Enforced chastity & its growing popularity

Why do you feel that it is acceptable to force pictures of your penis on to individuals who did not consent to see them? That we're on a site dealing with fetish content does not constitute implicit or explicit consent. This isn't even your thread but you've co-opted it to be a place where you can get your jollies off while pretending to be chaste.

 

Sorry didn't mean to offend anyone.

 

Personally, I would love to have a keyholder in a loving, trusting relationship. I would welcome 24/7 chastity if it pleased her as a fun way to bring us closer together in all things, not just the bedroom. I imagine the satisfaction in being able to please her sexually, or otherwise, then playfully seeing if she produced the key, or not. What fun! I would love for my satisfaction being in seeing her smile.... nothing more. Unlock? Sure! That would lead to other fun too .... !

 

I think 3/4th of what is on the web is lies/ fantasy. I hardly believe most of what I read. It's a fetish, I enjoy it.
As long as everyone is happy, cool.

 

I think the male chastity device is likely to be as common as the vibrator because of the Orgasm Gap. Here's Psychology Today:

In one study examining about 800 college students, a 52% orgasm gap was found. That is, 39 percent of women and 91 percent of men said that they usually or always experienced orgasm in partnered sex. This study didn’t ask the context of the sex, but another study with 15,000 college students found that the orgasm gap is larger in hookup sex than in relationship sex. Still, in college student committed relationships, there is still a 17% orgasm gap. Strikingly similar statistics were found in a survey of about 3,000 single women and men in the U.S. ranging from 18 to 65 years old. When having sex with a familiar partner, women said they have an orgasm 63% of the time; men said 85% of the time.​

And after more discussion...

So, why do lesbian women and women masturbating have more orgasms than women having sex with a male partner? Because there isn’t a penis involved. And why is there a gendered orgasm gap in heterosexual sex? Because there is a penis involved.​

Then...

The Main Problem: Culturally, we overvalue penetrative sex. ​

There's other research elsewhere suggesting that a significant minority of women don't get anything at all out of penetration, or even find it uncomfortable (thogh there's another minority who love it).

A good proportion of men have submissive fantasies, so a sexually active woman is increasingly likely to encounter a partner interested in chastity, and those suffering from the orgasm gap are likely to acquire the kink themselves.

 

I think it is becoming more popular and will continue to do so . With every generation gender stereotypes are becoming blurred. Boys are less likely to feel the need to be macho men and girls less likely to be timid And submissive. Girls are now growing up realizing they are equal to boys and in most countries they out perform boys in education, they are taking a more prominent role in our governments and businesses . Boys no longer see girls as inferior in any way .
I have seen in my teenage sons how accepting they are of peoples life choices and sexuality. They will have grown up with access to a wide range of sexual material , far more that just the playboy type magazines that were about all that was available in my teen years .
Years of social media use means they are more open about their relationships.

the cheap and easy access to a wide range of devices make entry level chastity for play an easy thing to try . Hope it carries on this way as we are not here for long and we all deserve the right to be happy in how we chose to live .

 

i totaly agree with what you ve said and if we could take this a little further imagin if women were the dominant spicies and all world leaders were female i realy dont think we wouyld have anymoor world wars id like to see a world were women rule and all men are kept in chastity a bit futureistic i agree but i truly belive the world would be a far better place

 

That’s a nice fantasy but some of the most ruthless dictators were women.

My problem is most women in politics act like men. So instead of getting the benefits that female bring to society we just get more of the same.

The good thing is that as more women take leadership roles, hopefully they’ll stop acting like the men. Once the majority of women in power feel safe to be themselves then I know we will see major changes in how society is governed.

Now don’t get me wrong. It’s in process. It’s just not happing overnight and it’s not a magic cure.

 

yes got to say i totaly agree the reason women in polotics curently act in a moor agressive way is becouse they are compeating with men

 

https://www.psypost.org/2020/11/new...r-animosity-towards-political-opponents-58680

Note: The second part is talking about women as a whole (at least those in the U.S.), not just politicians.

 

I definitely had a masturbation problem which was accompanied by a porn problem. What I noticed about myself was that I’d be sneaking off or using whatever alone free time I had to pleasure myself. My wife and I had been together for 11 years at that point and although we very much love each other and have a fantastic relationship I felt like our intimacy was faltering. She had our child about a year and a half before we discovered/started chastity and she was having some anxiety and mild depression issues that were also impacting our intimacy.

As luck would have it I happened to be looking at porn when I happened across some chastity related content. I was so intrigued by it I started reading up on the kink as well as some of the other lifestyle things that can accompany chastity like FLR and femdom etc... There was something so compelling about chastity that just seemed so right to me. I introduced the idea to my wife and she wasn’t very keen on it at first, me trying to explain why I thought chastity would be good for us wasn’t going well so I bought her a book titled Male Chastity. After she read the book she was enthusiastic about locking me and she has been on board ever since.

