...or are you looking for someone to provide fetishes for you? Many times I've seen men complaining that their wives are not telling them what to do, but maybe there is nothing for them to do at that time. There is no point conjuring things up just to please men. I've found this with online subs as well, as soon as they are accepted as a sub they are eagerly waiting to be told to do something and they get impatient when it doesn't happen. I tell people to do things when I want them done, not when they want to do it.