Does having a small penis make you feel less of a man?

I'm not in the habit of procreating.
An interesting question though.

 

Pardon me Mistress, I had not considered my question anything but rhetorical for the benefit of the dialogue here on CM.

In my experience, once PIV is no longer part of the sexual routine, lovemaking actually becomes more focused and in my (humble) opinion more intimate.

For procreation though I think permission to ejaculate is such a lovely gift for a father to be. I respectfully suggest women strongly consider it if the male is to be allowed to participate in the raising of the child.

 

Hi Jas ........personally I tend to agree with your observations on manliness but I think the underlying sentiment of this thread is that some men feel more "manly" with a larger penis because some women prefer larger penises. Of course if a womans preference is for other forms of lovemaking, then penis size becomes irrelevant and men need other ways to measure their desirability to women. It would be interesting to hear what these might be.......from the women of course

 

Hi Stevepie. Totally agree back, I wish I had a larger penis and I'm pretty sure that I would feel more manly if I did. The part of the statement I took issue with was the 'should' bit. There is no should. The fact that the size of our genitalia should have anything to do with how much of a man we feel like is ridiculous.

 

yes and please Mistress i think that's a good job really.

 

I am small only 3.75" erect and I have never felt like I was less of a man even when I am in heels. I like to say I am "Small & Proud"

 

It's hard for me to say...I have never been a guy with some huge shlong, able to whip it out without fear, or grow with the confidence that comes with living your whole life with one.

But being a man sexually is different than being a man in life. When my son asked me a few years ago "what's a dads job?" I told him that it was to teach you to treat and respect others as you wish to be treated, to give him the opportunity to do as well or better than his father, and to protect his family at all costs. He said " I want to be a dad". Nowhere in that does the size of my penis matter one little bit.

On the other hand sexually speaking, I will never have to go slow, be careful, or hear someone moan with the pure abandonment as they writhe in ecstasy...at least not with my penis. Piv isn't the very boy part of sex, but cannot be discounted as meaningless. My kh for example cums super hard when I use the big toy on her. She has a nice pleasant one while riding me, grinding her clit, but trust me, it's not the same. Since we started all this and vowed honesty, she has admitted as much that sex with my penis is more of a bonding act, or something she does for me. She is fine with it, and we have developed other ways to make her more sexually satisfied than she's ever been. Still, inadequate in the size department does do a number on your confidence and relationships.

 

I wonder how honest some answers are.
Or is only one category of people answering?
Maybe an anonymous poll would have provided a better answer?

Having been on this forum for so many years, having read so many posts, I have a very hard time believing that Chastity is not, very often, about penis size and performances.

Now we can all agree for sure, that having a big dick doesn't make you a better person. But the post talks about feeling "manly".

So here it is:
Sex is a big part of relationships ; PIV is a big part of Sex; Orgasms are the ultimate goal of sex; a big dick gets the job done better.
Big
Average
Below average
Small

Now, that way of thinking can be contested. Actually, each proposition in it can be seen as fallacious. But never the less, it is the the basic conditioning field in our society to this day.
Otherwise, why wouldn't they have porn actors with 4 inches cocks?

Personally, the size of my penis as always worried me. My ability to perform sexually (especially PIV) has been a concern for a long time, and still resurface from time to time; Not that I necessarily believe intellectually that it is important. It is just the conditioning of society, and perhaps even the conditioning of our species (sperm competition).

I have realized over the years that I'm not an exception, but part of a majority of men; even though, as other mentioned, we learn to deal with those insecurities a bit as we grow older.

The silliness of it all can go far.
My penis is 7 inches long when erect, yet I was feeling a bit insecure. It took years to my wife to convince me it was quite alright.
Then once I was convinced...
...she locked me up

 

Perhaps it was the wording of the question. What it is to be a man goes so far beyond sexual adequacy. Maybe asking if it makes you feel less manly, embarrassed, self conscious...like asking a woman with small breasts if she feels less like a woman. There is so much more to feeling and being a woman than her chest, no matter what insecurities that she may have sexually about them.

All that aside, there is a fear that has always been present that others may find out. Public urinals are an art form, knowing just how to stand and angle it without being seen. Public school shower was a task of perfect timing and all about how to look like you are showering yet moving so others don't see. Some have a confidence about themselves around women that I never had. Not to toot my own horn, but I'm a pretty decent looking fella. Most would think I could have dated any gal I wanted. The truth is, when I was younger, I lacked the confidence and swagger that others had, and never really asked. Don't get me wrong I did ok, but instead of walking up to the prom queen and asking her out, I would go to parties, and pick out a gal that I was confident wouldn't reject me.

