Enforced chastity & its growing popularity

I definitely second that.

 

You are all overthinking this one I think.... Chastity is more wider spread now due to a people finding out about it through the internet. It is the only reason it is more popular (popular is a funny word to mention given that it isn't popular at all in a general sense).

 

what youve said is the most powerfull words ive heard for a very long time ive been very aware over the years that my cock made so many of my decisions in my life. directions my life has gone in in and so many aspects of my life ive even discust this fact with a frend years ago we were both away of this fact . i truly belive that if every man was kept in perminant chastity the world be be a far better place and men would have a far better and enjoyable life in a FLR marriege

im votting you for world leader

 

100% true..

 

The Internet has made the concept more widely accessible, even unavoidable, if one pursues information about kink at all. The availability of Chinese devices has lowered the cost of entry to a trivial whim. For as little as ten or fifteen dollars, one can give the experience of being locked a try.

By comparison, while I felt drawn to kink for as long as I have felt sexual arousal, I inferred the existence of chastity through references to female chastity belts in historical (usually comic) fiction, the occasional dirty joke, perhaps, maybe in my 20s I saw a male belt for the first time, a high end leather and steel device of dubious hygienic quality, priced far beyond my means. By then I had long been trying to delay or deny my orgasms, punish erections, and so on. I had performed body piercings on myself, including a range of genital piercings, using home-made needles and jewelry (it would be a decade before the bans on piercing were lifted in my state). I was in my late 20s when the CB2000 debuted, a pioneering but flawed device that carried a hefty price tag for an experiment, at an age where such sums of money were metered out cautiously.

Had I come of age today, I would have probably been self-locked in a PA device 24/7 by age 25, at the latest.

 

Lots of great insights here, but I think @Mistress Sabine St. Jack was pretty much spot on from the beginning. Her only error -- perhaps from her youth -- is to attribute men's problems with their cocks to internet pornography. Our problems existed long before the internet or freely available porn. The problem is in the nature of men -- erections. The combination of frequent erections and a sociology of patriarchy -- which is, not to doubt, enhanced by most porn -- creates what I have called an erectile narcissism. And for those of us -- most of us, I think -- who then fall into daily masturbation the problem is doubled. Between erectile narcissism and frequent masturbation the need for intimacy or openness with our wives or partners decreases, and the sociology of male dominance -- what some women call toxic masculinity -- strongly teaches us not to be emotionally open or sharing lest it be seen as weakness. In the words of @Trisha-KH "men's nature and our society never let them speak openly." Chastity allows us to see the role our erections have played and allow us to accept and understand how pathological our closed emotional upbringing has been. Or, as @Mistress Sabine St. Jack puts it, "taking away [the cock's] influence is the quickest way to reset their focus and rebuild a healthy relationship with their cock. Enforced chastity encourages men to reevaluate their sexual motivations. Chastity allows men to confront how often they think about their cock, ... and how much they’ve lost because of their cocks' destructive desires." As @Mistress Janie says, "most men are controlled by their cocks in almost every aspect of their life. They may claim or believe otherwise, but if they were honest with themselves they would realize that their cocks control them and govern most of their thoughts and/or actions. Once we take that control away from them by locking them up they become entirely different, much more docile and more willing to serve and submit to us, and become much better sexual partners."

 

I so agree with this post.
Tell us how we can educate more wife’s and girlfriends so we can put the relationship back in the right order.

 

I often wonder what sex education would look like in a more enlightened society. Chastity would obviously be a major theme, but there is so much else. Should we teach teenagers *everything*? How would it work? Would it happen in school? Or would it be a custom for enlightened parents to give their kids a sexual encyclopedia of some kind when they turned 18, or whenever, and then embrace the inevitable discussion of their own habits?

I can imagine a society in which teenage males would find a belt or cage they like, one with a good fit, and then keep it until they found themselves in a relationship in which they start to talk about having sex. If they decided the time was right he would put his belt on and give her the key. It might be a ceremony. Perhaps they would have a party, inviting all their friends. And their parents.

 

Lots of opinions going on here, I feel it’s a combination of everyone having access to the internet, and things crossing over from one genre to an other, and also with the world market driving costs down devices it has made it more affordable for people to give it a try.
I remember when madam discovered male chastity and wanted me to be caged, there was nothing cheaper than £130 now I can get the same cage off eBay for £15! It’s made it a cheap kink to give a go.

 

I think the growing interest in male chastity is due to a number of things. I don't know that it has much to do with the internet. Certainly the availability of so many CDs has made wearing one much easier.

I was first interested and turned on by chastity in my late teens long before the internet really existed.

I think a lot of men like to experience power exchange with their wives/gfs because of the decisions and responsibility they face every day at work. A woman holding your keys has the ultimate power.

Men are driven by their cocks and the need to orgasm and it is a relief to have that removed. So you know that you can not just masturbate and have an orgasm. I think many men are ashamed that they spend so much time playing with their cocks and need and welcome a woman putting a stop to it.

Then I think as men get older many have ed and so the wearing of a CD disguises that. Additionally straightforward sex in a long term marriage or relationship gets unexciting so the "kink" of wearing a CD livens things up.

Unfortunately not many women yet know the benefits of male chastity, let's hope that more learn about it and implement it. But there is a need for key-holders to not forget their man is locked up, they need to remember he needs you more than ever.

The rise of feminism also no doubt plays a role in the increasing popularity of male chastity, an empowered woman is highly attractive to many men and it is good that these women feel it is their right to control their man. There is never an excuse for a man ignoring his partner and it is right that men play their part in the household chores particularly if the woman is working as much as the man.

