal devices. @jemima I love the way you write . I don’t think it’s the length of tha cage necessarily but the diameter of the ring.
Yes. I managed to squeeze one through with a lot of effort. I then tied a lace around it to try and give room for the other but to no avail. I had to give up in the end.
40 mm is pretty narrow. 45 took a month of me wearing a 50mm. So a 50 is a good place to start and you can get a smaller one if needed.
No, it seemed like a good fit, but was a little loose when it was hot, and it tended to cause discomfort after it would slip down the sack further and get stuck there. I went to the 45 and although seemed tight at the beginning, was perfect later. Every one is different though, lucky these things are pretty cheap, and it will really nice to fine tune your needs with these devices before spending money on a custom one.
Given the price of the device it wouldn’t hurt to order one at 50mm and one at 45mm. Even if you can only get into the 50mm one for now I can almost guarantee that after a few months you will probably find you can change to the 45mm ring. The size of the ring is limited by what your testicles can fit through but you need it to fit snuggly. Too tight is very bad and too loose will fall off.
Also, the inside diameter of th cage (tube) itself makes a big difference Going short is the way to go, but when squeezing your penis in, it helps when you have a bit more inside width