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I need the device, and to be honest I find it erotic to have even my erections out of my control, but there are others here that do not use a cage.

@frankie teardrop i believe has been cage free for a very long time and does so without issues.

 

Hi @Love my wife there are a couple of threads on here about being device free. One of which I started and I found the community (to my mind) surprisingly positive about using the 'honour method' (as in without a cage). A couple of the female users of this site even commented that they preferred it to the cage as it was up to the man to control himself and each day was a struggle he had to conquer to submit to her.

I've been doing a mix of both, to be honest, having found cages to be uncomfortable or even painful at times - particularly when at work. I'm currently on my seventeenth day since I lasted masturbated and most of that was free - although the last five were spent in a cage. I'm starting to feel the duration start to mount now if you know what I mean, but equally there was a stronger emphasis from my keyholder that I should honour her over my desires.

 

I was on the honor system for a few years. I may have lasted a month once or twice. Usually, though, I'd say two weeks was as long as I'd last. At that point I'd think, "I'll just go to the edge and then stop." And I would. But then I'd start again. Eventually I'd "accidentally" come. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. ;-)

 

I think it maybe an age thing, but the older you get, the less likely you are to want to masturbate so much. At least that's what I have found. Add to that an ever growing enjoyment from being kept teased aroused and denied orgasms, has left me positively wanting to avoid having an orgasm, unless ordered to by my Mistress. I still much prefer to be locked and know that even my erections are being controlled in this way. It is the buzz I get from my Mistress actively encouraging my submission by keeping me denied an orgasm that makes me want to attend and devote myself to her pleasure at all times.

 

We did the honor system for a while. At least until it was found that I had been dishonorable! Bought the cage and it is used whenever She is away or at work. Seems to work pretty well and now, I am conditioned to having my erections controlled from the start by the small cage.

 

I would find the honour system much more of a turn on because I coul disobey if I wanted. The tension that would create would be much better for me than simple denial. I say "would" because I haven't had the chance to test it yet.

 

Yes but even although you may slow down on playing with yourself as you get older you still do it! And very true being kept teased and denied really does make you not want to cum! And the fact is that you get your pleasure from her pleasure! I bet that you (like me) enjoy your partners orgasms at least as much as she does!

 

wow very impressive @Chaste J. you said everything that I was thinking about. I'm 55 and I still play with myself not as much as when I was younger but I still do and when I wasn't locked I would give my self an Orgasm at least every week. The Honour system doesn't work for me. To go a step farther having access to an Emergency doesn't always work. I have in the past used this key to unlock myself so I could play. My Mistress never use to keep track of the second key untill about a year ago when she took it away from me. Now I'm only allowed to be released when she wants

To see my Lovely Wife have an orgasm almost gives me more pleasure than having one myself. One of the reasons I'm locked now is its her turn to have the orgasms and pleasure that I enjoyed earlier in our marriage

 

Until we tried the honor system, I thought that DENIAL was a river in Egypt! Then I learned otherwise! LOL

 

I don't actually, since taking this path towards a FLR with my wife, I have now stopped masturbating in secret, and find myself extremely disappointed if my wife insists that I masturbate in front of her. I am not saying that I don't still enjoy the sensation of having an orgasm, but this last only a few seconds. The loss of submissive feeling I get once I have had one far outweighs any enjoyment I get having an orgasm. I get great enjoyment from feeling and sensing that my wife is enjoying my attention and even servitude, especially when she knows the effect her feminine sexuality is having on me. Post orgasm I lose all of that, and find that even my wife pulls back from the subtle teasing and expectations that exist, or at least are heightened, when I am teased and denied, and kept this way by my wife.

 

Oh and yes, I do get more pleasure from giving my wife her orgasms, especially when she denies mine.

 

Despite being a chronic masturbator I have been able to refrain from touching my wee wee for weeks on end when away from my wife on travel and not in a chastity device. Almost all of my masturbation is either supervised or she gives me verbal permission to do so. When she has instructed me to not touch my wee wee for weeks I am expected to milk myself with my pink dildo in front of her into either my diaper or a Disney Princess plate. The amount of sissies I produce is always the proof that I have been a good lil sissy and I am rewarded for my devotion by consuming my milk.

 

I think everyone is different. Myself when I'm not locked I'll edge pretty often but not orgasm.
I actually prefer edging when not caged.
My wife so far has always wanted me to cum before I was really desperate to.

 

Having played wiht many online I can take a cage off if I really feel it's necessary, I've only had one KH really push my limits. During the times free though I do use the honor system not cumming often. I beleive my longest time combined locked / free was close to 60 days between orgasms. I have been keeping traack and only 3 so far in 2018, 2 of those were while I was in the cage!!!

 

I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. Because my wife is gradually feminizing me she demands that I have as many orgasms as possible, ruined or otherwise, in order to drain away my male essence and make me as docile as a puppy. That means twice-daily milkings with an anal vibrator and frequent peggings with a 10" strapon. I am NEVER allowed to touch my penis, which now is the size of a clit (it was tiny, anyway). I must sit to tinkle. If I masturbate, which she encourages, I must use the vibrator. I am much happier cumming this way. She is indeed a loving and wise woman who loves watching the useless sperm dribbling out of me.

 

Amazing how varied our lifestyles are on this forum! And it just shows there really is no right or wrong way to go about things! Enjoy the journey, I wonder where it will end. Keep us updated please.

 

Indeed I will. There are many rooms in the mansion and most are in shadow.

 

Crikes... I’m 54 and still playing with it at least once a day (and that’s just one of the reasons me and the Mrs think a good period of lockup will do him (us!) some good!!!

 

My record is 5 months on the honor system. No problems at all. Difficult yes, but it is difficult with or without a cage. Right now we don’t really practice chastity but have been talking about a year with release on my birthday and Christmas. Wife then wants a cage as it gives her a greater feeling of power. I am hesitant as it is uncomfortable and I am concerned about it being visible under pants at work.

 

Your concerns about fit and visibility are very normal. If you've spent any amount of time exploring the Mansion you will have already read what I'm about to tell you again. If your cage fits properly. Normally smaller than you originally think it will be very comfortable because it's not moving around rubbing against Her delicate property. Also unless your hung like a horse than it's only you that think it's visible to everyone. You may not be able to wear the tightest Jeans that you can buy but speaking from years of experience after awhile you won't even realize that you have it on. It can and will become apart of your Normal Life.

 

Thank you. Any suggestions on a good model that is discrete?

 

When I finally got serious about this lifestyle I knew it would need a foundation to work. For me to be able to build the foundation I had to give up all porn. Once I gave up the porn I started to notice some changes in my thought processes. I stopped looking at women as a sex objects my wife included. This took some time but it was a vital step and without doing it We would have never gotten this far.

Before giving up porn almost years ago I was jerking off every day and some days twice. Now I am able to go weeks without touching myself because my wife has ask me not to. We are on the honor system and I have reached level of submission I did not think I was capable of.