Do you have any secrets from your wife?

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  1. L-u-c-y
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    Do you tell your wife everything about every thing? :)
     
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    The longer Miss and I journey down this path the easier it is for me to be open and honest about everything. It was harder in the beginning to confess some of the more taboo fantasies but now everything is pretty much out in the open. Doesn't mean that we act on any of it but the transparency between us is excellent and that has improved our relationship even more. I wouldn't say I've told her everything about everything but pretty much all of it. There has to be some mystery left ;)
     
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    I am sorry to say that i do have secrets from my wife and it makes me feel sad that no matter how i might try and explain them to her she just would not accept or understand why i have them.
     
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    So is it ok if l tell my wife some about most everything but only tell her everything about only somethings?. I'm just sayin'
     
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    I am not married but have been in a committed relationship for a long time. Yes, she knows of my very open minded views on sexuality and kinks. The problem I have is she outright calls them perverted and states I am a freak for having these desires. Honesty and openness are critical in relationships.

    I tell her they aren't all I desire, as I love lovemaking and all the other aspects of sexuality with my partner. The thing is ... I have experienced a lot more in life, and found I enjoy role reversal, and kink, and so many interesting twists and turns, that if done right the bedroom would never be bored.

    I know it freaks her out big time and she has been brutal, but I even stated my love for my partner means if she ever needed to get extra action from someone else as long as she is open and honest with me and comes back with great stories, pictures, and videos and we make the trip about "us" .... game on sister.

    From BDSM tests I actually test out as a true switch, which I have found out is really rare. I am comfortable being the daddy/master, and would also be very comfortable being female led. To some that can be disturbing and disgusting, and to some women or really feminine spirited males (not judging) that could be super exciting in trying to make it a battle of the alpha and sexes.
     
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    My GF and I live apart (right now), so I don't tell her everything about everything. Largely because she'd get bored af listening to it all.
     
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    No. I learned a long time ago that anything that I tell her can and will be used against me in moments of emotional explosion. It’s almost always easier to deal with her outbursts over me not sharing all of my life with her than dealing with the aftermath that comes with actually sharing everything with her.
     
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    I've told her about my fantasies, most of which don't turn her on. The only one that does turn her on is very threatening to our marriage. I'd love to see her in a lesbian relationship, essentially be cuckolded by the lesbian. I know she gets a lot of offers from her friends, but it truly would probably end the marriage.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Let’s just say, I held many things back with my ex.

    Ex

    I learned from experience, now there isn’t anything I wouldn’t share. Although now that we are so open, I don’t feel the need to hide anything either. Trust is so special, I never new how much being yourself and open mattered until I experienced it.
     
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    My wife and I have been pretty up front about everything. I learned from past relationships it's way harder to bring things up the longer it goes on.

    Right up front she knew about my crossdressing fetishes, sexual fetishes and has been very engaging and willing to accept and try all of them as it's a part of me she's always known and loves versus something I have hidden away.
     
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    If it does interest you (the cuckolding), my suggestion is to work hard on building loyalty and strength in the relationship via communication, non-sexual bonding and as many skill building between the two of you. Tackle every problem / issue like it is critical, and when you two are in a good place ... then say ... would you like to try some controlled dating with other women.


     
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    In the beginning I did but as time passed all secrets were told
     
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    I do have secrets.....but I try and justify it by telling myself that I keep this secret to prevent her from being hurt. I suppress Rebecca and sometimes it hurts me, but my wife should not suffer because of my dark passenger, so to speak.
     
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    No. I've always had an honest relationship with her.
     
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    No secrets here, No fantasies that Mistress doesn't know either. We have always been open with each other in this respect, IMO being honest and able to talk helps marriages along immensely among other things.
     
