evolving from self lock to key held

Good evening. I have owned a cellmate chastity cage for a few months and enjoyed self locking for up to 24 hours but I would really like (I think) to have the lock controlled by a woman.

I don't think it is just for the kink, I think if my penis and orgasm was out of reach I might perform better as a human being. So I am reaching out in the hope of finding some interest from someone who would like to help me explore the psychological and spiritual development that could occur from me giving up control.

Ultimately I would like to have my entire body and mind remodelled through submission although I think that might be rather an ambitious dream.

thanks for reading, I hope to hear from someone.