Enforced chastity & its growing popularity

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  1. Mistress Sabine St. Jack
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    The interest in being kept in enforced chastity seems to be growing among men, why do you think that is? I am curious to hear from both men and women/ those who are locked and from those who do the locking.

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    As always, ladies first. Here is my answer:

    I believe more men are realizing that they have a problem. They have a problem with porn, intimacy, and how consuming their cocks urges are. The majority of men who experience chastity (in my experience) have an issue with overwatching porn are unable to experience intimacy with their partner or are clueless about how to have a healthy relationship with their cock.

    Men are disconnected from their sexual selves because their focus has shifted from cultivating intimacy to satisfying their cocks vile desires. Men can no longer nourish a healthy sexual relationship with their cock. Locking it up and taking away its influence is the quickest way to reset their focus and rebuild a healthy relationship with their cock.

    Enforced chastity encourages men to reevaluate their sexual motivations. Chastity allows men to confront how often they think about their cock, how often they watch porn and how much they’ve lost because of their cocks destructive desires.
     
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    The more I'm caged the more I watch porn
     
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    Just to make sure I understand you correctly, you're saying your cock is so consuming that even in a locked and physically restricted way you need more porn?
     
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    i feel that chastity has made me a better friend and companion, and a wonderful maid, and that will be the case with my future Mistress once i've found Her.
     
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    Chastity is one of my many fetishes. I realize I may sound conceited, but I don't think I need it as a tool for improvement.
     
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    It has helped me be a better husband
     
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    In my case, always since puberty I had submissive tendencies, my cock is small and I was always ashamed of intimidating a vanilla woman and that she made fun of and told everyone about me.
    I feel more comfortable and better assuming my role as a beta male.
     
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    I am a better person locked and porn is less and less attractive as time goes on. I think my journal explains pretty well the change over less than two months.
     
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    Don't have answer for overall growth in enforced chastity, but personally it just fits so well with my desire to submit. Especially to submit to a woman who knows her power. Ideally this would be within an intimate relationship but such woman are rare and not all subs are so lucky.
     
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    Hmmm, an interesting query. The first gal to suggest chastity for me wanted it on because she wanted remind me that for the moment that thing between my legs didnt exist. instead all intimacy between us was entirely for her enjoyment. After she had left me and i went back to being single, i wore chastity on my own, when around the house and or sometimes to the super market. I believe for myself it also is the continued prevalence of feminism, which for myself and I believe for alot of men has returned a desire to be more submissive, something that society for as long as i grew up wasnt as accepted- within family or in public. Its beginning to switch the other way, and I can say i like it that way haha.
     
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    I think that a more open attitude toward sexuality in general has enabled many to explore things that were taboo just a few years ago. This has lead to the increased popularity of kink, and so male chastity and femdom have come with it.

    Whether this is a real shift in societal attitudes or just a kink remains to be seen, but I certainly hope that it's a positive development toward acceptance of feminism in broader society.
     
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    I relate. I enjoy being horny as much as orgasming and recently find myself watching porn to drive up the horniness. It has changed me so much that I prefer to orgasm in my cage vs. without, prefer anal than PIV. Perhaps chastity is not as "enforced" as it should be with me. If she actually took the keys and hid them and hid the dildos perhaps I would think about chastity differently.

    Things are definitely different now.
     
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    We just enjoy it! Once Mrs Chaste got "into the swing" she actually decided that she really liked the idea of being in charge. So now I am chaste at her insistence. 24/7 and as close to 365 as we can possibly get. And we have great fun. Who would have believed that me not being allowed to cum could bring so much pleasure to both of us!
     
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    Not write so much now , but ..... You can allso reverse it ,....one way
    Time are going and busy life , couple together tired and social around netflex - not so intimate - not so often sex , and if ..it's the quick one ......? He fell the women don't notice his cock anymore - But the guy still need his hormone and start look porn / mastrubate more ..... (And if it's a older man he need longer time before the need for the women after an O )
    The hormone off sex is different man/women
    Put man in chastity and both have a responsible for make the play running ...and as long he is in a cage his mind is in sex all time , don't get drops in hormone / fell more in love and intimate
     
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    Enforced chastity makes me focus on her and her lovers pleasure more intensly, and give both her and him equal attention as they need it. It makes me crave for serving and be my best.
     