Yes I could falsely throw out some of that swagger around women...but if the plan is to someday sleep with them, the cat is going to eventually get out of the bag. I'm sure it has a lot to do with willingness to please, chastity, and fear of rejection. One of the nice things about chastity is that I never have to feel like she's doing something she would rather not. I still remember my ex saying those sexy words of "are u in? Ok please hurry". In chastity, Even pity sex is something that is her idea, or I wouldn't be unlocked.

My kh likes me dressed up for domestic service, it makes me more submissive and pliable. It's hard to have an attitude or chip on your shoulder wearing a dress. Same thing with being small. You can strut around all you like and talk yourself up, but sporting a 3.5 inch erection and totally exposed is something pretty difficult to swagger with or feel manly around a female.

 

well i think that 7" is huge i do.

 

Don't worry Jem It won't be 7 inches for much longer if it's kept properly locked.

In fact I doubt very much that any of the posters in this thread will ever be as long or as hard as the heels on any of my shoes.

 

oooh Mistress that funny, giggle.

 

OMG
It's so true.
Locked up we are all equals

 

NICE!

 

I'm less than average in size and have had problems with impotence since I was 17. It used to make me quite insecure and nearly impossible to commit to a new relationship knowing that sooner or later my problem would be found out. It sucks but I've got used to it and penetrative sex is not something that's on the cards now or in the future. We bought viagra and it's sat in the same drawer for the last eight years without being opened. Less of a man? I'm not sure I've ever been much of a "man". I last had sex 18 years ago (weeks before the first chastity arrived) and I'm 44 now. Chastity and submission is the best I have to offer really, and I'm really lucky my wife has embraced it.

 

Makes me more sissy and feminine.

 

I guess the answer is somewhat relative.. if you are not going to get to use it again does its size matter? A possibility that might be creeping up on me.

 

no it don't matter if its lock up cos it stops small anyways

 

This is a question I would've skipped over a year ago and never would have had to answer but in the last year and a half I was diagnosed with Peyronie's disease. For those of of you that don't know what that is it's when your penile tubes are more suceptible to penile fracture in which case when it heals your body develops way more scar tissue than it needs too. Often times this leads too an extreme curvature of the penis making intercourse painful. I got lucky and never ended up with more of a curve than I already had. Where I was unlucky was that I had gone from roughly 6.5 inches down to under 5 inches and I lost some thickness too.

It doesn't make me feel like less of a man and in fact I think I'm hitting certain areas when my wife and I have sex that's actually better for her. When she allows me PIV it seems that I've actually been able to give her more orgasms via PIV sex than before. I never had a small or shrinking penis fantasy like some do here at CM but now that it is smaller than before it does make me feel more submissive and in a very odd way I like the feeling. It makes me want to make sure I am pleasing my mistress in all the ways I can (sexual and non sexual) so she doesnt have any doubt as to why she's with me. Not that a significantly bigger penis would really make that kind of difference to my mistress. I'm sure the majority of women would rather be with a man that was a nice person and treated her very well and had a small penis and good oral skills versus a guy that's hung and a jerk and fucks like a wrecking ball. Of course if you're hung and a nice guy with good skills then you've got it made I suppose lol.

In any case, being smaller hasn't made me feel like less of a man and if anything it's instilled more submissiveness in me. I think lately it might even be why the idea of wanting to be a sissy maid has become more attractive to me. If my mistress really needed a larger penis for sexual satisfaction I would be okay with being cuckolded as long as she included me in one way or another.

 

Does slave now feel less of a man for having been locked permanently for so long that its small/atrophy penis makes it feel less of a man?

To be perfectly honest, YES in one way only however

it is no longer capable of ever pleasuring a Female with it.

 

Gulp!

 

Hubby is 3.5" erect and 1" soft and I know that he feels inferior in the bedroom, which he is. Outside of the bedroom, he is tall and strong and can keep up with the best of them.

 

Since I was younger I have felt like there was something different about me and other guys, it started in school changing in the gym locker room. At that time we had all gone through puberty but I was left wondering when my penis would grow bigger/longer like the other guys. I am 2.5 inches flaccid and right at 5 inches erect, which from what studies have said is average but from my personal experience it is not.I will usually sit to pee even in public however there are times when that's not possible, and while other guys may go up to a urinal and pull their cock out I'm usually fumbling around trying to find mine and get it past the zipper. I've never had a "bulge" like other guys I've noticed and even before I knew SPH was a thing I had been told by a few girlfriends that I was a bit on the smaller side and at first I was embarrassed but then grew to enjoy being humiliated about my size. I've been involved in cuckoldry in my marriage and other relationships and I can attest that the other men were bigger and thicker than me across the board. Does it make me feel like I can't go out and shoot my gun, run around in the mud, race cars, ride motorcycles....not at all. Those are all "manly" hobbies if you will, but at the end of the day when I put on my penis extender to really please my woman it does make me feel less of a man.

 

I understand completely !!! In some odd way....I feel that since i have a beta sissy clitty that "it" should be caged so that women "know"