Embedding my rules

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    When I have him edge in front of me I have him agree and repeat the rules. He is getting pleasure and at that same time he is agreeing and repeating my rules. This links the rules with pleasure. It really works it it takes a long time to be really useful.
     
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    Out of curiosity...."can you tell us your rules" BTW the link to your tumblr site does not appear to be working.
     
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    That's interesting. I can see how linking those two could be powerful for him, and likely makes him feel very submissive- to have to associate his delightful feelings of near orgasm with rules that you want.

    We have done something similar but also quite different, which appeals to both of us.
    My wife isn't into inflicting much pain normally, but she does like her simple rattan canes.

    So She gets me in a position and says it's time to do my rules.

    She strikes with the cane, and I say,
    "One, ........" (rule one)
    Then she will often comment about how well or not I've been doing with that rule, and give an example. If I've been doing poorly, she'll often say we need to do that rule again, and strike again.

    We currently have 9 rules or so, and they are mostly about how I should behave and what I must do well to keep her happy. They cover a wide range of things she cares about.
     
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    Love your style on this! I've implemented similar strategies... Thanks to your great post, I'm now daydreaming about them. :rolleyes:

    When I edge him inside Me, it never takes long for him to get close. There are countless stop-and-go moments in between... A few seconds for a break before continuing on so I can get Mine. Sometimes it's quite clear he wants to let go, but he never asks. So I do.

    "Do you want Me to let you spill?" is typically met with an exasperated "yes!"

    "But this ride would be over if you did. Is that worth it?" warrants a somewhat delayed reaction as he tries to compute the conflicting emotions and sensations coursing through his mind and body... But he ultimately arrives at a desperate yet obedient "no."

    I can't describe how good it feels to then lean down and whisper into his ear the command: "Then beg Me not to let you cum."

    He breathlessly complies, sometimes with frustration and pleasure welling in his eyes, the internal battle quite evident... And it's likely one of the most delicious sensations I've ever experienced. There's no telling how many times I've gotten off to this.

    After I'm done and our mutual highs run the course, he always thanks Me for denying him... As he says obeying My rules and seeking My satisfaction gives him more pleasure than an orgasm would anyway.

    Music to My ears. :love:

    Thank you for bringing that visual back to mind. I think I need a cold shower now. :)
     
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    I can tell you the rules- it wil take a little time - I think there is a rule or relationship agreement post and it would be best for me to post them there. The web site is his but I told him to make it. The link is http://iloveitwhenshe.tumblr.com/
     
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    You said “Do you want Me to let you spill?" is typically met with an exasperated "yes!"

    "But this ride would be over if you did. Is that worth it?" warrants a somewhat delayed reaction as he tries to compute the conflicting emotions and sensations coursing through his mind and body... But he ultimately arrives at a desperate yet obedient "no."
    That was really good.
     
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    Ah yes, taking pleasure out of someone else’s frustration, the hallmark of a well-balanced personality.

    And here I am talking pleasure out of giving pleasure to my wife, silly me.
     
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    Are the foundations of tease and denial not built off of enjoying the frustrations of your partner in one way or another?

    You may not be a fan of tease and denial. Doesn't mean the rest of us agree and it certainly doesn't mean someone's personality is flawed like you suggest.
     
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    OMG! That is so wonderfully hot! Thank you!
     
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    A delightful idea! As I develop rules for my toy, I will probably borrow this concept.
     
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    A well deserved response. And if I may say so, I do not agree with the sarcasm directed @Breathe and her informed and eloquent writing either. Every word is a gift, a simple thank you will do. But I think we know the root of such a petty reply, lol, jealousy!
     
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    Sure thing, @loricat. :) Thanks, sweet pet and @beck. Although, in his defense, I've never claimed to have a 'well-balanced' personality...

    Probably why our marriage involves a power exchange. ;)
     
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    She used to do this often, and remember her saying it was hot getting me worked up enough where I would beg to finish and then get me to beg to not finish. Both states take awhile to get to for me...I’m stubborn lol! And just getting me to admit to either was a bit of a power trip for her.
     
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    I would love to see some others list of rules.
     
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    If you search this site for rules you wil find many posts
     
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    By a long time I mean repetition. This sort of session needs to happen many days in a row to become embedded.
     
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    He made that graphic for me. He has my face like a meme and has rules written on them like above. When he gets excited but he’s locked he has a folder and it has his “picture rules” in that folder. He looks at them over and over. He says it helps. He also sometimes puts a towel in his mouth and licks it. If that doesn’t work an actual cold shower helps him. I am sometimes a great distance away and we have tricks like this to take care of his urges. I like the picture rule folder he made. It has my face and a rule which is a good thing for him to be looking at.
     
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    I agree with the premise that "Repetition is the Mother of all Learning".....Interesting to note 'however' that "repetition " is really not used as a teaching tool in schools anymore. Maybe they should get back to using it. :)
     
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    The first rule of @Dogchasecats is if you are a guy not to ask what the rules are.


    One should already know what the rules are
     
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    He does- but saying and agreeing to the rules while experiencing pleasure links the two. Rules=Pleasure is the message the brain receives. With repetition the brain makes this connection stronger. A actual physical link becomes thicker and thicker. It is a better thing for someone to want to keep the rules because they bring pleasure than keeping the rules because they bring punishment. Actually in our relationship both are true. However I would rather have him keep the rules because he gets off on keeping them.
     
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    That is almost like how Pavlov trained his dogs to drool at the sound of a bell ringing, he may start dripping at the sounds of repeating the rules.
     
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    Call it manipulation or training regardless of the name the process works.. positive and negative re-enforcement of desired behaviour. May start out as mutually accepted 'fun' and lead to something far deeper that is still appreciated by all concerned.

    Food for thought.

    You play with his penis the way he likes most whilst he repeats and assimilates your rules and learns what is desired behavior.
    You are in control.

    He repeats the rules and behaves as you wish and you play with his penis the way he likes most.
    Is he now in control?

    Does it matter if you both get what you want?
     
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    My wife has a spanking block, it is a antique from South Africa. She has 3 leather straps. I know the ruels and obey , because I'm afarid of the punishment.
     
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