Emergency keys

You sound like you have a well established position that suits you as a couple and I am considering what you say. In the final analysis, perhaps it's that mindset that is appreciated the most by a female leader. The cage is just a form of guidance for the mind, with the end point being a pure and breathtaking submission. My best wishes to you both x

 

Again, we didn't just get there overnight. It took several years of figuring things out. I tried really hard to just let her take the lead on this, and she eventually found her groove and made it her own. She trusts my judgment on being unlocked for bike rides, and doesn't want me chafed (which might need me unlocked for several days to heal). And also, with the hills around here there's no way I'm going to sap my energy by having a wank before I go... and when I get back I'm too exhausted to even think about it.

That said, except for medical or travel reasons, I'm always caged, and I have developed such a good mindset that I'm able to resist temptation. Besides, now that I'm on a roll, I don't want to break my streak. ;-)

 

Time out could be more of a punishment. Apologies for not referring to @Brielle as her, I wasn't aware. I'm sure, like most ladies you know what is best for us, better than we do. It is in my case lol

 

Sap your energy with a wank @Tom Allen ? You wouldn't last 3 seconds. Lol. But seriously though. Twenty years. Wow. Did you ever cheat, back in the past. And if you did, how long did it take you to trust yourself, as it were? I ask because, I'm 10 months in and I have had a few mishaps, she knows as guilt makes a man confess. I think as time goes on and Mrs Jah gets more comfortable in her new role, and our communication gets even better, I will have less subfrenzy moments where I weaken in my resolve. Sorry to hijack the post.

 

We have a spare key - its in the safe. I don't have the code or the override key. If I needed access I could call Mistress for the code. We've never had to use it. The main reason for having this was not for an emergency, but more to save my embarressment when I was called to the local hospital for treatment at short notice.

What would you consider an emergency? And, if you were in the emergency situation, would you stop and consider the cage or go get treatment first? As others have said, every emergency room, the fire service, ambulances have ready access to many different tools, saws, bolt cutters etc. that scale from removing a ring to taking the roof off a car.

My own personal circumstances have changed and I doubt now that Lady C would unlock me for such a minor thing as a medical visit - "you wanted chastity, you've got it, now live with it".

 

No. Once Mrs Edge took the keys, I never did. Personally, I really enjoyed the low-level simmer of arousal... and even now, I enjoy that sensation too much to even think about cheating.

 

I tend to view an emergency key as similar to a safe word. It’s there if you really, really need it but you would use it at your own peril because if used and it wasn’t in an emergency, it would be regretted. That being said the decision rests with @Ms C.

OTOH There are probably very few times that would constitute a true emergency where the KH could not be reached. Embarrassment or humiliation would not rise to the level of being an emergency. Just my $0.02.

 

I was unaware of this....She has your back, give her the control she deserves!!

 

I'm an expert with a Dremel, and I would never, ever let a Dremel get anywhere close to that area of my body. Power tools a scary things. You know what we call people who aren't afraid of power tools? Amputees.

 

Always have a Plan B, because Plan A never works.

Iso.

 

I guess that is yet another way of solving the spare key problem.

 

My wife insists a spare be kept with me at all times for emergencies only. I am in a Rigid model 1 and she has a piece of wire passing through the burg warner lock and secured with a numbered security seal. She verifies the numbers on the security seal daily. So even with me having a key she still has her peace of mind and security

 

I’m in complete agreement with your approach. A spare key, in my opinion, would just be too tempting to use when a man is sexually frustrated and desperate for relief. 100% submission means the lady gets to decide if and when to grant relief or whether to harness that sexual frustration for something else.

 

Madam has 2 sets of keys, one is kept in her purse at all times, and the other is kept at her mothers house, in case of loss.

 

I used to have a laminated key and n my wallet. She kept hinting that I would use it whenever I wanted. I replied that she would end up knowing since it was laminated on a card, she said “yeah, but you could still unlock it anytime you want”

For her it wasn’t about trust or detection, it was about control. She didn’t want me to have any when it came to that. Once I had a cage that was perfect, wasn’t really a big deal to give her the other key. I’ve only called her once in 5 years and ended up not needing to be unlocked.

If I truly felt uncomfortable with the situation, she would have been fine with me having an emergency key, disappointed but just fine.

Stick with what you both are comfortable with.

 

I have a key hanging in a hook in my closet always. My BR has access to it always. We have been living with chastity now for a number of years and I am 100% confident he would never use it. I believe having a key our men can access forces them to choose this life and their path daily. It builds trust strength and resilience. It is a powerful message having full access yet always choosing to submit to this life and my will. Access to a key is pivotal in shaping our dynamic and the chastity relationship we have built. Hiding a key and playing a bullshit game of hide and seek is not something I will engage in.
If you want this... great commit. Don't ever cheat though I won't accept that and I won't accept weakness.

 

Can confirm.
We have the keybox 2 and used it a lot.

 

We taped a key to paper money, signed it, and took a picture.
We’ve also put a key in a little manila pocket and she signed it.
More recently I bought custom numbered stickers we’ve used a few times.

I used to carry a security screw driver in keychain pill bottle. I did this for years and never used it in an emergency.

After several years of secure comfort in my chastity, I just stopped feeling I needed an emergency key. So I don’t carry one at all.

If you’re uncomfortable, I do think carrying one is appropriate. You together can make something fun out of the emergency key.