That was well over 5 years ago now and we are happily in a female led marriage. My problems I mentioned earlier are nearly non existent, yes I’ll still view porn on the rare occasion and I have had some unauthorized orgasms but overall my unsavory problem is a night and day difference from where it was at before.

I never realized I was a submissive male until discovering chastity but it all made sense when I looked back on my life. Chastity is definitely growing in popularity and I’m sure many people who don’t consider themselves submissive enjoy playing around with chastity but I think the main increase in popularity is that submissive men feel more comfortable admitting to their partner’s that they have a submissive side. It seems like main stream media is calling for and created a desire for “softer” men which in part might steer women towards more submissive males in general. Just my opinion

 

While locked in chastity, you will watch more porn .

 

I disabled between chastity my KEYHOLDER and this forum i have been able to stop watching porn

 

My porn watching is way down. I even stopped going to bdsmlr.

 

Mainly because I realised I was quite selfish when it came to sex or sexual intimacy.

At first I didn't really try to do much about it, but over time, as my Partner/Domme found her dominant side and I found my submissive side, we grew into a FLR and it became natural to focus more on Her in every aspect, and chastity became something we both found interesting.

She loves the idea of controlling everything, including my orgasms, and I eventually grew into completely focusing on giving Her the best orgasms I possibly could without penetrative sex.

Of course She still does allow me to have sex with her, but I'm so much more in the frame of mind to please Her more now then myself.

 

I still watch porn until it’s too frustrating, as I can’t orgasm. But overall I’m an attentive , affectionate and helpful husband . I only want to please my wife in the bedroom and want to help her around the house .

 

I hope,
male chastity is very useful for woman, and keeps male mind away from sex
is not an easy challenge, but internet help our woman to be aware about out power and how much chastity can help

 

I've only just reset my personal commitment to chastity through simple self-discipline at this stage as I don't currently have a partner but I feel masturbation has defiantly been a roadblock for me in establishing a relationship ... I definitely feel more focused energetic and creative in chastity!

 

That used to be the case for me when chastity was a fantasy , lock for a few days then toss my self silly. The last couple of years when I've wanted it to be a reality, when I've wanted to save my sexual energy for my wife , porn has become less relavent. I'm now more interested in finding out more about why I desire chastity and how to keep my wife at the forefront of my thoughts .

 

As for me I was caged by my old Mistress, And it wasn't my choice to be caged. I was told it was for my own good to be caged to make me a better sissy slave for my Mistress. The only way I could get out of the cage was to learn and do whatever I was told to do. If I spoke out of turn or didn't listen I wouldn't get released for a long period of time. And if I was good I could sometimes have some playtime. And if my Mistress had to go out of town for work I was caged to make sure that I would still listen while my Mistress was gone. So I would do my best and listen and do whatever it takes to be good sissy. So being caged kept me focused on my Mistresses needs not on my little clitty. I don't watch any porn or read any porn magazines anymore because of the pain while being caged I would rather not have.

 

I can't say I have experienced "enforced" chastity yet. I have convinced my vanilla spouse to hold the key, with hope that she would eventually realize the full impact of holding that key. So please forgive my unqualified response.

For me, this is mostly a sexual fetish. However, my primary purpose for writing is to say that, for me personally, porn is a non-issue, unless you include reading erotic stories as being porn. I do enjoy reading well-written erotica of specific types. I enjoy that even more when I'm locked up.

The semi-non-sexual aspect is that my primary love language is acts of service or serving. So while I don't consider myself a fully submissive person, I do enjoy the idea of putting my wife's desires before my own. "Enforced" chastity appeals to me as a way of enjoying my wife expressing her sexual desires without having to be concerned about pleasing me. In my opinion it is a way for her to appreciate herself unencumbered by self-doubt and concern for me.

Is that fantasy? Unfortunately it probably is but I love my wife and I know she is trying to comprehend this crazy fetish. I have a much higher sex drive than her and she worries about that. I hope that I can help her to eventually understand that even though our libido don't necessarily match up, she literally holds a key that allows her to relax knowing that I cannot (and would not anyway) pressure her for more than she is comfortable with.

My fetish leans toward long-term denial, so when she's not "up for it" for any extended period of time, I'm still getting pleasure in the form of never-ending arousal.

This response will probably be criticized for not directly addressing the OP question. I just felt the need to express that pornography does not necessarily have to be a primary causal factor in choosing enforced chastity. I would certainly hope that mutual interests of keyholder and locked mate lead to this path. It has been said over and over anyway: if both partners don't have some level of passion to explore this, it is probably doomed to failure in one way or another.

 

It's absolutely not about submission. A submissive man does not need a chastity device to be submissive.

The real reason is that chastity (wearing a device or even thinking about it) makes men horny.

People have always been interested in kinks, but chastity devices have only recently become widely available, affordable and reasonably well engineered. As others have already mentioned, this would not have been possible without the Internet.

 

I think it's also/alternatively about gender.

 

Perfect observation! I appreciate and agree to your views. I fact male chastity should become a mainstream activity and all females should keep their partners locked and under their control.