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    Sadly the truth has not always come to the surface recently...
    i have tried to be very honest at all stages of my "discovery" of chastity and the paradoxical unlocking of my femme side..which happened later in life than i would have wished (think i've missed out on decades of fun!)
    From sharing a typical male background of many years, i guess its a shock to hear that your loving husband wants to be locked and dressed en femme from time to time. i can understand that ..and appreciated that she at least let me talk about...but sadly there has been minimal engagement with chastity...or my femme side,...and as time has gone on, despite pleadings talk to others, to look on sites like this or go to a munch or equivalent, the will to try has waned and i now have my own little jane time...she knows when i do but doesnt really mention it..other than a joking comment about "the panties will be on later when i've gone out". Nothing would make me happier than to see her on here adding to the comments..but one has to accept defeat sometimes...and to push it would destroy a loving relationship and i would never want to spoil that...some things are best left unsaid now. Sad but true.
    However its not all bad..i still have a fantastic life and happy relationship...trouble with me i always want more...and life's too short to hold back! lol
    jane x
     
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    My lady is not my wife.... but no. I've no time for falsehood and lies.
     
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    I have many kinky fantasies that I kept from my wife, but now that I'm older, I tell her everything. She is very understanding and goes along with most of it, but I have hit her hard limits a few times.
     
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    I have learned the valuable lesson of being completely honest with my Queen. Yes, the truth does hurt sometimes but the pain dishonesty causes is far more damaging to a relationship. My wife had to teach me the importance of integrity in our relationship as it simply did not come naturally. As an adult baby sissy who is gone from his Queen on business so much I could hide a lot from her if I chose to do so. However as we have learned here, it is our duty to love, respect, and cherish our Queens and keeping secrets by being dishonest should not be tolerated.

    For me for so long I was not honest about my desires to wear diapers. I was unhappy and miserable being stuck in the diaper closet so to speak. Eventually I shared my true feelings with my wife. Although it was upsetting and difficult for her to accept at first the painful truth set me free. One thing she has actually grown to enjoy in our unique sexual relationship is that she knows and controls all of my secrets and all of my vulnerabilities.

    I am still not always perfect. Recently I was caught looking at cuckold pornography without the consent of my wife. While that is not necessarily keeping a secret as I did nothing to hide my transgressions it was not being loyal to my highness.
     
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    I am very open about my kinks to my wife. She has taken an active part in it but not so much lately.

    That being said, I don't tell her everything going through my mind. Or my latest desires. She is a bit submissive herself so taking control of me is not really her thing. Then again she has a bit of a dommy side to her at times.

    So to be clear. My wife knows I have several chastity devices. She has never ordered me to wear them.
    She knows I have some anal toys and only rarely have we involved them in our sex life.
    She knows I have an ever increasing collection of panties and girly items. But pretty much never directs me to wear them but does react sometimes when we are out and she realizes I am locked up and in pretty panties. I think because she knows this turns me on a bit and so it turns her on a bit.

    My wife loves me shaved smooth and wishes I could afford body hair lazering. She does not like body hair.

    My wife likes it when I edge myself for a long time. She loves it when I am very aroused. But pretty much always prefers that I have an orgasm in her. While I prefer to be denied and teased and denied more often than cumming.

    So the short answer is she knows almost everything. Far more than many spouses.
     
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    When we first got married. Yes I did. Now that we’ve been together for over 38 years theirs is nothing that’s a secret between us any more. Most of my secrets were about my sexual interests and things that I’d like to experience she has made allmost all of my dreams or secrets into reality.
     
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    I used t have a lot of secrets. but 2018 all that changed.
    she now knows everything that bounces around in my perverted mind :)
    thankfully she has taken a liking to a few of these interests and is interested in trying almost all of the others.
    exciting time for us!
     
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    My wife knows everything.

    She has known everything for a long time. We are both very open minded and sex positive, so we don’t think anything is bad, wrong or weird...

    Just there are things you’re into, and things you’re not into.

    Thankfully we are often into the same things. Although over the last 8 years, I sometimes wished she was a little more into Chastity, pegging and gender bending; but she has played along a lot, so I’m super lucky!

    Now, she is going back to work, to create a business and has asked me to take care of the home. So there is a lot of what I wish for coming my way :rolleyes:
     
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    My wife knows nothing about this side of my life the internet involvement side she sees all online interaction as out of bounds. For me i see it merely as an innocent way to exchange views and thoughts with similar minded folk who also share an interest in many of the things that excite me inside my head most of the time. Is it wrong to feel the need to interact with others who do not think that the feelings you have stirring inside you are totally unique and strange to just you?. I love my wife sincerely and she tolerates and indulges my passion to a level i am happy with but still i yearn for other input and companionship from similar minded individuals.
     
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