Dominant woman who doesn't know she's a dominant

Yes I’ve met many alpha women who weren’t in the lifestyle.
I’m not sure how you make them aware of it.

My thought is some sort of anonymous email but how I’m not sure. And not sure how that would impact you except negatively if it was ever traced back to you and things went bad.

On a positive I’ve been talking to a friend of mine who knew about bdsm who is now interested and interested in raising awareness of female dominance. So who knows maybe we can find efforts like these to help more women know about it and why it’s a lifestyle to consider.

 

I think many women are alpha but society teaches/keeps them in traditional roles
Would it be possible to leave some literature where she could get it w/o being traced back to you

 

Perhaps a typed letter in an envelope, slipped.under her office door at the end of the day

 

I agree
But don’t forget there are many people who don’t consider themselves kinky who do some light play every now and then. Blindfolds, light bondage with scarfs and ties, role playing, sensation play etc are all things “vanillas” do and don’t realize are “kink light”.

Or as I kid, are the gateway drugs to BDSM and what I use as a kink pusher to convert vanillas.

 

I know quite a few alpha women in higher management positions, and a few them of are sexually submissive. One can't gauge sexuality preferences based on gender or professional views. I was close friends with one who was like I own the world everywhere .... but the bedroom ... you own that.

Women want to feel safe, respected. They want to lead and do and experience, but a hyper majority desire a partner in crime to do the dance with. This range covers a large swath of normal, where if one looks at it they can say "hey" .... master/slave .... and they will say "say what".

Great examples of this are rural and country equestrian women. They tend to own the 1000 lb plus animal, and dealing with a man once they handle say horses ..... isn't much different.

As for my friend, she didn't get how I could be a switch. In the end for me it was due to two nasty traumas, a mix of very traditional upbringing, and not dealing with shit.

I now understand things very well ... but it is shit I wish I didn't experience ... but it is what it is.

A lot of women if they knew about chastity ... would probably jump at it, but it would actually take conditioning from a young age IMO .... Gen Z women maybe able to handle this; however, I believe given the gender wars and the men just not giving two shits ..... revert back to traditional stereotypes in the end ....

 

I think it's difficult to look at someone's day to day behaviour and demeanour and try to extrapolate from that how they might behave sexually. They're different things. The Me who goes to work every day is a very different person from the Me writing this post.

You never know what's going on in someone else's head.

 

I think there is a broad correspondence between normal and kink self. However, it's more to do with where you get your certainty from. Submissives - like me - can be very socially or professionally dominant, but usually when championing something or someone. The picture is confused, however, by service tops and dominant bottoms, fetishists, and switches who just like their erotic lives structured but don't care which way.

The woman in the OP certainly sounds dominant and a classic case of a dominant woman who - because of patriarchal culture - feels impelled to flip flop between somebody more dominant, which of course doesn't work, and somebody weak, which also doesn't work (because weak <> submissive).

If I were talking to a female friend with such an issue, rather than raising kink or FLR, I might suggest that she needed the equivalent of a wife because for practical reasons alone, there is usually only room for one driven and dynamic person in a relationship. This doesn't have to be a loser, but rather somebody who would champion her and revolve around her while still bringing something to the table. For how this might work, I would point her to the series Castle.

 

Perfect analogy! Our relationship borders on the weekend recreational user
But I’m looking for a new drug!!

 

this and the Honey post are the best two concepts to come from CM in recent memory.

 

@Wonderwomanssub -- You've known this woman for 8 years and are obviously very close to her, talking about her relationships, meeting her BFs etc. Why don't you just man up and talk to her yourself if you think she'd be receptive?

 

If your itch to talk gets the better of you, and you can't stop from opening your mouth.

Ask as a female leader how do you maintain work and life balance and happiness with interpersonal relationships? If she asks further, then you can state you are wanting to improve relations with your wife and you value her views on female leaders in life.

The key thing is to keep it short, sweet, and "listen".

 

Yes indeed. As I think Miss Lucy mentioned, more women could benefit from the advantages of chastity, if only they knew about it and realised what it actually was, as opposed to the porn image of it.

 

Kink pusher.
Love it!

 

Shssshhhhh

Gotta keep it quiet
I’ve brought several vanillas to the dark side. It’s not hard, it does require patience and ability to ask questions, confidence and a willingness to walk away.

Just think if every kinky person got to vanillas to come to our side how things would be.

What funny is most people are kink friendly if you don’t act like a pushy creepy jerk

 

If all vanillas went kink that would make kink normal and vanilla kink

 

You have to help me with me KH.

 

Yes my wife dom kh
Lol when I was finding her years ago she was and is that but she don’t seem to know it and it took years for it to hit her and when it finally did she realized this is good for her and us! I saw all the traits in her and I tried opening her up to it . It took years but we’ll worth the wait for both of us and I am so happy she stuck with me!

 

Hi! One approach could be for the 3 of you to have dinner together (your boss, your wife/KH). During the dinner, take care of all of the details (serving, tending to drinks, clean up, etc). I'm sure your boss will notice the reversals of roles and might ask about it. If your wife is wearing a key, plus the behavior at dinner.. Might provoke a conversation between them because of the subtle messages taking place. Hope it goes well. Can't wait to hear an update. All of the best wishes!! J.

 

Many vanilla Women would be interested in male chastity if they understood the many benefits that accompanies it. The harder parts is how do you properly approach the subject to them as it isn't quite the "norm" just as of yet; however, hopefully in the future someday it will. It wouldn't involve anything sexual at all. Lock him up and watch his behavior change for the better.

 

I think theres lots of Ladys that are dominant .