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    I guess I can only speak to my feelings, but it deepens the emotional commitment as a submissive to give over the trust that goes with it. I think by nature, a lot more men prefer to be submissive than what is on the surface in society.

    It's a not really about the porn, per se, but in watching it now that I am in an FLR it tends to bore me, and seem scripted versus real life, real love, real friendship, and really doing, and in some cases, far outdoing what they do in the porn.

    It's a power exchange in a private world in which the roles can be safely reversed without judgement from both (in my case) a Domme and a sub. As much as men may want to be chastised, it takes a partner that wants to hold that trust and power, in return. A case could be made that more and more women prefer chastity, as opposed to having to deal with pattern male behaviours like being flirtatious, engaging with porn and live models online, and even infidelity.
     
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    Very well said, I certainly agree with you!
    In my experience, most men are controlled by their cocks in almost every aspect of their life. They may claim or believe otherwise, but if they were honest with themselves they would realize that their cocks control them and govern most of their thoughts and/or actions. Once we take that control away from them by locking them up they become entirely different, much more docile and more willing to serve and submit to us, and become much better sexual partners.
     
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    As is the case with most sexual kinks, there is no one answer. If you asked the top 25 male posters on this site, I'd bet you'd get something close to 25 different answers.

    Having said that, my reason for entering chastity was that our (my wife and I's) sex life had grown cold as we entered our late 50s. Plus, I had problems with ED as we'd gotten older. We stumbled upon chastity while looking online for new ideas, and it seemed interesting. In fact, it's been a major plus for us, sexually. I've written many posts about that on this site, so feel free to look up my messages for more details.
     
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    I think you are spot on Mistress Sabine St. Jack! The internet age brought free and endless porn and I took advantage of that to the detriment of my WIfe. I always felt guilty about it, and I know my Wife was angered by it. When we started bringing chastity into our marriage, we both quickly realised that it provided a way to get away from that and focus on each other.

    Now that I am in permanent 24/7 chastity, I focus most of my free time on Wife, I try my best to make her life pleasurable and give her a lot more free time to do the things she enjoys, not chores around the house.

    Since she doesn't have to concern herself with orgasms for me, her enjoyment of sex has reached a new high, she's become quite open about what she needs and when she needs it. I am also paying Her back for all the pain I caused her watching that porn and masturbating by myself, by offering her my balls for punishment almost every day. At first she was hesitant, but I have found she has grown into enjoying that particular role a GREAT deal!
     
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    I like your suggestion of it resetting our unhealthy relationships with our cocks, I’m only 4 months into chastity but couldn’t agree more. I’ve recently convinced my KH to allow me more time out of the cage for the simple reason it’s become too normal now, around the 3 month mark I no longer felt the cage, the tension, the frustration. But at the same point I don’t need orgasms near as much as I thought I did, from 2-3 times a day to now maybe 2-3 a month. The cage is now more symbolic of my KHs ownership than preventing me from using my cock, I no longer have those urges even while being uncage and only await my permission.
     
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    The information age and advent of cock cages have certainly incrrased EMC popularity.

    And I agree that it enhances intimacy and has encouraged me to reevaluate my sexual motivations. Im a better person for sure. But I dont think I had a "problem" before, I was very normal for a male. Indeed, I never watched porn or surfed any sex related sites previously.

    In this sense I view chastity as a sort of "enlightenment" if you will. Yes, it frees me from my natural closeness to my cock, but that doesnt make me a bad person (then, or now).
     
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    I am much more focused on my fiance. I notice little things about her that I had forgotten I loved. I'm patient enough to give her sexual gratification on a level not possible when my cock was the center of my universe. I have more energy and my mood has improved ten-fold. In short, I'm a better lover and all-round human being.
     
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    I can relate to everything that you say in this post @Pretty Monnica especially about the porn. You put it so well. Thank you.
     
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    Talking about us, our relationship has improved after Chastity a lot. It is not that there was a problem earlier. But earlier there were many things that he did not understand. I have also got to know a lot of things about him after Chastity(cause men's nature and our society never let them speak openly).

    So now answering your question..

    We spent a whole generation to empower Women. but didn't teach men how to live with the empowered woman. Actually most of men are clueless about it and we can't help them(currently). And I have seen many relationships are ending because of silly reasons. In many cases enforced chastity would've worked. so in my opinion we need to educate more women about chastity and also need to link chastity with feminism.
     
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