 

For me, I want the tether, the connection with my lover. I find that the act of her keeping me locked for extended periods reminds me of my desire for her, and to be honest, the longer I have worn it, the more I hate that I have to take it off to give my body a rest.

We have been exploring chastity play for more than 4 years now. Currently, we have now worked up to a duration of aobut 5-6 weeks of continuous wear, with perhaps a one week break before resuming, and during that break i now (almost) don't even care if I climax or not; I am so addicted to the feeling of sexual denial and prolonged arousal that I almost don't want to cum, because cumming means that the need is "reset", as strange as that sounds.

The most intriguing modification in this last year was drilling a hole in my device so that a stainless steel cable tag, like they use for shipping containers, can be threaded through the hole in the lock cylinder, to prevent any tampering without accountability. While I have NEVER cheated out of my device, the fact that now it would be impossible to do so without her knowing has really amplified that my penis belongs to her. It is very very hot. And there is also something very powerful to having to watch her cut-off the cable lock with a cable snips, before using her key to release me when the time comes to give me that break.

I am now investigating whether i can find a device that has no welding on the bottom of the cage, so that my skin does not become tender and I can endure an even longer uninterrupted period of containment. We shall see....

 

I believe more men are realizing that they have a problem. They have a problem with porn, intimacy, and how consuming their cocks urges are. The majority of men who experience chastity (in my experience) have an issue with overwatching porn are unable to experience intimacy with their partner

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“Can I see your panties?”

“No. You’re detoxing from porn. Recalibrating, remember? You don’t want to regress do you?”

“Yes.”

“Yes what?”

“Yes I want to regress.”

“No,” she said, laughing.

She lay down next to him on the bed and propped herself up on her elbow so she could speak down to him.

“You’re detoxing from your obsession with physical sex, and focusing on emotional intimacy. On our deeper connection. How long has it been?”

 

I suspect there may be an increased interest. It seems to me the younger generation are better in touch with their feelings and less likely to swallow the macho bullshit that my generation did - what it means to be a man, how you have to be tough, hide emotion, all that crap. That may open up a more honest debate between men and women, and in that environment discussions about chastity will be possible.

 

For me chastity is the exchange of power letting her be in control that attract me with chastity. Will agree some wrote chasitity improves need for porn the need to get stimulation visually and think more about sex than usual. Think the growing popularity is the fact that it's more acceptable for woman to be strong and in control maybe more men is attracted by this role reversal why the kink of chasisty has increased. Hope more women would take control this way. Since put men in the right mindset.

 

We do it because its enjoyable. She loves keeping it locked away only to be used when she wants for her enjoyment. She hates the refractory period, so she is slowly becoming more accustomed to longer periods between unlocking and or orgasms. She is also no longer weirded out by the strapon. She loves that its all about her.

I enjoy the constant state of arousal and the control my wife has. It also fulfills my main kink of power exchange. As for porn, I am constantly more horny than ever and I love having an insatiable sexual frustration, so I dive into more porn now. Although it has shifted to more real life, reddit style porn.

All in all, we both love it and love how our relationship has evolved because of it. We communicate better about everything now, more than ever.

 

Chastity is helping reconnect with my wife. After kids and life married couples start to drift. In my personal experience when the drift starts my penis takes over falling into bad habits and sets a relationship up for issues.

Locking up my penis shifts my focus to the one person who can provide the attention I crave. The real connection comes when she realizes the power she wields.

 

For us, its made me a better more considerate. attentive husband, as for my Wife She has blossomed and boosted her self-confidence, which is wonderful to see.

 

There is no one size fits all answer but most men are desperate for their partner who has sexually abandoned them to remember that they have a penis and have sexual needs.

On a separate but related note, male masturbation is a relationship issue. If you look at it as one solely created by the man, you're not part of the solution. While men are not blameless at all, women need to realize that they train their men over time to not come to them with their sexual needs and that doing that doesn't mean they just magically go away.

 

i think you hit the nail on the head your so right

 

I think we live in a world where sexuality, gender and these traditional categorisations are so old fashioned and no longer relevant. At the end of the day, chastity is about giving up control, learning to be obedient to the one you chose to give up your orgasms to. It’s a conscious choice to let someone else take control of your sexual life and desires.

Yes the side effects could be better sex, a better husband, more disciplined men, but I don’t see chastity as gender relevant. A man can give up his chastity to another man for instance. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter who you or your KH are, your age or gender/stereotype. It’s all about choosing to give up control to someone else and to be obedient and loyal to that person.

I think a purely feministic view on male chastity is too superficial in that sense. It’s deeper. It’s respect. It’s trust. It’s connection. It’s play. It’s passion. It’s submission and yielding control both to your own desires and to your KH.

 

well said and I agree

 

I suspect it is not very popular at all; I would be surprised if I have ever met a man in a cage.

Most men will likely never even consider putting on a cage. That said, they would probably help many marriages/relationships.

I do like that my wife finds me to be very special for accepting the cage and becoming sexually submissive to her. Outside our house I am an alpha male (men/friends/male colleagues tend to turn to me for advice/leadership); she likes that I learned to do this for her. She has said she would have never wanted a submissive man, but an alpha man made submissive to her is very attractive.

 

I found out that abstaining from orgasm (even without chastity) for longer periods (seven weeks at the time of writing) brings back deeper feelings of love for women, not sexually triggered. This may sound weird, but that's the way it goes for me. At the same time, as a gay slave, my longings for discipline by a Dominant Master are increasing greatly.

 

Enforced chastity it's a wonderful Life don't you just love it. And will we ever get out. Do we really want out ! !

 

This is my absolute favorite comment because I think it completely epitomizes the true purpose of enforced male chastity, which is to empower women! Yes ma’am, I completely agree with everything you said, we need to educate more women about chastity and link chastity to feminism!