Dressing the part on an everyday basis...

Perhaps something as simple as your choice of jewelry or handbag... You can make quite a statement with either and pet will always know the significance even if no one else does. I would stick with comfortable otherwise... It just seems out of place to wear a bustier, leather skirt and high heeled boots to campus (but wouldn't that make you the talk around campus and instigate some intense fantasies?)

About sleeping in a t-shirt - does pet wear the satin nightgown? :bigsmile:

Hopefully, someone else can be more inventive than I am.

 

I feel kind of uneasy offering you advice, Mistress Watchful. I'm only 4 months into this and I have gained so much from your posts. However, for what it is worth, in my case, I rarely go for Domme gear all day - occasionally at weekends - but I always wear something all day that reminds me of what I want to be (yes it is me that wants to be there now & not just him that wants me to be there !). That reminder is entirely for me - although I know he is very well aware of it ! I have a really comfortable leather bra that is not at all visible providing I don't wear a white top - and even then, if it is a thick enough top, it just looks like any black bra. I don't wear the matching knickers because they are not so comfortable to wear all day ! The strange thing - and I can't really explain why - is that, when I am tired in evenings, if I don't have it on I tend to feel disinclined to put more gear on and go for a tease session (unless he instigates something that gets me turned on) but, when I have it on, it seems to serve as a reminder to sort of spur me on. I wonder if it's the smell of it - because it's pretty new and I get a regular whiff of leather. Who knows - but it seems to do the job !

It sounds like your home & student life gives you more distractions but you've got youth on your side. I wish I'd come across this many years ago !

 

That does sound sexy... Way to go! That'll keep the other students looking.

 

Mistress Watchful, dollyanne feels that a Princess is still a Princess and a Domme is still a Domme whether dressed in silks and satins, or denim and cotton. It is true though that there is certain "power" clothing and accessories that makes a Domme feel more like a Domme and brings out the submissiveness in men, subs, and sissies, and that power attire usually involves leather, rubber, boots, heels, etc.

But it is probably different for each Domme and sub. For dollyanne, something as simple as an anklet would be a powerful reminder, especially if a charm dangled from it like a chastity key or something. A ring, bracelet, or necklace could do the same thing. Even a certain pair of earrings. And, of course, heels and corset are powerful, though not practical for everyday wear!

For your pet charlotte it may be something different. She has confessed to having a minor foot fetish, so something relating to the feet might convey that power. Maybe the anklet that dollyanne mentioned, or a toe-ring, or certain flambuoyant toenail or fingernail polish would be a powerful reminder.

Dollyanne would also be affected by a leather belt that was sometimes used to render a spanking! Just seeing You wearing something like that would put dollyanne into a submissive mood immediately! And, maybe wearing such a belt would help You feel more Domme-like too! Especially, if You occassionally used it when pet charlotte misbehaved!

Just a few lame ideas from a sissy gurl.

Curtsey,:manga_angel:
dollyanne

 

Dear MsWatchful, perhaps this can help a bit...

Mistress rarely wears 'scene clothes' at home and when She plays/trains me. typically She'll wear as comfortable clothes as She sees fit, but She loves to dress 'in leathers' when She, or W/we go out to clubs or have F/friends over to play in the dungeon. but i'm the one who's expected to wear a maid's outfit (serving uniform, dress, or corselette and apron) suitable for my serving position at home!

 

This IS where it is at for most men. Confidence is sexy with out a doubt. You ever look at an area of people and sort them out? There will always be the blonde, thin bombshell that men gravitate to. Ever wonder why she does not have the same guy each time you see her though? Then you look at what I call average people like you or I (we could always improve type) You will ultimately find that one girl where you look at and wonder how in the heck does she have That! guy or vice versa of course. Ultimately it is confidence. Fake or otherwise it is there. You notice as a male your odds of meeting women increase when you are in a relationship, why? Confidence is high and you are not looking (hopefully) therefore there is this ability to be yourself. Look deep within Mistress and you will see you already have what you need.

Now in clothing all have offered great ideas. At uni find yourself what we here in the US call a Power Suit. Fits perfect in the campus but tells pet " I am the boss" Believe it or not it will tell others as well you are a force to be reckoned with. Put two powerful CEO's in the same room, male or female and put one in a power suit and one in casual business attire and people will automatically assume the former is more approachable but the other must be in charge. Have no idea but I studied with behavioral specialist for 8 weeks in the FBI. (Long story PM me f you really want to know) It is just odd.

Now make no mistake about it. My wife could wear a pair of jeans but put on those sexy 5" heels and I am butter. If I get to see her getting dressed in the morning "knowing" what she has under the clothes say a corset, etc can be powerful. So it goes without saying that what is known by pet and not seen by others can have the same effect. I do hope that helps.