Does chastity can cause depression ?

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    Hello everyone, it’s not the case of my sub, but I have to ask this question.
    Does chastity can cause dépression ? I think no because I am working on no ejaculation orgasm and it increase more power more creativity as cumming orgasm is called the little death and just for exemple footballer are not allowed to have sex before a match to increase their performance, but if someone does not have contact and does not touch itself, maybe it can have psychological impact ??
     
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    If your locked and ignored it can.
     
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    Certainly can causes mood swings
     
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    Locked and ignored for sure can cause depression. Or at a minimum severe anxiety and mood swings.
     
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    My experience is not depression, but fits of frustration when the lock is on for long periods without release. I am pretty much 24/7 now and I find that after I get through those spots of frustration i always come out better on then other side. If anything, mu energy goes up!
     
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    Frustration is not same things for me it’s totally normal. My sub is frustrated everytime but he does not feel bad about that
     
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    My experience, chastity does not cause depression. I have been locked in my device for almost 42 weeks, and I feel like I am just floating along on a cloud of great feelings.

    And yes, I do get frustrated sometimes and want out of the device, but I know that it will pass. I have been locked 24/7 for almost 6 years now, so I know how it plays out.

    Of course, another person's experience may be different.
     
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    No.

    Depressed people might turn to chastity as a way of curbing their masturbation habit or as an excuse to hide from trying to find a meaningful romantic relationship. People in meaningful romantic relationships can become frustrated by their chastity if ignored by their partner, but they wouldn't be any happier if they were masturbating as the issue is being ignored.
     
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    Psychologically, as others have mentioned, yes he can get depressed if he is ignored. Given the inertia chastity gives us, those lows can be low. If you're teasing him and have an active sex life (having him worship you and go down on you etc), he'll be in heaven.

    But with you're footballer not having sex example, are you asking the physiological effects? If you're just asking can chastity physiologically make you depressed - I don't think so.
     
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    To be locked and flat out ignored like your KH don't give a single damn can be depressing. It is t the same as being denied. Just a tiny miniscule bit of acknowledgement that your locked is all it takes to prevent it.
     
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    footballer are not allowed to cul before match only for increasing their performance. It’s not a permanent state it’s only for keeping their energy and their is no psychological state because it’s not long term. My man is not ignored at all he is teased, and have to worship me each time I am here with him.
     
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    I can get depressed during long stints in chastity realizing a certain part of my personality is lacking. When I encounter certain challenges that I normally grab by the horns and deal with in a resolute matter, in a locked and submissive mindset that capability diminishes greatly for me.
    I become a better sub but less of a man and that can lead to feelings of helplessness and inadequacy that caused mild depression in my experience.
    I am not sure if others have similar experiences, I recovered quickly and with challenges past I prefer the calm mindset of chastity.
     
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    thankyou for your sharing ! And your vulnerability.
     
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    Short answer: yes

    Long answer: very much so but very situation dependent. Oxytocin and Dopamine are both involved in regulating mood and both are connected to physical intimacy and orgasms. When it comes to self image and so on that is a different issue. What does it mean to be a man? Is my penis the man thing? Not really. But then again what the hell is the point if measuring yourself against some arbitrary man standard. What does less of a man mean? A friend of mine had testicular cancer in his early 20s. Is he "less of a man"? If your personality changes in the personal setting try to remember that we are contextual beings. I can yell at the lazy project managers even if I've been in chastity for a month. But maybe I'm different. But to me that is one of the oddest ideas people cling to, that we are monolithic and that our personality is the same regardless of context. I am not the same person when having dinner with my parents as I am when negotiating a contract nor when I'm getting spanked for being late. Be more Walt Whitman. We are large, we contain multitudes.

    But yes. longer periods without orgasms can in some cases lead to depression.
     
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    One could argue that a keyholder that behaves like that doesn't deserve the key. But what do I know.
     
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    @Divine67 My opinion and experience is that not chastity, but just frequent orgasming was (a.o.) the reason for my former negative feelings and sometimes depressed feelings. Chastity is all about keeping the level of men's "chemicals" high. Tease and denail performed by our better halves will then further boost the chemical levels to sky. Result is that after our incidental allowed orgasms, there is no need to climb the "mountain hill" from down the valley, as the continuously raised level of well feeling chemicals will not drop that low. Even in one of my responses about moodswings I have stated that chastity should be considered as a "natural antidepressant" which might not lead to an "addiction to use" like many other medicines does.

    However, I can imagine that reading some story's about "lock and forgot", this may finally lead to depressions. Also the situation might be more complex for chastity fellows who are self locked only.

    By the way, your metafore about footbal makes sense as well, although coaches may consider to put their top performers into chastity not only prior to the match...(LoL).
     
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    i love your answer! Thankyou for your sharing
     
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    Hello Madame! For me, can only cause arousal.
     
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    I find my mood tends to improve when I'm locked. Perhaps it's just the distraction of it all.

    As someone else mentioned though I think interaction with the keyholder is key. If you're locked and ignored eventually you can end up on a downer.
     
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    Chastity makes you hyper-aware of your relationship with your keyholder. If you are being locked and ignored, this can lead to feelings of abandonment and drive you to depression. If, on the other hand, you are locked and being teased, you won't be depressed, though you may become highly frustrated... Being frustrated is a good thing so long as you feel closer to your keyholder and not abandoned by her.

    Self locking, I can't really comment on. It's a whole other animal.
     
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    If you're beginning to descend into depression, you should seek advice. It's unlikely that chastity, or any other single event/occurrence would cause depression. It's generally a combination of things. What chastity certainly does is heighten emotions at times, and that spike may trigger something that's already going on in your brain.
     
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    I get quite emotional when I'm locked for long periods,.
    I get mood swings.
    Like @cogman said I can feel quite down if my KH ignores me.
     
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    I have found a strong correlation (note: correlation is not causation) between submissive fantasies and depression. Actually submitting in real life, not so much - that just makes the blood rush. After years of dealing with depression I now try to actively avoid submissive fantasies. The fact that I'm here browsing Chastity Mansion is a big red flag that I need to watch out carefully for my mental health during this period of isolation.
    It's not BDSM in general that is correlated. If I stick to top fantasies, it's fine.
     
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    Frustration, yes. Intense arousal, definitely.

    At times in the past maybe some slight anger or impatience about my wife locking and forgetting. And perhaps that led to some regret about choosing to be in that situation.

    But while I've certainly experienced sadness and grief at times in my life, I don't think I have ever experienced anything that could be described as depression.
     
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